Indlela yokuseka ubomi kwiintsapho ezincinci

Ukudala i-unit entsha yentlalo isisiganeko. Kodwa emva kweholide ekhethileyo, intsapho yentsapho iya kunyanzelwa ukuba ibhekane nobomi bemihla ngemihla.

Kwiphupha lethu sicinga ubomi bentsapho njengento ekhethekileyo, sinethemba lokuba oku kuya kuba yinto eguqukayo, emva koko, kuza kuza ixesha lonwabo ngokupheleleyo kunye novuyo. Ukulibala ukuba ebomini kukho ubunzima, esiya kuhlangana ngokukhawuleza okanye kamva.

Kodwa ubomi bokwenene bubuninzi, kwaye bunemibala emhlophe kunye emnyama. Oku kubonakala ngokugqithisileyo kunyaka wokuqala wobomi bomtshato obutsha, xa iintsapho zabo ziqala ukuzimisela imithetho nemigaqo.

Abantu abakhulayo kunye nokukhuliswa okungafaniyo, iindlela zentsapho, abone ukuziphatha okuhlukile kwabazali babo, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha baphila phantsi kweemeko zemali ezahlukeneyo - okokuqala kunzima ukukhetha indlela enye yokuqhubeka nokwakha intsapho yabo. Kukho iingcebiso ezininzi malunga nendlela yokwenza ubomi kwintsapho encinci, okufuneka ukuba, ukuba ingaqhubekiyo, ngokukodwa ingqalelo.

Abazali.

Abazali basondele kakhulu kwaye bathandekayo kuthi abantu abafuna kuthi kuphela kuphela. Kodwa kwenzeka nokuba ukhetho lwethu lomlingani ebomini bonke obuye, ngokufanelekileyo, aluhambisani, phantsi kolo mfanekiso oqaqambileyo, abawuchukumisa iminyaka emininzi kwimicabango yabo. Ngoko ke, ngokukhawuleza kuyimfuneko ukuyicombulula lo mbuzo, kwaye uchaze oko ukhetho lwakho, kwaye uhlala. Kwakhona kaninzi, abazali abavela kwiindawo eziphezulu zokuphila kwabo bazama ukuzalisa abantu abasanda kutshata kunye neengcebiso malunga nendlela yokuqhuba ubomi, ukusebenzisana kunye nokulawula imali. Ewe, kukho konke oku kukho inzuzo, kodwa njengokwenza umzekelo, wonke umama uqala "ukutsala ingubo" kumntwana wakhe. Ngenxa yoko, akukho "msebenzi womntu", "umfazi ongenamfazi" kunye nokunye.

Ngoko ke, ukuba kwenzeka ngokukhawuleza emva komtshato ukuqala ukuhlala ngokwahlukileyo kubazali - yenza oko. Zama ukunyamezela iimpikiswano zakho kunye neengxaki ngaphandle kwemfuno ekhethekileyo yesigwebo sabazali, siphendule kuphela phakathi kwabo.

Ukuba usaphila kunye nomnye wabazali bakho - musa ukunyamezela iingxabano ngaphaya komda wegumbi lakho, nokuba yintoni eyenzekayo, ungawaphuli abazali bakho, ubaphathe ngokuhlonela. Ukuba ufumana isichotho seengcebiso ukusuka ngosuku lokuqala - vele ucele ukukunika ithuba lokwenza konke oko. Ukuba isicelo asizange sincede, sihlala siphulaphula, siphulaphule okanye asiyikho - oku kukuqonda kwakho.

Bytovuha.

Kukho uluvo lokuba iingxaki zemihla ngemihla kwiintsapho eziselula, zidla ngokubangela ukuwa kweemvakalelo. Kule nto inyaniso. Kodwa utshutshiso luyanyamezela kuphela abo abangazi ukuba bangabhekisana njani nale ngxaki, okanye kunokuba abafuni. Imisebenzi yasemakhaya yayiyiyo, kwaye iya kuba, kwaye ayiyi ndawo. Kuphela apha ukusuka kwindlela ohambisa ngayo, iya kuxhomekeka kuyo yonke impilo elandelayo. Xa usasaza imisebenzi endlwini, bobabini kufuneka babandakanyeke. Ukutshintshisa ubomi bentsapho eselula inokusebenza kuphela ngokubambisana kwabasanda kutshata. Musa ukujonga emva kwexesha elidlulileyo kwaye wabelane nazo zonke iimbopheleleko zamadoda nabasetyhini. Ngaphezu koko, namhlanje umfazi, njengendoda, ufumana imali, kwaye upheka, ukucoca nokuhlamba, ngenxa yethekhnoloji yanamhlanje, ayifuni umzamo omkhulu. Ukususela ngosuku lokuqala, vumelana ukwenza konke kunye kunye nokuhambelana kwesi sivumelwano. Xa elowo lidlula ikhondo elipheleleyo lejoni elincinane kwindawo yokuhlala ekhaya, uya kukwazi ukuqonda imizamo yomnye nomnye, eya kutshabalalisa ubuninzi beengxabano.

Musa ukuthukuthela kwaye ungenzi imifanekiso, ukuba, into eyenziwe ingalunganga. Yonke le yimiba yobomi bakho, kwaye ngexesha elizayo yonke imisebenzi iza kuzaliseka ngokufanelekileyo.

ZeMali.

"Uthando luya kwaye luya, kodwa uhlala ufuna ukutya" - ngamnye kuthi, ukuba wayengathethi, ubuncinane beva eli binzana. Yaye iya kufumana inkcazo emfutshane yobomi bethu kunanini ngaphambili. Kananjalo ngenxa yobomi obonwabileyo nobuninzi obunokuthula, intsapho yintsapho idinga isiseko sempahla. Ukuthembela ngoncedo lwabazali akufanelekanga, emva kwakho konke uzimisele ukuqala ubomi obuzimeleyo. Kodwa ngokuqhelekileyo ekuqaleni kwemali eninzi ayenzekanga. Kwaye kukufanelekile ukulungiselela ngokwengqondo.

Nangona bobabini bobabili basebenzayo, indlela yokuphila yamahhala yokuphila kunye nokukwazi ukuhambisa imali ngokufanelekileyo yenza ukuba bazive kwiinyanga zokuqala. Ngenxa yoko, ukuxabana, ukuthukuthela, kunye namaxesha amaninzi. Iingqabane ezininzi azikwazi ukuma kwaye zihambe ngenxa yobunzima bezezimali, ingakumbi ukuba zingabonakali.

Ukuze ugweme iimeko ezinjalo, zama ukwahlula uhlahlo lwabiwo lwezentsapho kwiindleko eziphambili, ezongezelelweyo kunye nemali. Yaye khumbula, ukususela ngoku kwi-"yakho" kunye "yam" ibe "wethu", kwaye uhlahlo lwabiwo-mali lufanele lwabiwe. Kuloo matyala awunakho ukuphikisana malunga nalo, kwaye kuya kuba lula ukulungisa indlela yobomi kwintsapho encinane.

Ngokuqinisekileyo, yonke intsapho ibeka imithetho yayo, abanye abafazi abafuni ukusebenza basebenze imali ethile kumyeni wabo ngeveki ngokutya kunye nezinto eziyimfuneko, okanye, ngokuthe ngqo, indoda enika yonke into ayitholayo kumfazi wayo ihlala "kwezo zinto". Kodwa ucinge ngokwakho, ngaba ungathanda ukufihla i-stash, okanye uyifihle kuwe? Ewe, kufike kuwe.

Musa ukulibala ngeemvakalelo.

Nangona zonke iingxaki kunye nobunzima, ungakhohlwa ukuba ufake iindandatho njengesibonakaliso sokuthandana kwakho, kungekhona ukuthenga kunye nokuhlamba izitya. Ngoko ke, kufuneka ufumane ixesha lokubonisa iimvakalelo zakho. Qhubeka uhambo olufanayo ngokuhlwa, uye kwii-kafestile nakwiivenkile zokuhamba, uxolelane kunye nezipho kunye nokumangalisa, uchitha iinyanga zothando. Ngaphezu koko, ngoku akudingeki ukuba ukhawuleze ekuthuthweni kokugqibela, kwaye uxelele abazali bakho. Sebenzisa onke amathuba anikezelwa ngumtshato. Ungakulibali ukuvuma omnye komnye ngothando, shayela amagama anothando, bonisa ukunyamekela nokunyamekela, kwaye zonke iingxaki ziya kuvela kwimvelaphi. Khumbula uthando lwakho, ngokukodwa xa ulwahlulo luphezulu, kwaye khumbula ukuba emva kokuxabana ngamnye kuya kubakho ukuxolelana okumnandi.

Emva kwakho konke, mhlawumbi kungekudala yonke ixesha lakho elikhululekile uza kuthatha imizamo edibaniseneyo ehambelana nokuzalwa kweemvuthu.