Unokuziphatha kwiforum ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo, kuxhomekeka, ngokubanzi, malunga naluhlobo luni lomfanekiso ozikhethele wona. Mhlawumbi ebomini unento encinci yenkalipho kunye nesibonakaliso, ngokunjalo kwi-Intanethi unqume ukuba ube ngumfazi othakazelisayo - ngendlela, ezi zixubusha kwi-forum. Okanye ukhathele ukuba ngumfazi wesinyithi, ngoko wakhetha umfanekiso onqabileyo kwaye ocebileyo, okhuselekileyo ... Mhlawumbi uzimisele nje ukuba nguwe, wabelane ngeemfihlelo zakho zonke, uhleko, ngamanye amaxesha-ukuba ube sisisulu, ngokuqhelekileyo, ukuba ungabi yindoda enhle.
Kodwa iforamu iyisigqeba, nayo yonke imfudumalo kunye nomoya onobubele anika ngokuphanayo, kodwa akukho nto ingabikho mbambano. Kwaye konke ngenxa yokuba sonke sihluke, kwaye siyayiqonda yonke into ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo, kwaye ukusuka apho kuvela ukuxabana nokuqhaqhaza, kwanaxa kusekelwe elinye ibinzana elilahliwe. Akunakutsholwa ukuba ukuxoxa nawe kwiforum yimiba ixhomekeke ekuchaseni nasekugwebeni. Mhlawumbi uvele unike izihlobo zakho ezicacileyo ezininzi izizathu zokuqiqa - kwaye bawasebenzisa ngokukhawuleza, bemba ubomi bakho baza bawuhlola ngaphantsi kwe-microscope? Kungakhathaliseki ukuba yiyiphi isizathu yesingxoxo, umbuzo uhlala uvulekile: indlela yokuziphatha, ukuba uxoxwa kwi-forum ngeqela labantu abahlala bexhasayo kwaye bakhuthaza, kodwa namhlanje banokugqiba ekubeni ungeyena mntu ozifunayo kukhupha?
Ukuphendula umbuzo malunga nendlela yokuziphatha ngayo, ukuba uxoxisana ngokuzonwabisa kwaye ungafihlekanga, kufuneka ucinge ngokukhawuleza ngokuziphatha kwakho kwi-forum. Emva koko, nayiphi na ingxoxo yomntu othile inesizathu, isithuba, into encokolayo, ekupheleni.
Ukuqala - cwangcisa isangqa seentombi "eziqhelekileyo" eziqhelekileyo ezilungiselele ukuba uchitheke. Khumbula: luhlobo luni lobudlelwane obunalo kwiforum? Mhlawumbi kwezinye izihloko ezivuthayo uxabana, kwaye ekugqibeleni phakathi kwakho kuphelile? Ngokuqinisekileyo, intsingiselo yeeforamu kukuba iingxoxo zaso nasiphi na isifundo ziyahlula kwiinkampu ezimbini: "ngokuba" kunye "nokuchasene" (ukuba kunokwenzeka kwisakhelo sengxoxo, kunjalo). Umbuzo kuphela: ngaba ezi nkampu ziphuma njani kwimeko? Inokwenzeka ukuba, awukwazi ukufumana uxolo ngokuvumelanayo, kwaye ukuxabana kwagqithiselwa kwisifundo esinye kubo bonke oonxibelelwano. Uqalise i-podkoly, ukuhlambalaza, ukuhleka - konke oku akunako indlela yokunxibelelana ngokuqhelekileyo kokuvelisa. Akunakunyulwa ukuba ufuna nje ukusinda kwiforum - uze ulungele ukukhusela umgca wokukhusela. Abasetyhini bazi indlela yokulwa, mhlawumbi.
Kodwa ukuba imeko kunye nengxabano engafanelekanga iqhelekile kwaye ayixhomekeke kuwe kuphela kodwa nakwabanye abachasene nabo, kukho ezinye iindlela, ngenxa yokuba unokuthi uxoxwe ngayo kwicala elibi. Mhlawumbi, uyazi ukuba udumo lomfazi okhukhumeleyo? Emva koko, sisoloko sifuna ukubonakala sikhetele, sisengqiqo, sinobuqili, sisetyenziswe ngakumbi, ngakumbi ukuba sijikeleza kwiqela leentlobo-nakuba kunjalo. Ngokukodwa, ngamanye amaxesha sithintela phezulu isimo sethu sezentlalo, esingaba nomona. Kwaye, qiniseka, uya kuba nomona, ngaphezu koko, kukho abo bantu abangakuthandiyo ngekitsch. Yaye la ma ntombazana akwazi ukuxoxa nawe phambi komntu wonke ukubonisa ukuba uzibeka ngaphezu kwamanye. Kwaye kwiifom ayiyithandi - kwiifom zonke ziyalingana (ngokuchanekileyo, kufuneka zilingane, nangona oku kwenzekayo kangako).
Ewe, unokuxoxa kunye nombono ontle-kwaye, ngakwesinye icala, kuyamangalisa! Nangona le meko inokubangela ukuba umfazi angakhathazeki. Emva kwakho konke, mhlawumbi unconywa ngamandla kunye nezona zinto zizakhono ezibonakaliswe kumalungu eforum, kwaye azinako. Ubophe imbobo ehlakaniphile kumyeni wakho, bhetele kunevenkile, uphephe i-goose ecocekileyo kwi-apula, ufunde ukusingatha imizwa yabantwana, uyazi yonke into malunga nezobugcisa ... kukho izizathu ezininzi! Kwaye abo bawaziyo, banokubelana ngokulula nabanye ngolwazi, bengakhange bacinge ngento yokuba loo mkhankaso wokukhangisa ungaba mnandi kuwe.
Ukuziphatha kuzo zonke iimeko kuyafuneka ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo.
Ukuba ingxoxo ingendawo, kufuneka ufumane isizathu sayo. Fumana umntu kunye nabakuhlukumeza kakhulu, kwaye ubuze umbuzo ocacileyo "ebunzini": "Yintoni na? ". Lindela impendulo enengqiqo, kwaye ukuba uyaqonda ukuba uphosakele, mhlawumbi kufuneka uxolise ngenxa yeli zinto ukuyeka? Kwimeko apho ukuqhuma kokungcola kuyaqhubeka kuhamba phezu kwakho (ngokukodwa ngemilayezo yomuntu siqu) - ungabhala ngale nto ibe ngumodareyitha, kwaye uya kuyanyanzeleka ukuba athathe amanyathelo okukhawulela ukunyaniseka. Abaphuli bafuna ukulwa neendlela zabo.
Nangona, mhlawumbi, iforum ngokwayo ayifanelekanga ukuyilwela? Mhlawumbi kungcono ukuhamba ngekhanda eliziqhenyayo, kwaye uzifumene ihlabathi elincinci ngakumbi?
Ukuba isizathu sihleli kuwe, kwaye uyazi - zama ukulungisa umgca wokuziphatha kancinci. Emva koko, kwi-Intanethi kulula! Oku akuwona ubomi boqobo apho kungekho kubuya kumazwi athile kwaye akukho xesha lokucinga ngezimpendulo ezithile. Kwiforum, unomlinganiselo wexesha elingenamkhawulo ukwenzela ukuhlunga impendulo yakho, ukususa into embi kuyo, thabatha ukumomotheka. Emva kwakho konke, kwimeko yokuphikisana nomdlali ochasayo kufuneka ukwazi ukuziphatha kakuhle kunye nesidima.
Ngoko ke, xa uxoxwa ngesithunzi sakho, mhlawumbi ufune ukuzenza ube buhlungu? Emva kwakho konke, izakhono zakho kunye neetalente zixabisa inani elininzi labantu abangaqhelekanga kuwe-kwaye kuphela ukuqonda kwalo kufuneka kukunikeze ithemba lakho ngobuchule! Kodwa ukuba akukabi mnandi kuwe-mhlawumbi kunengqondo ukuba ubhale ngokufanelekileyo "kwii-agent zakho zentengiso" ongasetyenziselwa ukuba ukhangele? Abantu abaqhelekileyo bamele baphulaphule amagama akho kwaye bayeke ukukhangisa ngaso sonke isikhathi.