Ngelishwa, abaninzi abafazi bexesha lethu baye benza uhlobo oluthile lwengqondo yokulondoloza ikhefu lokubeleka, zombini kwixesha "lokuvalelwa" kunye nokungabikho kokuphuhliswa kwengqondo ... Ndifuna ukubheka le ngxaki ukusuka kwelinye icala kwaye ndifumane amaninzi amaninzi okuba lixesha elimangalisayo ebomini yowesifazane.
"Ukuba ufuna ukutshintsha uhlobo lomsebenzi - uye kumyalelo!" - ngoko ndiya kuthetha nomfazi ngamnye ecinga ngolu hlobo, ngokusekelwe kumava akhe kunye nokubandlulula. Ndifuna ukuba onke amabhinqa aqonde kwaye asebenzise eli xesha elimnandi lobomi bakhe kunye nenzuzo enkulu kuye nakwintsapho yakhe.
Ndafika kwesi sigqibo ngesizathu. Ndabona amava kunye nemingcele yabasetyhini kummiselo kumava ami. Ewe, eqinisweni, ukuzalwa komntwana kunye nokunyamekela kubandakanya uxanduva oluninzi kunye nexesha, kodwa ukuba usebenzisa ixesha lakho, unokwenza izinto ezininzi ongenalo ixesha lokuzenza ngaphambili. Kwaye ukuba nasendlini kukho umncedisi wokunyamekela umntwana (umyeni, umama okanye umkhwekazi, udade, njl.), Ngoko uza kuba neeyure eziyi-1-1.5 zexesha lokuphumla okanye isifundo esibalulekileyo.
Ngoko, masithethe ngeenzuzo zexesha elimangalisayo ebomini yowesifazane - ikhefu lokubeleka.
1. Uyiqonda into engafanelekanga, kodwa umsebenzi ophezulu wobomi "ngumama".
Yintoni enokuba yinto enhle ebomini, njengokunyamekela iintsana nokukhulisa abantwana babo? Unamahora angama-24 ngosuku ukuze usondele kumntwana wakho. Xa ebomini bakho uya kuba neli thuba? Ufunda ukuhlala kunye, ukuhamba, ukuthetha, nangemva konyaka-ukuphucula izakhono ezifumanekayo. Unesizi kwaye uyonwabile, kunye kunye nazi ihlabathi elikujikelezayo. Kuyaziwa ukuba ingqondo yengane inomdla "inokuthatha" ulwazi kwiminyaka emithathu yokuqala yobomi. Unethuba elihle lokufundisa "ubutyebi" bakho kuzo zonke iziseko zobomi banamhlanje, kwaye ngexesha elifanayo ukufunda ezininzi.
Ubomi bwanamhlanje bunikeza amathuba amaninzi okukhula kunye nophuhliso lwabantu ekhaya.
Oku akunjalo kuma-80, xa bekungekho fowuni kwindlu. Ngoku, phambi koxhulumaniso lwe-intanethi, i-intanethi inokuthi, okungenani imizuzu engama-20-30 ngosuku, inike ukuphuhliswa kwamakhono abo okuqonda. Ungakwazi nokuqala ukufunda ulwimi lwangaphandle okanye, umzekelo, ukuza nesicwangciso sakho seshishini (mhlawumbi siya kusebenza).
Ngokomntu, ndafunda isiNgesi, ndafunda iincwadi zemali kwaye ndacinga nokungena eyunivesiti ...
3. Ummiselo uquka ukunciphisa inzuzo yentsapho ngomvuzo omnye. Ngaloo ndlela, oku kunika umtshini ukuba ibhinqa lifune kwaye lifumane umthombo wenkcitho eyongezelelweyo.
Mhlawumbi uyazibuza ukuba kutheni umfazi kufanele afumane imali ngokuhlala kwisimiselo. Ewe, kuyinto enhle ukuba umyeni wakho athole ngokwaneleyo ukuba anelise zonke iimfuno zakho kunye neentsapho zakho, kodwa ukuba uyaziphelisa iziphumo, kuya kucebisa ukuba ufumane imali kunye nezonyango zakho.
Kwaye unokwazi ukudlala indiza yefantasy yakho ... Unako ukudibanisa - ukudibanisa ukuze ulandelele, ungabhala izibhengezo okanye uguqule itekisi - bhengeza uphinde ukhangele abathengi, unokufumana "umsebenzi" njengomsasazo ekuthengiseni inethwekhi nokusabalalisa izimonyo phakathi koomama bakho, ekugqibeleni, unokufumana nokufumana i-Intanethi. Konke kusezandleni zakho!
4. Ikhefu lokubeletha linika ithuba lokuphila ngokwezihlomelo zakho kumntwana wakho kunye nomntwana wakho, kungekhona ngokwemiselo yomqeshi.
Umntu kum, indlela enjalo ikulungele ukuphakama ezintandathu, akucaci ukuba kuhleli ixesha elingakanani ukuhlala kwaye uhlale eofeni ukwenza umsebenzi oqhelekileyo. Andiyi khanyele ukuba ishedyuli yomama nomntwana omncinci kakhulu, kodwa le yinkqubo yakho siqu, kwaye ingagcinwanga ngumntu ovela phezulu.
Omnye uya kuthetha ukuba oku akunakwenzekayo, ukuba umntwana uthatha lonke ixesha lokukhulula, iiyure ezingama-24 ngosuku, akukho xesha lokuphumla, kungabhekiseli kokunye. Kodwa konke kusezandleni zakho! Ukuba ufuna, unokuhlala ufumana into ebonakala ngathi ayikho, kunye nexesha.
Ukunyamekela intombi yam, ndiye ndazisola kakhulu, ndafunda ezininzi. Ikhefu elilungileyo kum mna kwakungekho isizathu sokudandatheka kunye ne-samopostva, eli lixesha elide lokuzibona njengowesifazane, ixesha apho akudingeki ukuba ubuze umphathi, kodwa ngumntwana wakho othandekayo nothando. Eli xesha alize libuyiselwe, lingasetyenziselwa kuphela ngenzuzo enkulu.
Kwaye ukuba ngokukhawuleza okanye kamva ufuna ukutshintsha uhlobo lomsebenzi - uye kumyalelo. Esi sihlandlo sokuphinda ucamngce ubomi, sifunde kakhulu, kwaye kwixesha elizayo - ukuqhubeka kunye namaxesha akho, kodwa ubuncinane kwimilenze emine nemilenze. Ngendlela efanelekileyo!