Ukuzithandana ngokugqithiseleyo ukuzingca, okuphethwe yingxaki ebudlelwaneni kunye nephupha eliphukileyo malunga nekamva elihle.
I-Egoism ibulala iintsapho
Kwiminyaka engamashumi amathathu edlulileyo igama elithi "umtshato" lalixhaphaza. Babesaba ukuqhawula umtshato, babe neentloni, kwaye akuzange kwenzeke nabani na ukuba bavelele. Ngoku ingaphezulu kwesahlulo seentsapho ziphuka ukusuka kwinani elenziwe. Kwaye oku akukwenzeka nje kuphela kuba iindleko zentsapho ziphulwa, kodwa ngenxa yokuba akukho mntu ucinga malunga nokulwa nokuzingca phakathi kwabantu.
Ngokomgaqo, kukho uxhulumano oluthile phakathi kokuhla kwexabiso lokubaluleka kweentsapho kunye nokunyuka kwinqanaba lokuzingca. Intsapho iyimvelo enye apho "enye kubo bonke kunye nayo yonke." Kwintsapho kubalulekile ukuba akwazi ukuthabatha kuphela, kodwa ukunika. Kwaye okwesibini kubaluleke kakhulu ekwakheni ubomi bentsapho obuyimpumelelo. Iimagazini ezigubungelayo kunye nemihla ngemihla yeTV zikhuthaza indlela yokuziphatha eyahlukileyo. Ngoku kuyimfashini ukufumana nokungazivumeli i-oligarch ukuba kungengowomtshato, ngoko ubuncinane ubuhlobo obuthathane kunye nezipho ezininzi. Amadoda afumaneka ngeteknoloji ukuba angayithobeli ingqalelo kwimeko yengqondo yomfazi, ukufudumala okanye ukuveliswa kwemvelo kamama, kodwa ukudibanisa imifashiselo yamuva kwintsimi yokubonakala. Amadoda ayesabi ngakumbi njengaphambili, iibisi ze-silicone okanye izindebe ezinomdaka ngendlela ye-pelmeni, bona abazikhumbuli ukuba ibhinqa labo lenze ngeenkqubo eziyingozi ngenxa yobuhle besikhashana.
Ukuzikhukhumeza kubhuqa imisebenzi
I-egoists idla ngokuzithemba ngokuzimeleyo, nokuba omnye unokuthi iphakanyisiwe. Kubudlelwane phakathi kwabantu abasemashishini, oku kungabini kunye nokunciphisa.
Ukudibanisa kukuba kulula ukuba i-egoists zizithengise ngokwazo. Bakhawuleza ngokukhawuleza iimpawu zabo ezifanelekileyo kunye nezakhono zabo, kwaye banako ukunqoba ukukhuphisana okukhulu kwiprojekthi. Oku kubaluleke kakhulu kumacandelo anxulumene ne-cinema, iindidi, ishishini lomzekelo okanye ubonise ishishini. Kwaye kwiinkampani, iitalente ezincinci ezikwazi ukuzithobela ngokwazo ngamanye amaxesha zifunwa ngaphezu kweengcali ezizithobekileyo kunye neengqondi eziyazi ibhizinisi labo. Kodwa le nto yecala enye yecala.
Icala lesibini kukuba ngokwemibare yabantu abaphumelele kakhulu kwishishini baye bavavanya ukuvavanya kwempumelelo yabo. Bahlala benganeliseki ngento ethile ngaphakathi kwabo, kodwa abanelisekanga ngezinto ezincinci. Oku kubakhuthaza ukuba banqume ubunzulu babo izakhono kunye nezakhono zabo. Kwaye nangona umqeshwa onjalo enza okuthile ngexesha lokumisa, ke ikhulu lexesha uya kuba ngcono kunamashumi asithoba anesithoba. Yaye ikhulu kunye neyokuqala iya kwenza iphrojekthi yakhe ibe bhetele kunekhulu. Abaqeshi abahlakaniphile bayazi le nto, kunye nezoshishino, kukho i-marhwebo ngokwayo ngokukhawuleza imbeke umntu oye waya kude.
Kuyinto yesiko ukucinga ukuba abantu abaphumelelayo kweli lizwe baqale bavusa isimo sengqondo esibi kwabanye. Ngokukodwa, bathetha, bachaphazelekayo ngabashishini bezakhono, abaphathi abaphezulu kunye nabashishini. Konke oku akunjalo. Abantu abakwazi ukunqoba ukuzingca kwabo kwaye banako ukushiya i-footestal ngexesha, ukufumana uxhulumano olufudumele nabanye, banokufumana izigidi, kwaye ngelo xesha baya kuba neenqweno ezimbi. Yingakho ukunqoba ukuzingca komnye wemisebenzi ebalulekileyo ejongene nayo nayiphi na umntu olungiselelwe umsebenzi ophumelelayo.
Indlela yokulwa nokuzingca
Ukuba uyazi ngesono esinjengokuziphatha kobugovu, kufuneka ucinge ngendlela yokulwa nokuzingca phakathi kwabantu. Konke kuxhomekeke ekugxininiseni ngokukrakra ukuzingca kwakho.
Ukuba nguwe yedwa umntwana kunye nenambuba yomhlaba kubazali, bekuya kuba nzima ukunqoba intsapho. Okokuqala, kufuneka uhambe entliziyweni yengcamango yokuba abantu abajikelezileyo abanengqiqo, abanentsingiselo, abahle, abanetalente ngaphezu kwakho.
Emva koko kufuneka ufunde ukulahla i-egocentrism. Ngokuzimelela, bonke abantwana baya kuphuhlisa. Oku kubaluleke kakhulu ekwakheni ubuntu bomntu. Ubungakanani be-egocentrism yobuntombi buwela kwiminyaka emihlanu ukuya kwimithandathu. Ngokwexesha lesikolweni, ugobe luyanqotshwa ngumntwana, kwaye ukuba oko kungenzeki, ngoko esikolweni unako ukuthabatha "amanqana" amaninzi kubalingana nabo ootitshala kunye nabo ootitshala. I-egocentrism ayikuthandi kwaye ayikwazi ukungena kwindawo yomntu. Ukuba uyaphawula ezi zinto, ukuzivocavoca apho uzimela khona kwindawo yomntu kunokukunceda, kwaye ucinge ngendlela oza kuziphatha ngayo imeko yakhe. Ngaphandle kokucebisa kunye nokuziqhayisa, kufuneka uzame ukusetyenziswa kwesikhumba somdlali wakho okanye umlingane, umhlobo okanye omaziyo, kunye neqonga kwiblogi ukuqonda iingcamango zakhe, amanyathelo afanelekileyo okusebenza.
Ukunqoba i-egoism kunokuphumelela xa ufunda ukuphulaphula abanye abantu. Ukuphulaphula nje akukwaneli, kubalulekile ukuba ukwazi ukuthetha nomnxibelelwano ukuze avulwe phambi kwakho. Ukwenza oku, kufuneka ufunde ubuchule bokuphulaphula. Ulawule ngokukhawuleza ingqwalasela yakho ukuphulaphula nje kuphela ingxelo, kodwa nakwi-intonation, ukuhlalutya ikhefu kunye nokungabaza, ulwimi lweelwimi kunye nokugcina izinto. Zonke ezi zibetho zincinci ezinokukwazi ukuhambisa inkcazo ecacileyo yimeko kunye nesimo sengqondo somnxibelelwano kuyo. Kwaye kwindlela, ubuchule bokuphulaphula ngokuthe ngqo kummandla bunobuncinane. Ngoko, kunokwenzeka ukuba uya kufuna iimzame zokuziqonda. Kodwa isiphumo siya kuba yiklasi yokuqala: uya kubona ukuba ihlabathi, eyahlula ibe ziintlobo ezimbini - abathandi kunye nomona - ngokukhawuleza landa kwaye linika ulwandle lwamathuba. Abantu abanobukhwele unakho ukuguqulela kwiqela labahlobo kunye nabalingane kwiiprojekthi, kunye nabaxhamlileyo uya kukwazi ukufumana izihloko ezinjalo kwingxoxo, apho yonke into ingajika. Mhlawumbi uza kufumana into apho wena ngokwakho unokunyaniseka ngokunyanisekileyo.
Kwaye, ekugqibeleni, kuyimfuneko ukuthetha malunga nokulwa ne "induced" egoism. Ngoko ke iimpawu zobuntu ezibekwe ngamajelo. Ukuze ulahlwe, unokuphela nje ukulahla onke amaphephancwadi uze ukhuphe iTV. Kwaye ungazama ukwakha umgama phakathi kwakho kunye nemifanekiso kwiphepha, ngaphandle kokuzama ukuxelisa abadumileyo.