Uvame ukuza kwindoda engumyeni oyiphupha, inkwenkwe? Ukuba awucingi ngomthandi wakho omdala, ke ungaphupha. Ukuba ulwalamano olufudumele kunye naye, ke iphupha owaliphuphayo ngalo alisho nto. Oku kunokwenzeka nakweyiphi na into eyaziwayo. Kodwa ukuba awuzange ukhumbule ngobudlelwane obudlulileyo kunye nexesha elidlulileyo lithinteke intlungu yokuhlukana, kwaye ke eli phupha elingalindelekanga, ngoko uqala ukukhathazeka ngokungakhathali, ukuthini konke oku kuthetha ntoni? Mhlawumbi lo mntu uza kuvela kwakhona ebomini bakho? Okanye ngaba ufuna kakhulu inkxaso yakho, uncedo? Okanye mhlawumbi uvakalelwa kukuthanda? Sinikeza ezinye iinguqulelo zamaphupha, ukuba uphupha umntu owayesithandayo.
Iphupha lomntu owayeyintanda
Ukuba ubone umntu wangaphambili ephupheni, kuthetha ukuba iimvakalelo zakhe azizange zife. Kukho inokwenzeka ukuba ulwalamano luya kuqala kwakhona xa kunokwenzeka. Ukuba ephupheni yonke into ikhangelekile ukuze uhlangane kwakhona, kuthetha ukuba intlungu okanye ukudandatheka emva kokuhlukana kuyahamba. Kufuneka uxhomekeke kwinto yokuba olu lwalamano luya kugqiba ukuba ngumxholo ogulayo kuwe kwaye ngokukhawuleza uzakulibala ngabo.
Xa uphupha umntu owayesithandayo ngothando lwakhe olutsha, lungiselela intlanganiso, kungekudala kuya kuba luncedo kuwe. Kukho ithuba lokwakha ubudlelwane obutsha, kodwa uyazaza, ukhumbule ngobudlelwane obudlulileyo. Akukho mfuneko yokuthelekisa. Ayikho isigqibo esona sihle - ukuba sihlale sisodwa.
Bathi ukuba umntu uya kuzibopha ngomtshato okanye sele sele edibeneyo, iphupha elinjalo malunga nomntu owayengumthandi angakwazi ukuphazamisa ubudlelwane bakho obutsha. Kukho ukuxabana okuvela kubungqina bokuba uza kuqhathanisa elidlulileyo kunye neqabane lakho langoku. Ukongezelela, ukungaphumeleli kwesiqingatha sesibini kuya kubonakala emehlweni akhe. Ngoko xa ubona iphupha elinjalo, thatha njengesilumkiso. Kwimeko yokungabikho komthetho okanye ukugonywa kumthandi, kungcono ukuthula kwaye ubambe. Ukuba awukwazi ukwenza oko, ungabeki umzekelo wobudlelwano obudlulileyo.
Iphupha apho umntu owayengumthandayo owayesithandayo wasinika isipho esingenanto, uthetha ukungathembeki, mhlawumbi nokungcatshiswa kweqabane lakhe langoku, ngakumbi ukuba isipho sasifakwe kwinto ebomvu. Qaphela.
Xa ubuhlobo buyekile ngenxa yokufa komntu othandekayo, kwaye emva kwesikhashana uphupha, kuthetha ukuba kungekudala uza kuba neengxaki. Xa umthandayo enokusindisa ephupheni, ungakhathazeki. Lo mntu uya kukukhusela ephuma ezulwini, ewe, ukuba uyakholelwa kwimfundiso.
Ukuba ubudlelwane abuphazanyiswa ngephutha lakho, ngoko akufanele ukhathazeke ngabafikelelwa rhoqo kwiphupha lomthandayo. Akusikho isizathu sokuba kuthethwa ukuba liphupha elithandayo. Kodwa ukuba iphupha liyinto engavamile, kuyafaneleka ukucinga. Ngokomzekelo, xa abathandekayo babesuka endleleni, ngoko umphefumlo ukhohliwe ngomntu. Kungekudala ukwahlukana kuya kuba kubi.
Xa umntu owayengumthandi wangaphambili efika kuwe ephupheni ngesicelo, kuthetha ukuba umthandi wangaphambili akanakukulibala. Ukuze ungaziva unetyala, nangona ukuphuka kwakungekho ngenxa yakho, thetha le ntliziyo ngentliziyo. Kwaye ukuba ufuna ukuphinda uqale ubuhlobo obudala, kufuneka ukuba kwenziwe ngokukhawuleza.
Oku kugqiba ukutolika kwento ekuthethwa ngayo xa bekade bephupha. Sithemba ukuba ufumene impendulo kumbuzo wakho. Inhlanhla kuwe!