Ingane nganye, engakhange ifunde ukuhamba, izama ukuzisa umyalelo kwindlu ngendlela yakhe - kwi-closet nasebusuku bokuhamba ebusuku, kwi-pan kunye ne-boot. Yena, ezama ukuxelisa abantu abadala, ukugubungela umshanelo kunye nokugubungela phantsi ngombala, ubeka iinyembezi, ezama ukuphumelela ilungelo lokuhlamba indebe okanye iplate. Kuphela kwintsana enjalo umntwana unako ukufumana ukuzonwabisa kwangempela ekungeniseni indlu ngokufanelekileyo. Kulo xesha, abazali abadingeki bacinge ngendlela yokufundela umntwana ukuchaneka-into eyenzekayo ngokwayo. Kwaye makumke umbhobho wamanzi kwisantya, kwaye udoti uthululwa ngebhakethi. Into ephambili kukuqinisa intshiseko yomncedisi omncinane ngokudumisa: "Ndiyabonga, ndithande! Kwaye ndingathini ngaphandle kwakho? "
Ngelishwa, ngokuphindaphindiweyo ukusabela kwisicwangciso soqoqosho sabantwana babo, sithetha into ehlukileyo: "Musa ukukhathaza," "Musa ukunyuka," "Hamba ukudlala. Usencinane. " Iminyaka embalwa iya kudlula kwaye kwincoko kunye nomntwana kuya kuba neengongoma: "Zikhathalele!", "Umele", "Mangaphi na anokuphindaphindiweyo, sele usukhulile". Kwaye ngoku umntwana akafuni ukukwenza, ungenangqungquthela, imibhikisho, kuba ayisebenzi. "Ukhulu. Kufuneka uncede unina, "umntwana omnye uva ngolunye usuku. Kodwa yintoni ebenqatshelwe kwaye ifunwa, ngoku isibophelelo.
Yenza umkhwa ococekileyo
"Umkhwa ungowesibili," kusho ubulumko obuninzi. Ngomntwana, iirekhodi eziqhelekileyo ziyisiseko kunye nokuthembeka kobomi bakhe. Utshintsho ngeminyaka yobuchule obumiselweyo yokuziphatha kumntwana kunzima kakhulu. Nangona kunjalo, ufana nomntu omdala. Ngaba ufuna ukufundela umntwana wakho ngokuchaneka? Yenza ukucoceka kwimodi yosuku - masibe yinto efanayo yokuxubha amazinyo okanye ukuhlamba izandla zakho imihla ngemihla ngaphambi kokutya.
Ukusebenza kwinkampani kabini kulula
Kuphela, kwanexesha elithile umsebenzi ogqithiseleyo kubonakala unzima kakhulu kumntwana. Ukuba umntwana oneminyaka ezisibhozo kufuneka ahlasele phantsi, lo msebenzi ungabonakala unzima kuye. Kodwa kulungele ukucoca amanye amalungu entsapho, njengoko izinto ziye zaba mnandi kwaye zilula.
Musa ukuphosa umntwana omnye kwenye ngendlala ekhaya. Yiba nomsindo kuye, usebenze kunye. Wena ngokwakho uya kumangaliswa yinto evuyayo ngayo umntwana ukuba ahlambuluke, ahlambuluke, ahlambe. Ungesabi ukunyusa umntwana! Ngokuphambene noko, uya kumfundisa ukuba abe novelwano kwaye ancede.
Umsebenzi awukhuthazeli ukukhawuleza
Sisoloko sinemizuzu emihlanu yexesha lokukhulula xa umntwana esenqwenela ukunceda. Omnye ngokukhawuleza anikezele iimbilini: "Musa ukukhathazeka, phawula eceleni!". Omnye emva kwemizuzu embalwa: "Khangela indlela obi ngayo. Ndiyathanda ukuba ndiyenze ngokwam. " Ikhetho lesibini libi ngakumbi kuneyokuqala, kuba libhubhisa nje kuphela iqhinga lokuqala, kodwa nokholo lomntwana ngamandla abo. Cinga indlela ukuhlambalaza ngayo xa umntu evuselela phambi kwamehlo akho umsebenzi owenze nje!
Musa ukukhawuleza xa umntwana ehlamba ngokukhawuleza izitya, uhlambe kwakhona izinto. Musa ukugculela ukungahambi kwakhe, ungamgxeli ukuba uyiphule ngendebe okanye ngenxa yokuba amanzi awathulule phantsi: oku kuya kwenzeka kumntu wonke! Ubulumko kwaye buhlungu ebusuku. Kuhlala kulula ukufumana amava onke ngamaxesha onke, xa ivulekile ngokudumisa. Ungesabi ukudumisa umntwana. Njalo umbulele ngoncedo, ukukhuthaza, ukuxhasa. Ziyinyaniso ngokwenene kuthi.
Uninzi olungakumbi!
Abaninzi bethu baqhelana ne "avral", ukuqonda ngezikhathi ezithile indlu ngaphambi kweeholide ezinkulu. Ngaloo mihla, unina, ngokuqhelekileyo, uye ekhitshini ukupheka into engavamile, eyona nto, abantwana bahlala beyilwa into eyodwa kuphela-ukuphuma kwindlu. Kwaye, ngokuqinisekileyo, banqwenela ukudibana nomama ukuba benze izitsha ezintsha.
Abantwana abayinyamezeli i-monotony. Kwaye akunakulungele ukuphosa rhoqo umsebenzi wakho ongathandeki kubo. Ukuba ufuna umntwana ahlale evuyayo ukuphendula kwisicelo sokunceda, mnike ilungelo lokukhetha. "Namhlanje kufuneka sisuse uthuli size sihlambulule indlu yokuhlambela. Ukhetha ntoni? "
Zibukele
Abantwana abathandi ukuhlambulula emva kwabo? I-Whining, i-capricious, i-shirk zonke iindlela ezikhoyo? Kwaye unxulumene njani noxanduva lwakho lwasekhaya? Azikho na izihlandlo xa ukhononda ngezwi: "Ndondliwa njani na oku kuhlambuluka, iipane, ukuhlambalaza, ukupheka!" Ingaba umntwana wakho ulungisa izinto kwiindawo ngokubonakalisa umfel 'ukholo ebusweni bakhe? Zibukele kwisibuko ngaphambi kokunyamekela ukubeka izinto ngokufanelekileyo endlwini. Ngaba awufumani le ntetho ebuhlungu eyaziwayo? Ngoko, mhlawumbi, umntwana wakho uthatha umzekelo kuwe?