Wonke umntu ufuna ukubulisa ilungu elitsha lentsapho. Ngaba uyavuyela le ngcamango? Ngaba ufuna ukuba izalamane zikwabelana ngolonwabo? Ngoko, iholide! Kwiintsapho ezinkulu kunye ezinobungane kuyisiko lokubhiyozela ukuzalwa kwabantwana ngokugubungela: itafile enkulu, iindwendwe, izipho. Ezi zithethe zineenzuzo ezininzi.
Umntwana uba ilungu losapho, abantu abadala abadala bayithatha phantsi koxanduva lwabo. Ingqiqo yakho yokhuseleko isekelwe kwindlela yokuziva. Uziva uzikhuselekile xa kukho intsapho emva kwakho.
Iholide enkulu yinto. Imibhiyozo yentsapho isiza abazali ukuba bathathe isimo esitsha, ngokukhululeka ukufudukela "kwabatshatanga" "kubazali."
Intlanganiso yeentsapho nayo inxibelelwano. Ngokuqhelekileyo, abantu abaselula bahamba nabazalwana nodade abadala abaye bafumana abantwana. Kubonakala ngathi banomdla othile. Kwaye ukubuyisela uxhaphalo xa uhamba "kwinqanaba elinobunzima" ngezinye iinkhathi alilula: ukuhlazeka, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha unecala, kunokuphazamisa. Ngomthendeleko, ke, ukunxibelelana kwenzeka ngokukhululekile, ngokwalo.
Umama udinga iqela lokuxhasa. Emva kokuzalwa komntwana, lona wesifazane udla ngokutshintsha izimvo zakhe ebomini, ukunyameka kwemizwa, indlela yokuphila. Nangona i-kid ikulindelwe ixesha elide kwaye ifunwa, utshintsho olunjalo luxinzelelo olunzulu, ukuhlangabezana nabangani abadala, i-alas, abanakukunceda rhoqo. Kodwa amazwi enkxaso yabasetyhini abadala ayenokukukhumbuza kwakhona ukuba oko kwenzekayo kuni kunokwemvelo. Kwaye kwintlanganiso yeentsapho ukuba unokufumana abadibeneyo.
Nangona kunjalo, kwintsapho enkulu kubuthene ngexesha isimemo sokuzalwa komntwana nako kunokuvela ubunzima. Nantsi indlela yokujongana nabo.
Kukulungele ukudibana apho, apho uza kuba nethuba lokuthatha umhlalaphantsi kunye nosana kwaye uphumule. I-crumb isancinci kakhulu, kunokuba nzima ukuba atshintshe isihlwele esikhulu sabantu. Ewe, kwaye ufuna indawo apho unokutya ngokukhuselekileyo uze ubeke umntwana ukuba alele.
Kwiinkcubeko ezininzi, iinkqubo ezinjalo zokuthatha umntwana kwintsapho zihlehliselwa inyanga, kwaye oku akuyona ingozi. Inyanga yokuqala yobomi yithuba elibalulekileyo lokuguqula iimvumba ebomini obutsha, kungcono ukuba aphumle ngeli xesha ngaphandle kokuvuselela okungadingekile kwazo zonke iinjongo. Ukukhanya okukhanyayo, isandi, ukuthintela - konke oku kunokusongela umntwana. Ngoko ke, ngokukhawuleza emva kokuzalwa, bhengeza umhla weeholide elizayo kwaye uthumele isimemo "kwinyanga enye kamva." Ngoko izalamane ziya kuvuya, kwaye uya kukwazi ukubuyisela emva kokubeleka, kwaye inkqubo yesantya yeemvuthu iyaqina.
Iintlanganiso zeentsapho kunye neememo zokuzalwa komntwana zingapheliswa kwisithethe senkolo, ukuba samkelwe kwintsapho. Umzekelo, ukubhaptizwa. Olu khetho luyamkeleka wonke umntu. Ukongezelela, kwiinkcubeko ezininzi, iinkonzo zonqulo zenzeka nje malunga neenyanga emva kokuzalwa komntwana. Ungathathi umbutho weeholide.
Yamkela uncedo kubazali noomkhulu okanye ezinye izalamane. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba bathathe inxaxheba kwiholide. Kuthiwani ukuba ufuna ukuhlela iholide, kunye nezihlobo azidibana naloo mbono ngomdla? Njengomthetho, oku kwenzekayo ukuba unabathwali beenkcubeko ezahlukeneyo. Umzekelo, umama wakhula kwintsapho enkulu, apho iiholide ezinjalo ziyingxenye yobomi. Kwaye upapa ungummeli wendawo yasezidolophini kunye nentsapho encinci. Kwimeko apho, hlaziya umbhiyozo kwisangqa sakho. Makungabonakali kakhulu, kodwa kushushu. Ukuba izithethe zentsapho zibalulekile kuwe, zifanele ukuba.
Kukho imeko echaseneyo: izalamane ziphupha ukubona i-crumb, kunye nomama. Uloyikeka ngumbuthano onomsindo, ufuna ukufihla umntwana ekhoneni elifihliweyo, ukuze kungabikho mntu ophazamisayo. Kwaye kuyinto eqhelekileyo! Ukuba intsapho yakho ayinaloo masiko, awunamathela kubo. Umnqweno wokuba "ukuxhoma" emva kokuzalwa emva kokuzalwa akufuni nanye kuwo. Imvelaphi ye-hormonal yomama osemncinci kukuba umzimba udinga indawo yokuzikhusela, andinxibelelwano. Ngokuqhelekileyo emva kwenyanga yokulungelelanisa umfazi ulungelelanisa ukuthetha, kodwa ke uhlazo lokumema iindwendwe - ixesha lidlule ...
Abanye oomama bakhathala emva kokubeleka. Abantu abaninzi banentlonelo, ingqiqo engongqoqo yongxaki engaphaya kwengqondo kwaye, ngokwezinye iingcali zengqondo, zifakwe kwi-subconscious yowesifazane ngamnye. Ukuhanjiswa okukhulu kuninzi kukhokelela ekukhathazeni ngokubanzi kunye nokwesaba isongelo ebomini kwintsana. I-crumb ibonakala ibuthathaka kwaye isengozini, kwaye ihlabathi elijikelezileyo liyingozi kwaye liyingozi.
Isizathu sokungafuneki kweendwendwe sinokuba sisifo sengqondo ngenxa yezinto ezimbi: mhlawumbi kwintsapho yakho, ukuhlanganisana okunjalo kuphelile kwingxaki. Musa uloyiko oluvakalelo: abaninzi abafazi baxhomekeke kumama kuluhlu olumangalisa. Njengomthetho, imvelaphi yeemvakalelo izinzileyo ngaphakathi kwinyanga okanye ezimbini.
Indlela yokwenza kule meko? Okokuqala, qondani: awunanto nawuphi na umntu.
Ukuba awufuni ukubona umntu ngoku, musa. Ungabhekisela kwimbono yegqirha engazange ikhuthaze oonxibelelwano ngenyanga yokuqala yobomi. Kodwa ukuze ulondoloze uxolo kwintsapho, cinga ngendlela yokucinga ngayo yonke into ekupheleni. Umzekelo, unokumakisha inyanga yokuqala yokuphila, simema iindwendwe kwiikristenings, njl njl. Xoxa ngale nto kunye nomyeni wakho, mhlawumbi, uya kufumana ingcamango ukuba uluvo lwakhe aluhambisani neyakho.
Kwaye kubi kakhulu ukuba ngaba wena okanye izalamane zakho nilangazelela ukulungiselela umbhiyozo ngokuhlonipha ukubonakala kweemvuthu ehlabathini? Kwiinkcubeko ezininzi zasekuhlaleni zasezidolophini ezi ziqhelekileyo. Abazali abasebancinci abaxhomekeke kwenkxaso yezizalwane kwaye abaqondi ukuba ubumbano lwentsapho enkulu luyimfuneko. Njengomthetho, kwiintsapho ezinjalo akukho mntu ulindele ukuba oogogo bancede. Ukwenza iholide enkulu kule meko ayifanelekanga. Ekugqibeleni, nasiphi na isithethe sinengqiqo kuphela xa ihambelana nombono wehlabathi ngabo bonke abathathi-nxaxheba.