Kukholelwa ukuba ukuxeliswa kwe-orgasm "kubangelwa" ikakhulukazi abasetyhini, nangona kunjalo, njengoko kuvela, amadoda apha kule ngxaki ayengaphantsi kwabo. Konke oku akuso isityholo, kukho iinkalo ezisekelwe kuphando lwezenzululwazi, kwaye ke uthi 40, ukuba asikho i-50% yamadoda, ngokukhawuleza uxelise i-orgasm. Kuphakama imibuzo emininzi, njengokuba, "Kutheni kufuneka?", "Njani ukuqonda ukuba uyenze i-orgasm okanye akunjalo?", "Kuthiwani ukuba uxelisekile?"
Kodwa kukho imeko yokuxelisa i-orgasm kubasetyhini inzuzo ethile, kulula ukuchitha iqabane labo, kodwa indoda inzima kakhulu. Emva koko, ubungqina obuninzi be-orgasm yindoda yindoda. Iimfuno zokuqala zimele ziphume, zichaze okanye zifihla ukungabikho kwayo.
Nangona, ngekhono elithile lomntu, oku akuyi kuba yingxaki, kuba ikhondom isetyenziswe ngokukhawuleza kwi-napkin, okanye iphonswe ngaphandle kwindlela yokuhlamba okanye indlu yangasese. Yonke into yetheknoloji, ukwazi indlela yokukrazula "ubungqina" obuphambili, ukuvelisa ukuhlambalaza kwamagama kunye neminye imiqondiso ye-orgasm ayinzima kakhulu.
Abaninzi abasetyhini bachaza ukunyamekela kwabo ukuba bafuna ukuxhasa umlingane wabo ngale ndlela, bafuna ukumenza azive engakwazi ukumnceda, okanye ezama ukufihla ezinye iingxaki ngokwabo. Okumangalisayo kukuba, kodwa amadoda, achaza izizathu apho amaxesha athile axelisa i-orgasm, anika iingcamango ezifanayo. Kwaye ukuba uyamkhusela umlingani wakhe kwiingcamango ezingathandekiyo, oku kubonisa ukuba indoda yindoda, kwaye ukuba ngenxa yoko uyazifihla ukuzithemba, uthetha ngokuthozama kwakhe, mhlawumbi ukungahambi kakuhle.
Sisiphi isizathu?
Kukho imeko apho ukulungiswa kwavela kwindoda, ngenxa yothando lwentando, kodwa akazange abe ne-orgasm. Kutheni?
Isizathu esiqhelekileyo sale nto siyixinzelelo. Kwaye asithethi loo nqanaba loxinzelelo, xa iimbilini zisezintlupheko ezinjalo, ngenxa yoko ngenxa yokungena amandla, ngenxa yeemeko zengqondo. Le ngxaki yehlabathi jikelele. Kodwa kukho "ixesha elilodwa" ephosakeleyo ebhedeni, banokudityaniswa neengxaki emsebenzini, abaneemvakalelo malunga neengxabano nomhlobo osondeleyo, njl.
Kwimeko enjalo, indoda injalo kwimeko yokuba amava akhe azivala kakhulu. Kungenxa yoko, umzimba uphendukela kwisini ngesimo sokumiswa, kodwa ukuvelelwa kwemvakalelo kutyhutyhile ngenxa yokwenyuka kwezinto zangaphandle. Ukongezelela, iimeko ezixinzelelekileyo ngale ndlela zichaphazela umzimba, ukuba ngexesha lokuthanda, inani elaneleyo lokuthambisa liyabelwe, malunga nendlela inkqubo yokungena kunye nezinto ezilandela imine zihlala zivelisa iimvakalelo ezintle. Le mpendulo kwixinzelelo iyingqayizivele kumzimba wesilisa nowesifazane.
Esinye isizathu esinokubakho ngenxa yokungabi nxalenye yengqondo yomntu kumntu omfutshane. Amadoda amaninzi emva kweminyaka engama-30, kuthatha ixesha elingakumbi ukufikelela kwiqondo elifunayo. Ukongezelela, amadoda anjengokuzivuselela ngeengcamango ezahlukileyo zobulili, kwaye akukhona ukuba akayithandi iqabane okanye akayithandi indawo awayefuna ngayo ukulala ngesimo.
Imizobo yamaMadoda ngexesha lokwabelana ngesondo, le nkqubo iyancipha ngakumbi, ivumela umntu ukuba alungele kwisigqi somlingane wakhe. Emva koko, abanye abafazi banomdla ngokukhawuleza kwaye bakulungele ukufikelela kwinani lentlalo ngexesha elifanayo njengeSpartner, kwaye abanye badinga ixesha elingakumbi kunalo mlingane. I-Ittut ukunceda indoda ivela kumfesane wakhe, othe wanyusa intsebenziswano yakhe, okanye ngokuphambene nayo imvumela ukuba alibale. Ngoko, apha kwiimeko ezixinzelelekileyo, indoda ayisoloko ikwazi ukubiza uncedo lwakhe ngcamango, kwaye le yeso sizathu sokulahleka kwamanye.
Njani ukuba?
Ungalondolozi ixesha le-prelude, laskipolozhitelno yangaphambili ixesha elide lithintela kuzo zombini amaqabane. Awudingi ukuba ulala ngesondo nangokwenyama ngenxa yabantu abakujikelezile kunye neemeko kulo lonke namhlanje.
Akuyimfuneko ukudibanisa. Ukuba wena kunye neqabane lakho nilungisile i-orgasmodic fold, ke okwesibini njalo njalo, le nto isele ingxaki, enokuthi ixazululwe ngokuxoxa ngayo. Mhlawumbi yonke into iya kuba lula kunokuba ibonakala, umzekelo, kuya kwanele ukutshintsha i-pose.
Musa ukudlala ngoxolo ngexesha lesondo, ukuba ufuna ukuzama into entsha, vela ilizwi lakho umnqweno.