Mhlawumbi umphathi wakho unomsindo omkhulu, kodwa uthanda ukuthetha, kunye nokumemeza, oko kukuthi, ukumbonisa indlela awayeyijonga ngayo. Uhlala unqamle ukuthetha, udibanise ngokucaphukisa. Mhlawumbi, akufanele ubeke ingqalelo kubantu abanjalo, nje ungawahoyi okanye uzenza ngathi uphulaphule umculo? Kwaye xa umnqamle ongathandekiyo uya kuqalisa ingxoxo, zama ukukuncwina okanye ukufumanisa, ngoko umthumelele ngokuzithoba, uthi uninzi ukwenza kwaye kufuneka usebenze. Abantu abaninzi, bengenawo "amanqaku oqhagamshelwano" kunye nomphathi, ngenxa yoko bashiywe ngaphandle komsebenzi, baxoshwa.
Ukuba awufuni ukulahlekelwa ngumsebenzi wakho ngenxa yomphathi obunzima, sebenzisa izi ngcebiso ezilandelayo, ngenxa yokuba awukwazi kuphela ukuseka ubudlelwane nomntu onzima, kodwa unokukwazi ukuguqula isimo sakho sengqondo kumgangatho wangaphakathi.
Khangela ujonge
UMat Brown, umlawuli wenkampani yokubonisana ne-YSC uthe abantu baya kwintlangano kungekhona ukuze baphathise ubomi bakho kwaye benze umsebenzi wakho ngokungafanelekileyo. Zama ukuqonda ukuba yintoni ingcambu yengxaki. Oko kukuqonda isizathu sokuba umntu enze oku, yintoni eyamkhuthaza, kutheni ulahlekelwa ngumsindo.
Qala ukucinga ngokuhlukileyo
Ukuba wena, uqala ukuthetha nomntu, sele uyamphatha u-Knome njenge-interlocutor engathandekiyo kwaye enzima, incoko inokuthi ikwazi ukukhawuleza ingxoxo - udala uxhaphaza, kodwa le nto ayiphumelekanga kumbuzo. Mhlawumbi umphathi wakho akayena umntu onzima, akakhange abukeke ngathi.
Shintsha zakho izenzo
Ukuba asikwazi ukufumana ulwimi oluqhelekileyo kunye nobudlelwane obunzima, kuya kuba lula ukufezekisa isimo sakhe nokuqonda, ukugxila kwizinto azifunayo kuwe. Ngokuqinisekileyo, unokucinga ukuba: "Kutheni ndimele nditshintshe ngenxa yabanye abantu, kuba ingxaki ayikho?" Kodwa cinga ngento yokuba awukwazi ukunika umphathi wakho nayiphi na ingxaki, kodwa ubonakala ngathi yingxaki efuneka ixazululwe, kwaye oku ukufezekisa, ukwenza, wena - umphathi wakho uyavuya ngayo yonke into. Kufuneka ufike ngendlela efanelekileyo yokuqhagamshelana kwaye uthathe uxanduva ngokupheleleyo. Mhlawumbi ingxaki kukuba uqhuba ngokungahambi kakuhle, khangela iimbono zakho uze uqale ukwenza ngendlela eyahlukileyo.
Musa ukulibazisa isisombululo seengxaki
Qonda ukuba ixesha elide ulibazisa isigqibo salolu msebenzi, luya kuba lukhulu, kwaye kungekudala uza kuba ibango elikhulu kumphathi wakho kwaye ingxaki iya kuba nzima ukuyixazulula. Ukubeka onke amanqaku angentla "kunye" ngamanye amaxesha akwanele incoko enye. Matt Browne, ukuba uqale ufune ukuqonda intsingiselo yenkinga, ukuba unengxabano nomntu ongaphezu kwakho.
Ukuthetha kwizinga labo
Vosnovnom kwiimeko ezinzima, abantu baqala ukucombulula ingxaki yeendlela eziqhelekileyo zonxibelelwano, kunye neemeko nje ngokutshisa. Kuya kuba ngcono ukuba uqonde indlela indlela yokuthetha yakho eyahlukileyo ngayo eyahlukileyo kwindlela yokuqhagamshelana nomphathi wakho, kwaye uzame ukuthetha "ngolwimi lwakhe".
Ukuba kufuneka utshele umphathi weendaba ezimbi - lungele ukulungelelanisa
Ukuba unobungozi obukhulu kunye nomphathi wakho, ngoko kunzima ukuvakalisa iindaba ezimbi, kwaye awufuni. Kodwa ezo ziphumo ezimbi eziza kuhlangana nazo emva kokuba oku kukwazi ukulungiswa ngokuthe ngqo kwezenzo zabo. Musa ukucinga ngeemvakalelo zakho, gxininisa into ephambili.
Musa ukukhuthaza ukuziphatha okubi
Musa ukuyicombulula iingxaki zomphathi wakho, ngaphandle koko uya kufuneka uyenze kwakhona rhoqo kwakhona. Ukuba abantu bazame ukutsala ingqalelo kwiingxabano, musa ukuvumela ukuba benze. Nangona uphumelela kwimpikiswano, uya kulahleka imfazwe.
Yicacile kwaye ihambelane
Ukuba awuyithandi indlela umntu aziphatha ngayo, xelela ngaye kwaye ubonise ukuba nguye onokutshintsha. Ukuba umphathi uyaqhubeka nokuziphatha kakubi, xelela ngokukhawuleza, kwaye ngokuthe ngqo-ungalindeli abaphulaphuli abasemthethweni.
Musa ukuqwalasela iindlela, jolise kwiinjongo
Ngamanye amaxesha ingxaki ivela okanye ingcali ayifuni, xa ucinga ixesha elide malunga neendlela zokuzisombulula, kungekhona malunga neyasama. Wena ngokwakho kufuneka ubonise ngokucacileyo oko kufuneka ukufezekisa. Gxininisa kwinjongo yencoko, u-Ana kukho konke kuhamba kakuhle kwaye "uthathe".
Kukho izinto ezingenakho ukulungiswa ukulungiswa
Iingcali zengqondo zithi umntu unokuziphatha ngale ndlela, kuba le nkampani okanye inhlangano ayihambisani nayo. Mhlawumbi kuya kuba lula kuwe ukuba utshintshe imimiselo yesivumelwano okanye, ngokubanzi, ukuyeka phantsi - ukwenqaba iinkonzo zakhe. Kukho imeko elolo hlobo, umzekelo, xa umntu ebonisa uxhaphazo kwaye akakwazi ukujamelana nalo nhlobo. Kwaye isisombululo apha nento enye kuphela - ukuba kusemandleni akho, ke umlilo osebenza naye okanye uziyeke.
Yehla Uthando!
Iingcali ezininzi zeengqondo zithi kukho enye indlela emangalisayo neyokugqibela yokusombulula ingxaki-ukuqhuba kunye nomphathi. Ukuba kunzima ukuthetha nomntu, ngoko kufuneka uhambe naye emthandweni, kwaye akunzima nakubantu bonke, kuba wonke umntu akanalo iimpawu ezimbi kuphela, kodwa ezilungileyo. Mxabisa umntu, ucinge zonke iimpawu zakhe, kwaye uqonde ukuba uyasimangalisa kwaye uyayimfuneko. Nanini na xa sithandana, zonke iingxaki zisecaleni lethu, nangaphezulu, awuboni. Njalo umzuzu wokunxibelelana uyaba nqwenela kwaye uvelise uvuyo, kwaye xa umntu ephawula oko kukulethela ulonwabo, yena ngokwakhe uqala ukutshintsha ukuphucula!