Umyeni akafuni ukusebenza

Umyeni wakho akafuni ukusebenza, okanye kunokuba akafuni kwaye akazami ukuqala ukusebenza. Waba ngumntu ohlaseleyo kwaye wahlala phantsi kwintombi yakho, entanyeni. Uhlobo olubizwa ngokuba ngumyeni noyise wentsapho. Kodwa ukuba akafuni ukusebenza, ngoko ke unjani uhlobo lwesondlo? Yintoni onokuyenza kule meko kwaye kufuneka unqume ukuqhawula umyeni wakho?

Makhe sijonge kule meko kwaye sifune indlela yokuphuma kuyo. Ndiyakwazi ukukuxelela kuphela kumava am, indlela yokuphuma kwimeko xa indoda engathandi ukusebenzisana yintsebenziswano yomtshato womntu omtshato.

Ngethuba lethu, xa umfazi sele ejwayele ukubonakalisa ukulingana nendoda, sele kunzima ukuba nabani na ukuba bamangaliswe ukuba uqala ukunyamekela yena kuphela, kodwa ngomyeni wakhe, ezithwala uxanduva lokubonelela kwintsapho. Ngokuqhelekileyo, umyeni ongafuni ukusebenza ngumhlobo wamadoda obizwa ngokuba yi-gigolo, kwaye, njengommiselo, uhlaziyekile kwaye unxiliswe (ngesizathu esithile eRashiya kwaba njalo). Kuyenzeka, njalo njalo, ukuba umfazi akakhange akhangwe yiinkathalo zasekhaya kunye neengxaki kwaye umyeni uthatha indawo yakhe kwintsapho.

Ukuba le meko yimiba ifanelekile bobabini abatshatileyo, kuba kutheni bengayitshintshi indima. Umyeni uya kuzinyamekela abantwana kunye nokugcina indlu, kwaye umfazi uya kwenza umsebenzi kwiofisi okanye kwimveliso.
Ukuba ngaba kunjalo kwimeko yakho, kutheni ungatshintshi indima?
Indoda iya kuba ngumgcini wendlu, kunye nomfazi, oko kukuthi, wena-umgcini wesondlo. Kwaye ngokubaluleke kakhulu kuya kuhambelana nawe.

Ukuba yonke into iphosakeleyo kuwe, kwaye umyeni onqabileyo akafuni ukusebenza, efuna izizathu eziqhubekayo kunye nokwenza i-parasitism, ukudakwa; ngoko kufuneka uthathe izigqibo eziphambili.

Okokuqala, zicacise ukuba umyeni wakho awunamsebenzi ukumbona nokunyanzela ukukhangela umsebenzi ukusuka phantsi kwetonga. Qala ukuba uzibandakanye ngokwawo ozithandayo kunye nabantwana, uyekile ukuphatha nokuxabisa umyeni. Unento ebaluleke ngakumbi ukuyenza naye. Kufuneka ukhethe umsebenzi, uqhubeke phambili kwinkonzo.

Ukuba umyeni wakho akayikho sidenge, kwaye akazange alahlekelwe amandla okucinga ngokucokisekileyo, ngoko ukuziphatha kwakho kufuneka kumenze acinge. Mhlawumbi umyeni wam, nangona akafuni ukusebenza, kodwa uya kufuneka enze ubuncinci ukuzama ukuhlala phantsi aze asebenze ixesha elithile. Mhlawumbi umyeni wakho uya kuyifumana imveliso yakhe kwimarike yomsebenzi kwaye uya kufumana, ngaphezu kwezinto eziphathekayo, kwaneliseko lokuziphatha. Khumbula, ungalwi kwaye ungaphathi kakubi nomoya, umemeza kunye nomyeni wakho ukuba akafuni ukusebenza. Unakekele iimbilini zakho. Ziyaziwa ukuba zingabuyiselwa. Umyeni wakho akanako ukufundiswa kwakhona, kuba ungumdala kwaye ukhululekile ukulahla ubomi bakhe njengoko ethanda.

Xa ufika kwindawo yokubilisa ngenxa yokuba umyeni wakho akafuni ukusebenza kwaye akayi kuthatha nawaphi na amanyathelo okuza kukuhlangabeza, unako ukukhetha ezimbini:

- Owokuqala ukukhangela elinye iqabane lomntu, ekubeni indoda yakho iyinto yokungaqondi kakuhle kunye nempazamo.

- okwesibini: mhlawumbi awuboni imizamo eyenziwa ngumyeni wakho ukulungisa imeko. Uphelelwe ngumsebenzi kwaye uphumele ngaphandle kwakho ukunganeliseki ebomini.
Okanye mhlawumbi kulungele ukuba ahlale nawe kunye neendleko zakho. Unokukhetha ezimbini nokuba uqhubeke noxanduva, okanye ukuphula le mijikelezo yeemeko. Ewe, kwaye ufundeka xa umntu ezinyamekela malunga nosapho, kwaye ukuba lo mntu, kulo meko, uyayinyamekela intsapho, kutheni umyeni wakho kufuneka aphume kwesikhumba sakhe. Unomsebenzi omuhle kulobu bomi, usebenza, kwaye uhlala ekhaya. Thelekisa iinyani, cinga. Nquma. Okukhethiweyo kukukho. Zama ukunika umyeni wakho ithuba lokugqibela. Into esihogo ayiyikuhleka. Mhlawumbi ke uya kuphumelela, abe ngumntu oqhelekileyo osebenzayo, intloko yentsapho yakho kunye noyise olungileyo wabantwana bakho.