Kutheni? Siza kuchaza oku ngezantsi. Ziziphi izizathu zethu zokujamelana nesondo, iziyobisi, utywala kunye nokutshaya: sichasene nale nto, kuba zikhokelela ekuziphatheni kakubi, izifo zengqondo, njengobuninzi, kwaye ubuncinci kwiingxaki ezinzulu zempilo, umphefumlo. Sichasene nale, kuba siyazi imiphumo yokusetyenziswa kakubi komntu ngamnye.
Akunakudingi ukupenda iindidi ezide malunga nokulimala kokutshaya kunye notywala. Ukuthetha ngolu hlobo, alulimazi nje kuphela impilo yomsebenzisi, kodwa kunye nempilo yabantwana bakhe, abazukulwana. Utywala utshabalalisa ukuziphatha, umlingiswa womntu. Kuboniswe ukuba abaphuculi bezobisi bahlambalaza, uhlamvu lwabo luyatshintsha, kwaye ngobunzulu bokuba bangakwazi ukunyamezela abantu abazungezile, nangona bona ngokwabo abanakuyibona. Imvakalelo, ukuziphatha, iimvakalelo, ukunxibelelana nabantu kunye nenyaniso kubhujiswa. Umntu unqabile ukuba ngokwakhe, ngaphandle koko, ubonisa ukuba ubuthathaka kangakanani, ukuxhomekeka kwimiba. Utywala ngokukhawuleza uthatha umntu, yena ngokwakhe uyazibhubhisa ngaphakathi. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba ubuthathaka ngokuziphatha ngokungafuni, okanye akanandaba. Kuyafana nokusetyenziswa kwezidakamizwa. Kubonakala ngathi banamandla kakhulu, kwaye ukutshaya iziyobisi kakubi ngokwenene. Kodwa oku akunjalo, iziyobisi zinobuchule obuhlukeneyo kunye nokufikeleleka, ukuxhatshazwa kwezidakamizwa akukho ndawo kwaye abantu abagulayo baya kuba baninzi. Kuyadabukisa ukuba izidakamizwa zithathwa ngabantu bonke abatsha nabancinci. Ukungazi kakuhle izenzo zabo, befuna ukufuduka kwizinto eziyinyani okanye ukufumana ukuvalelwa kwintsholongwane, abatsha abasebenzisa iziyobisi bebuthathaka kuqala, koko banamandla, bengakhange baqaphele ukuba kungekudala baba ngumlutha. Ubomi buhamba bunzima, iimpawu zokuziphatha ziya kwimvelaphi, yonke into iya kwesibini, ngaphandle kwesifiso kunye nesidingo sokufumana i-dose entsha. Sichasene nale, ngaba wena?
Ukubhema kuyisicatshulwa esifanayo, kuphela kubuthakathaka ngenxa yesenzo salo, kubonakala ngathi ukufihla ubuncinane besongelo ngokwalo. Kodwa ngaba kunjalo? Abanye abantu abayi kuze bazame ukusebenzisa iziyobisi ngenxa yokuba bayazi kakuhle amandla okwenza kwabo kunye nokutshatyalaliswa kwangoku komntu abathwalayo. Kodwa kusekunjalo bakhetha ukutshaya, okuyiyobisi esicuthakathaka, kwaye baba ngumlutha wobomi, bachitha nje ngaphakathi. Ewe, le nkunkuma ibuthathaka ngenxa yempembelelo yayo kunye namandla omlutha, ukuba iyalingwa okanye isebenzise amaxesha amaninzi. Kodwa le "mvavanyo" sele isele inyathelo elibhekiselele ekuxhomekeke kuyo, elihlala iminyaka, kwaye nakubomi bakho bonke. Ukutshaya kunenempembelelo embi. Abo ababa ngumlwelisi abasongela impilo yabo kuphela, kodwa nabantwana, abantu ababajikelezile, kuba ababhemayo abathintekayo baninzi kakhulu kule nto. Umonakalo kwimpilo uyamangalisa kakhulu, kodwa ngaphandle kwalokhu, ukutshaya kutshabalalisa sisuka ngaphakathi nangaphandle: amazinyo aphuzi, ulusu oluluphuzi nolunobungozi, ezininzi iziphoso zalo ziphindaphinda, zivumba umlomo, iziqholo phantsi kwamehlo, ezincinci, ezinomso . Intombazana yokutshaya kunzima ukubuyela kwakhona kwimeko yangaphambili yomgangatho wokuhle. Ngaba ukulungelelaniswa nemihlatshelo enjalo ngenxa yokuxhatshazwa kweziyobisi? Ngamanye kwezi zinto azivelisi nto enhle, kuphela ukutshatyalaliswa. Izigulane ezingabonakaliyo kule nkcazelo, ziphephe. Abanye babuthathaka kakhulu ukuhlangabezana nomnqweno wabo, ukuxhomekeka kwabo. Zizungeze ngodonga lwezinto ezikhohlakeleyo, izizathu. Baxhamla kwizengqondo zabo, ukungafani kunye nokufumana into abazozisola ngayo ukuze baqikelele izenzo zabo. Kungaba nantoni na. Kodwa musa ukulibala ukuba ngamnye wethu uyinkosi yesiphelo sethu kunye nobomi. Akukho mntu kodwa thina sinokusinceda okanye senze isigqibo sokuba senze ntoni, indlela yokuphila, ngokumelene nento yokulwa okanye into ekufuneka siyenze ngayo, senze sizithembele.
Kancinane ngenye icala, sicinga ngesondo, kuba asikho kwiqela elidlulileyo kunye neziyobisi zengxaki. Ngaphandle koko, kunokuba ngamnye wethu uyazi, isondo siyimfuneko, ngokwalo kulungile, kodwa oku kukho imeko ethile. Ukwabelana ngesondo - oku kuyingxenye yobudlelwane bokuthandana, ngaphandle kokuba kukho uxhulumano olujulile ngokomoya nangokwengqondo phakathi kwabo. Umntu onothando, sithetha oko sikuthanda umphefumlo wakhe, inkambo yeengcamango zakhe nokubonakala kwakhe. Ukuba elinye lala maphupha liyawa - akusikho uthando. Ukuba sele sithandana nomntu, siyayiqonda ngokupheleleyo, siyifaka ebomini bethu, umphefumlo, intliziyo. Ukwabelana ngesondo ngenye yezindlela zokunandipha umzimba, ukunandipha ukuvakalelwa komntu othandekayo kuthi, apha, ngokulandelayo. Ukongezelela, ngaphandle kobulili abayi kuba nabantwana, kwaye, njengokuba siyazi, iintyatyambo zobomi, injongo ephakamileyo kunye neyona nto yokugqibela kwimibano emininzi.
Kodwa ngokuphindaphindiweyo isicatshulwa ngokwesini, sinciphisa indlela yokuzonwabisa, kungakhathaliseki ukuba njani kunye nobani. Yiyiphi impazamo eyenza ngubani olingane naye kwaye uvakalelwa yintoni, kubaluleke kakhulu - ukuzonwabisa kwakhe, isimo somthandi okanye umfundisikazi wothando. Kodwa lo lu thando? Ukongezelela, ngoku ngokuphindaphindiweyo kwi-duet ubulili kunye neziyobisi okanye ngokwesondo kunye notywala-kwaye oku kuyinyathelo lokuqala kwiimpembelelo eziphosakeleyo nezizalisekileyo zobomi.
Sichasene nesondo, utywala, utywala kunye nokutshaya. Kodwa wonke umntu ukhetha indlela yakhe kunye nokuba uya kuba yintoni kunye nenjongo yakhe.