Kodwa kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuba ixesha elonwabileyo ngamanye amaxesha lingathatyathwa yinto evuyisayo kunye nokuxhalabisa umntwana wakho. Eli nqaku libhalwa kubo bonke oomama abazayo abafuna ukwazi konke malunga ne-puzozhitelem encinci.
Ngethuba lokukhulelwa, umama ulindele ixesha elihle kakhulu, elinye lalo, ukuhamba kokuqala komntwana. Uvakalelwa nje ngokungachazeki. Abantwana abaselula abayi kuze bakwazi ukuvakalelwa. Makhe sithethe malunga nokuba kaninzi umntwana ushukunyiswa ngaphambi kokubeleka abaninzi besetyhini.
Ngokuqhelekileyo, umntwana uqala ukuhamba ngokubonakalayo, okanye, ngokuchanekileyo, xa usengumntwana. Kodwa kuncinci ukuba abafazi abaqapheli ukuphazamiseka. Ngethuba lokukhulelwa umntwana usakhula, kwaye ukunyakaza kwawo kubonakala ngakumbi. Umama omncinci uqala ukuvakalelwa ngumntwana, ukususela kwiiveki le-16 lophuhliso. Ngoko, ubuncinane, oogqirha bathi. Enyanisweni, abaninzi abafazi baqala ukuziva ukunyuka kuphela kwiiveki ezingama-20 okanye ezingama-22. Kungenxa yokuba abanye, ngakumbi ngexesha lokukhulelwa kokuqala, abazi ukuba njani. Uvakalelo luyamangalisa kwaye alulibaleki. Wonke umntu unayo ngendlela yawo. Kwamanye umama ufana ne "bulki" ngaphakathi kwesisu, kwaye kwezinye i-jerks ezikhonkco zivakalelwa ngumlenze omncinci.
Ixesha lihamba, kwaye umntwana ukhula, ukuphazamiseka ngoku kunomntu othile kunye namandla. Ingane iyakwazi ukuphendula amagama anothando kamama, ibonise ngokunyakaza ukuba akanakukhathazeka okanye ayithandi nto. Olu hlobo loxhumano nehlabathi langaphandle kunye nomntu obaluleke kakhulu emhlabeni - unina.
Nawuphi na umama ozayo uyaxhalazeleka malunga nemibuzo emibini elula: kufuneka ukuba umntwana ahambe kangakanani? Ngaba indlela yokuzalwa ichaphazela umsebenzi wengane?
Cinga yonke into ngokufanelekileyo. Ngoko ke, inani leentshukumo ngosuku, ngoogqirha, kufuneka libe ubuncinane 24. Kodwa khumbula ukuba yonke inkunzi yinto encinci. Ngoko ke, inani lezithuthi lingaba ngaphantsi okanye ngaphezulu. Cinga ukuba umntwana unokukwazi ukulala nje ngoko ke angenzi naluphi na ukunyakaza.
Ngokufanayo, oogqirha bakholelwa ukuba umzantshi wokubeletha ngokukhawuleza kukunciphisa inani lokunyuka komntwana, ngoko kubalulekile ukwazi ukuba umntwana uhamba kangakanani ngaphambi kokubeletha. Kodwa le ngcamango iphikisana. Ngokwenene, oku kuqwalaselwa kuba ubukhulu nokuphakama komntwana ngenyanga yokugqibela yokukhulelwa sele sele kufinyelele kwisigaba apho kuza kuzalwa khona. Kuchanekile ukuba kukho iindawo ezimbalwa ezikhululekile kwaye, ngenxa yoko, kunzima ukwenza ukunyakaza kumntwana kunamaxesha okuqala okukhulelwa. Kungenjalo, kodwa abanye oomama, ngokuchaseneyo, banyuse umsebenzi. Abanye bakholelwa ukuba ngaphambi kokuba umntwana abelethe umntwana uhamba ngaphantsi nje ngokuba ufumana amandla ngosuku lokubaluleka.
Ngenyanga yokugqibela yokukhulelwa umntwana ulele kwaye uvukile nonina. Kakade, ixesha elichanekileyo alifani, kuba umntwana uhlala kuninzi kunina. Uvuka kwakhona ngaphambili. Oku kuthetha ukuba ngexesha nje xa umama efuna ukulala, umntwana uqala ukubonisa umsebenzi, ufuna, umzekelo, ukudlala. I-Wiggling ingaba namandla kwaye ifuna. Ewe, umntwana unomlingiswa, kwaye yena, ngokuzonwabisa, uya kubonisa unina.
Into ebaluleke kakhulu kumama oselula kukujonga ilungu leentshukumo zomntwana wakhe. Kungenxa yokuba ngumfazi kuphela onokufumanisa ukuba umntwana unenkathazo, kwaye kufuneka azame ukwenza konke ukuze umntwana azalwe enempilo. Kubonakala ngathi into eyenzeka kumama kwisisu, kuba umntwana usukhuselwe ngokwaneleyo. I ngcamango ayilunganga. Uninzi lwabasetyhini, ngexesha lokukhulelwa, unokuba ne-hypoxia okanye i-anemia. Ngokwesiko, eso sifo asiloyiko, kodwa kuyimfuneko ukuyiqonda, njengoko oku kunokuchaphazela ukuphuhliswa komntwana. Ukuba umntwana ulungile, i-jerks yakhe iya kuba ngohlobo lomdlalo kunye nomama okanye utata. Ukuba umntwana useengozini, ngokuqinisekileyo uya kuxela oku ngokusebenza "kwezempi". Ukuba inani leentshukumo zomntwana ngaphambi kokuzalwa lihla ngokukhawuleza, ukuya kwi-3 ngosuku, ixesha lokulila i-alamu. Ingane inokuba neengxaki, kwaye umama kufuneka athethe ngokukhawuleza ugqirha ukuze axoxe. Mhlawumbi kunyanzelekile ukuba uye esibhedlele okanye ukuzala kwangaphambili. Ngoko kukuxhatshazwa. Oku, kwakhona, inokuba yenye yeempawu ukuba umntwana uyakhathazeka ngento ethile. Kule meko, kwakhona, kufuneka uhambele ngokukhawuleza ugqirha. Kwabo bakholwa kuphela ngamanani angezantsi, inani elihambelanayo lokuhamba ngaphambi kokunikezelwa ngamaxesha ahlukeneyo omhla.
Ngeyure elinye kufuneka kubekho, malunga nantoni, ezimbini zikhupha. Kodwa oogqirha batusa ukukhetha ixesha elide (6 okanye 12 iiyure). Oku kubangelwa kukuba umntwana unokulala nje. Ukuxhalabisa kwakungekho, ungazama "ukugubungela" umntwana. Ukwenza oku, kwanele ukondla i-candy kwaye ulale ngecala lakho lesobunxele. Iintsana ziyingozi kakhulu, ngoko impendulo ayiyi kukulinda ixesha elide. Oku kuluhlu nje lwesicelo sokuhambisa, amaninzi amabhinqa asebenzisa ezinye iindlela, kuba ngamnye umntwana uhlukile.
Ukuba ikhefu leeyure eziyi-6 likhethiweyo, ngoko ke inani lezinto eziphazamisayo, ngokuqinisekileyo, kufuneka likhulu. Phantse kwi-10, kodwa ingaphantsi. Ngamanye amaxesha umama unomuva wokunyuka kwama-5-6 emva kweyure elilodwa lokubona. Oogqirha bakholelwa ukuba oku kunene kwaye awukwazi ukuqhubeka ubala.
Ixesha li-12 ngehora lokuqwalasela. Kwakhona, inani leenguqu liye landa - 24, kodwa lingaphantsi. Ngokuqhelekileyo, iiyure ezili-12, ixesha elide. Ngoko ke, ukuba inani lokuhamba lincinci kakhulu, kufuneka uqhagamshelane nodokotela ngokukhawuleza.
Ngenxa yoko, inani lokunyakaza komntwana ngaphambi kokubeleka alizange libe kwaye aliyi kuchaneka. Mama, khumbula ukuba abantwana bahluke kakhulu. Kwaye, ngaphezu koko, bahluke "kwincwadi yabantwana". Kukunzima ukuzala umntwana ongcono. Ngoko ke, bathande abantwana bakho njengabo. Inhlanhla!