Mhlawumbi umntwana uya kuthulisa ngokuzenzele oku kwaye asebenzise ukulala ngaphandle kwe-pacifier. Kodwa kukho ukuphakama okuphezulu ukuba ixesha lokuziyeka liya kuba nzima kubazali kunye nomntwana kunye nexesha elide ngexesha. Kuyimfuneko ukuba ube nomonde kwaye uqonde oko ukuba umntwana ahlukane nendlela eqhelekileyo yehlabathi elincinci, emva kokuba yonke into enjalo, emva koko ilele ngokulala.
Musa ukuthatha ukungathandi komntwana ukushiya i-pacifier, njengesihluthulelo, kuba asifuni abantu abadala ukuba bayeke imikhwa yabo. Nangona siqonda ukuba ezinye zazo ziyingozi. Ingane ayayiqondi into ebalulekileyo kwaye yintoni eyingozi, nangona unina wayinika yona kanye. Yaye ukuba uyabona ukuba umntwana ufuna i-pacifier, ke ungayithobeli ingqalelo kwiintsapho zakho nabamelwane. Emva kwakho konke, lo ngumntwana wakho, kwaye bhetele uyazi ukuba umntwana ufuna ntoni ngoku.
Ungazami ukutshatyalaliswa ngokukhawuleza ukusuka kwi-pacifier, mhlawumbi kuya kumenza uthuthuke ngokwengqondo, kuba umntwana unamathele kumdlalo wakhe oyintandokazi, kwaye kuye, nangona kunjalo, ukucoca kuya kuba nzima kakhulu. Olu bukhali aluqondakali kumntwana, usetyenziselwa ukunyamekela. Thatha oku ngobubele kwaye uphulaphule iimfuno zakhe.
Akulungile ukuthatha i-pacifier yomntwana ngexesha xa ecela yona. Akufuneki ukuba umcukise ngale nto uze ucaphuke umntwana. Lo mkhwa kufuneka ube "ungaphandle".
Kwaye kubalulekile ukuba ungaphutheli umzuzu xa umntwana ngokwakhe ekulungele ukuyeka i-pacifier, kwaye oku kuya kuba yindlela engcono kakhulu yokwahlukana. Kodwa loo mzuzwana awukwazi ukuphumelela kakhulu. Emva koko, emva koko uya kulala kakhulu, ngelixa belila, kuya kuba nzima ukuzinza nokunye.
Ukukhawulezisa inkqubo yokuluma kwi-dummy, iingcali zeengqondo zincoma ukwenza oku kulandelayo:
1) Ukuba umntwana kwiinyanga ezisi-7 okanye ezi-8 uye wafunda ukusela kwindebe, ngoko kukutya kufuneka kuhanjiswe kwindebe, iplati, i-pearl, ukuze umntwana asheshe ayilibala ibhotile.
2) Musa ukunika umntwana intlama ngaphandle kokuba yena ngokwakhe ucele.
3) Kubalulekile ukuba umntwana akhulise iminwe, angasebenzisa izinto, kufuneka ahlale edlala amathoyizi, ukwenzela ukuba uxakeke kunye nabo, kwaye oko kuphazamisekile kwi-dummy.
Ukuphumelela kukuyintloko kunye neyokuqala yokutshatyalaliswa kwintsana. Yaye le nyathelo ebantwini ibaluleke ngokuphefumula. Izifundo ezininzi zibonise ukuba uphuhliso lwengqondo lomntwana olunyayo umnwe okanye u-pacifier luncedo. Ungesabi ukuba i-dummy iyakuphazamisa ukuluma, akukho bungqina bobunzululwazi kule nto. Yaye impilo yamazinyo iza kuba luncedo ngakumbi kwimpilo yamazinyo kunomlomo kuya kuba nebhotile rhoqo kunye nesiphuzo esiphunga.
Kodwa oku akuthethi ukuba umntwana kufuneka ukuba aqheleke kwi-dummy, kuba abanye abantwana bangakhula ngaphandle kwesi sihloko. Siza kuthetha ngale meko, xa usondeza i-dummy inxalenye yobomi bomntwana. Kodwa ekuhambeni kwexesha, lo mkhuba uvimbela abazali.
Ngaphambi kokuba ufumane iingcebiso ezithile, zibuze umbuzo othi: "Kutheni i-pacifier iyakumisa? Kungenxa yokuba abanye abantwana abayilisi? Okanye ufuna nje ukubona umntwana wakho njengomdala? Ngaba unokunyanzelwa ngabahlobo nezihlobo? Kodwa sithetha ngomntwana wakho. Omnye umntwana akafumanisi i-reflex esondayo, abanye bafumana unamandla. Kukho iintsana ezinokuthi zikwazi ukuhlula ngokukhawuleza, kodwa kukho abanye abayidingayo kwiminyaka emi-4 neye-5.
Oku akuthethi ukuba iintsana kufuneka zihambe esikolweni kunye ne-pacifier emilonyeni yazo. Kodwa ngaba abazali bazama ukukhipha umntwana wakhe uvuyo oluncinane, kwaye wenze ngaphambili kunomntwana ngokwenyama nangokwemigaqo kuba oku kuya kukhula.
Unokususa umntwana kwi-dummy ngeendlela ezimbini:
1) Linda ade umntwana aqaphele aze anciphise kancane ixesha lokusebenzisa i-pacifier. Kufana nokutshaya okwenza kancane kancane ukunciphisa inani lokubhema i-cigarettes. Unokunika i-pacifier ngaphambi kokulala. Kungenzeka imizuzu eyi-10, xa ubuya kwi-kindergarten.
2) Indlela yesibini ayifanelekanga kubo bonke abantwana, kuthathwa njengento eqhelekileyo. Unokwenza umkhosi wokuhlaziya kunye ne-pacifier, kwaye wenze ngokuvuma komntwana. Unako, umzekelo, "unike" enye inyane, okanye uthathe kwaye uphonsa ngokukhawuleza kwingcawa. Kubalulekile ukuba onke amalungu entsapho aziphathe ngendlela edibeneyo, ukuba bathi hatshi, kufuneka kubekho. Ngokwemvelo umntwana unzima ukunyamezela, ukuba ukhululwe kwi-pacifier, ukwanda kweentlanzi, ukulala kwakhe kuphazamiseka, kwaye ukuba ihlala ngaphezu kweentsuku ezili-10 okanye ezili-14, kungcono ukuba ungaqhubeki ukuhlushwa umntwana. Kwaye konke okwenzekayo kuthetha ukuba umntwana akayekanga umkhwa wakhe, kwaye ukuze ugcine impilo yengqondo kunye nempilo, kungcono ukubuyisela i-pacifier. Ngako oko, indlela yokuqala iya kuba ngakumbi kwaye ingqiqo kumntwana kunye nabazali.
Ngoku siyazi indlela yokunciphisa umntwana omncinci ukulala kunye ne-pacifier. Ukulandela ezi ndlela ezilula kunye neengcebiso, ungazama ukumncedisa umntwana kwi-dummy.