Kule nqaku, siza kuthetha ngamathoyizi avumela ukuba udibanise ubomi obusondlo bobulili kwaye uvelise izinto ezimnandi kwiinkqubo zokunxibelelana ngokusondeleyo. Kodwa ngaba abameli beenkcubeko ezahlukeneyo kunye nobudala bahambelana njani nemveliso evela kwisitolo sezesondo?
Abaninzi abaselula banokuqonda isizathu sokuba basebenzise impahla kwivenkile esondelene nayo, kodwa izinto ezinjalo ziyakwazi ukuqhuba abantu abatsha, ingakumbi amantombazana ayipende. Abantu abaneminyaka engamashumi amabini anesithandathu ubudala abaye bazama ezininzi izinto zokuzonwabisa zesondo, kodwa abangazange bafumane ixesha lokuzifumana ezipheleleyo, bakholelwa ukuba iirubha kunye neminye imikhiqizo ayinakuyisebenzisa. Kodwa umntu oneminyaka engama-35 ukuya kuma-40 ubudala ubonisa umdla onyanisekileyo kwizilwanyana, indawo yokufaka indawo yabasetyhini, iibhola kunye nezinye izinto ezingabonakaliyo. Oku akumangalisiyo, kuba abameli beli qela sele benalo lonke ukubonakaliswa ngokugcwele kwamandla omzimba wabo, babe nexesha lokuzama phantse lonke uluhlu lwemidlalo yothando kwaye banomdla kwindlela yokudibanisa ubomi obusondelene nabo. Abantu besizukulwana esidala babhekisela kwimveliso esekwe-zesini-ezahlukeneyo: omnye umntu ubonisa umdla, umntu onjalo amathoyizi akhathalelekanga, abanye baziva benesidingo esingenanto.
Kwaye ngoku ucinga malunga nendlela ozivakalelwa ngayo xa uva inqaku elithi "ivenkile yesondo", "iimpahla ezithandana"? Ngaba awunamdla okanye unamahloni ukuvuma nakweyakho ukuba ungathanda ukuzama into evela kwibala? I-Sexologists, abaye baphanda le ngxaki, bathi ukuhlazeka kufuneka kubangele ukungabi nentshisekelo kumathoyizi athile.
Abantu abadala, abadlula ngeentengiso zesini, bavuthiwe ngenxa yokuba ngemali yakho uya kuzama ukukrazula nantoni na. Abantu abaneminyaka yobudala babonisa intsingiselo yentsapho kwaye musa ukuvakashela i-assortment. Abasetyhini abasemaMidlangalaleni baninzi bakholelwa ukuba izitolo ezithandana nazo zifumaneka ngokubanzi kwiikhonkco kwaye kulungele ukunciphisa ubuninzi babo.
Kodwa makhe sijonge amanani. Ngoko, kwi-megalopolis enkulu enjengeMoscow, kukho iindawo ezithengayo ezingaphezu kweethathu, apho umntu angathenga khona amathoyizi ngesondo. Kukho amaziko amaninzi anjalo eBerlin: kukho izihlandlo ezi-3 abantu abangaphantsi kwesi sixeko kunokomkhulu waseRashiya, kodwa kukho izitolo zeentlobano ezingaphezu kwama-130.
Ngubani oqhelekileyo kwisitolo sezesondo?
I-Psychoanalyst kunye ne-sexologists bathi iidlwane ezithandanayo zinomdla kulabo ababandakanyekayo ekufundeni ubulili babo kwaye bazama ukuphucula ubulunga. Kucacile ukuba, aba bantu banqwenela ukuba nobulili obuphezulu, ngelixa behambisa umxhelo omkhulu kumlingane.
Ukuba umntu ulungelelaniso ngecala lenyama, uzama ukutshintsha ubomi bakhe obusondeleyo.
Iindwendwe ezingakumbi kwiintengiso zesondo zithenga ithoyizi ngenxa yesizathu esilula ukuba abanalo iqabane elithile, kwaye amandla ezesondo awanelisi kwaye idinga ukuhoxiswa.
Makhe sijonge kwimbali
Izinto zokudlala zezo zesini zaqalwa kungekudala ezingama-100, kwaye kungekhona iminyaka engama-200 edlulileyo-zazikho kwiYiputa yaseYiputa naseGrisi. Ngoko, ekuveleni kokugqibela kwamaplasethi enkuni kuye kwafakwa ngokuphantse ukuba kungabikho ukuhamba. Iimveliso ezintle ezisetyenziselwa ukuzithuthuzela kunye nabasetyhini baseRoma baseRoma, abanokulinda iminyaka emininzi, bathandana ngesondo kunye ne-srabs. Iimfuno zadibaniswa ngoncedo lwezitho zobulili zesini, eziveliswe kwiindibano ezizodwa.
Amasonto amaKatolika kunye namaProthestani axhasa into enjalo. Ngaphezu koko, ngekhulu le-18, ii-cardinals zazama ukunyanzela upapa ukuba athethe ngokucacileyo kwaye avumele amakholwa ukuba asebenzise iidysayini zesondo. Enyanisweni, isibheno asizange siphendulwe - umgqugquzeli ohlakaniphileyo wagweba ukuba ibandla alifanele liphazamise ebomini obusondeleyo bendawo.
U-Hitler wayenakuvuyela nokuba khona kweentengiso zesini-mthetho ezithintela urhwebo kwimpahla esondeleyo. Amajoni kufuneka avelise iimpahla ezintle kumazwe angummelwane.
Okubaluleke kunabo bonke babengabesifazana baseSoviet, abangazange bavelele ukuba kwiindawo eziseleyo entshonalanga kukho izinto ezinomdla, kwaye benza uhlobo oluthile lwezilwanyana ngezandla zabo.
Siya kwivenkile yesondo
Njengoko ungalindela, izinto ezidumileyo zifana nezidalwa kunye nezidubisi. Iingqapheli zithi ama-43% aseBritoni, ama-60% aseMerika amabhinqa kunye nama-66% amabhinqa aseJamani anenani ubuncinane iitokethi ezithengwa kwisitolo sesondo. Kuthiwani ngabafazi bethu? Kuvela ukuba 4% kuphela yabemi be-Soviet indawo eneemveliso ezintle.
Uninzi olunzima lwabatshabalala kunye namadada avela kwelinye icala lubonisa ukuba abafazi abatholi ukuhlaziya ngokwesondo ngexesha le-caresses esondelene nabo kunye nokulala ngesini kunye nabalingani. Kodwa ngakolunye uhlangothi, abafazi baseNtshona bakhululeka ngokwemigqaliselo yesondo, ngoko ke kulula ukuba zonke iziphumo zenzeke zigqitywe. Ngaphezu koko, le mizamo ikuvumela ukuba uqondisise kangcono umzimba wakho, kwaye emva koko ufumane uvuyo olubanzi kwiNxibelelwano lwabaSebenzi.
Ukuqhubela phambili kulo, i-sexologists icebisa ukuba i-vibratoevdva ingabi yiyo yonke ibhinqa, iphikisana nombono wabo wokuba itekisi ingazisa ubomi bobulili kumgangatho omgangatho ophezulu.