Enyanisweni, le ngongoma igxininisa kakhulu kwingqiqo yoomama noobawo, kuba xa uthetha ngendlela yokuphepha ukulimala kwabantwana, awunakufumana iingcebiso kubazali. Yintoni ebalulekileyo apha kukuba umzali kufuneka ukuba ngokwakhe uyilile imeko phambi kwexesha, elindele ukuba nemiphumo emibi engumntwana - kuphela oku kuya kunceda ukuphepha ukulimala.
Izibangela zokulimala kwabantwana ziqhelekileyo kwiimeko apho umntwana engakwazi ukujamelana nazo ezinye izithintelo endleleni yakhe kwaye uzama ukunqoba, engaqondi ukuba uyasongela. Ukongezelela, siyaqwalasela ukungabikho kolawulo lwabazali kulo mzuzwana. Olu dibana lweemeko lubangela ukuvela kweemeko eziyingozi, ngenxa yokulimala kwabantwana abangenakuphetshwa.
Kule nqaku ndiza kunika iingcebiso kubazali abaza kuphinda bakhumbuze oko kufuneka ukuba uyihlawule ngokukodwa. Nangona kunjalo, nonke kufuneka niqonde ukuba iimeko zihluke kakhulu, akunakwenzeka ukuzibona kwangaphambili. Ngako oko, ndiyanincenga ukuba ungashiyi umntwana kwimiba enobungozi, nokuba kunjani na.
1. Iyokuqala kunye neminye yemigaqo ebaluleke kakhulu - ayikho naphantsi kweemeko zishiya umntwana encinci yedwa kummandla ongagqithwanga (njengokutshintsha amatafula, i-sofas, imibhede, iitafile, njl. Nangona kufuneka uhambe ngomzuzu - kungcono ukuthatha umntwana wakho kunye nawe.
Abanye abantwana, nakuba abantu abadala kunye nabazimeleyo ekuqalekeni, abafanelekanga ukuthwala umntwana kwizandla zabo, kuba abanamandla kunye nokuphendulwa kwimeko xa bekhubeka okanye balahlekelwa ngumlinganiselo wabo. Ukongezelela, abantwana abanakuyibona ingqwalasela kunye nezinye izinto, ngoko ke kukho umngcipheko wokuba bangabetha umntwana ngento ethile.
3. Akufanele kubekho ezininzi zeemidlalo ezithintekayo okanye ubhokhwe obusana, akufanele banike umntwana ithuba elincinci lokuba umntwana, ekukhuphukeni, njengamanyathelo, uya kuphantsi.
4. Hlola ixesha ngalinye ukuba ngaba iibhodi zangasese zomntwana ubhekile zichanekile ngokukodwa, ingakumbi ukuba uyazihlaziya ngezikhathi ezithile.
5. Ukuba uya kuhambahamba nomqhubi okanye uhambe nomntwana emotweni, uhlale uxhoma kunye neengcambu ezikhethekileyo eziza kubambelela kwiinkompo kwaye zikhusele ukuba zingekho phantsi kwendlela ekhohlakeleyo.
6. Ingane ayifanele ibe naliphi na ithuba lokukhenkcela kwifestile, ngoko wenze ukuphuhliswa kwendlela ngendlela efuphi kwifestile kwakungekho nxalenye yefenitshala.
7. Ukuba umntwana uthemba ngokuzithemba aze azame ukuhamba ngokwakhe - lixesha lokugubungela iingcambu ezibukhali zefenitshala eneempawu ezikhuselekileyo zokukhusela.
8. Faka i-rivet ekhethekileyo kwifestile nganye, eyokuthintela umntwana ukuba ayivule, nangona ngandlela-thile umntwana usefikile kwifestile.
9. Nangona ubamba umntwana ngokuqinile kwizandla zakho - ungamvumeli ukuba angene kwiifestile zokuvula, akufanele akwenze phantsi kweyiphi na imeko!
10. Ncedisa umnyango okhokelela kwibharkoni kunye nawo onke amanyathelo kunye nokuphuma ekukhokheni kwinqanaba - inkunzi yenkomo ayikwazi ukujamelana nemingcipheko enjengamanyathelo, ngaphandle kokulimala.
11. Elinye iqhosha: musa ukusebenzisa umhambi. Okokuqala, inokulimaza izixhobo zomzimba ze-musculoskelet of the child, kwaye okwesibini, zithembeke kakhulu, zinokubamba into ethile ngexesha lokuhamba kwaye zijika.
12. Ukuba umntwana wakho udlala amathoyizi phantsi, uwasuse rhoqo umntwana - unako ukunyathela kwaye uwa.
13. Beka i-taboo enzima xa uqaqa embhedeni kunye nombhede.
14. Ukuba unabantwana ababini kwaye uthengele ngentsapho ibhola elinesibini, kuya kuba luncedo kuwe ukuba abantwana abangaphantsi kweminyaka emithandathu kwisitezi sesibini abafaki.
15. Qaphela ukuba izicathulo zicatshulwa ngokucophelela, kwaye izilwanyana azixhomeki phantsi. Fundisa umntwana wakho oko.
16. Kwiindawo apho umntwana angashenxisa khona, kufuneka kubekwe umxube weerubha (umzekelo, kwindlu yokuhlambela okanye kufuphi nelamanzi).
17. Ngexesha lokukhuphuka kwaye ukhuphuke phezulu kwizitebhisi, kufuphi nomcingo, umntwana kufuneka abambelele ngokuqinile kwimigqaliselo-fundise ukususela ebuntwaneni.
18. Qaphela ngokubhekiselele ekukhethweni kwendawo yokudlala kwintsana yakho. Bathi emva kwemifanekiso bahlula ngokwexesha lokudlala abantwana. Kuya kuba ngcono ukukhangela indawo kwindawo yakho efanelekileyo kwimvumba. Izinto eziphathekayo kufuneka zomelele, umgangatho ungcono kakhulu, kwaye ukulungelelanisa kangcono, njengesihlabathi, kungaba yerubha. Zonke izixhobo zokudlala mazibe zilungele ukusebenza ngokugqibeleleyo.
19. Musa ukufuduka kumntwana, nokuba udlala, njengoko ucinga, kwindawo yokudlala ephephile. Ukuhlala kwibhentshi kumgama akuvumelekanga, makube sisondele kuye, xa kukho nantoni na, ugijime kwangoko umntwana.
20. Ukunciphisa ukufikelela kwizinto ezibukhali, ususe kwindawo engenakufumaneka.
21. Kuyafana nakwezinto zeglasi - umntwana akufanele afinyelele kubo.
Ifenitshala engaqinisekanga iyingozi enkulu kwimpilo yentsana, ngoko ke ungayigxotha, okanye uyikhusele ngokuqinisekileyo.
23. Iinqwelo azikho endlwini kunye nomntwana. Kwaye ukuba indawo yindawo ethile kwiibhakethi ezincinci.
24. Umntwana ufanelwe ingqalelo ekhethekileyo xa u tyelela - akukho mithetho yokhuseleko efana neyakho, ngoko kukho ezinye izinongelo.
25. Wathengela umntwana ibhasikidi okanye iikratshi ezisikiweyo? Thenga ngaphezulu kunye nesigqoko esinamavili emadolo.
26. Khangela imeko yebhayisekile: izinga lokunyuka kwamaxabiso ngamavili, amabhuleki, izinto ezibonakalisa.
27. Ukuhamba kwendawo ayiyindawo yokuzonwabisa. Fundisa umntwana wakho indlela efanelekileyo yokuwela indlela, fundisa imigaqo yendlela.
Ukuthobela le mithetho yokuqala kuyakukhusela ukulimala kwabantwana. Musa ukubeka amehlo akho kubantwana bakho - khumbula ukuba impilo yabo incike kuwe!