Ukuphuhliswa ngokwesondo kunye nokukhuliswa komntwana kuhlanganiswe kwinkqubo yonke yemfundo kuwo wonke umzali onakekelayo! Sinokucinga ukuba xa kuhamba kakuhle ukuba aqonde, ngoko abazali bayazi kakhulu malunga nokukhulelwa kwaye kuya kuba sikhula umntu omhle! Kubalulekile ukukholelwa uFrud ukuba ukukhangwa kwezesondo kukukhokelela ebomini bomntu kwaye kuxhomekeka kwindlela ukukhula kocwangciso komntwana okanye umntwana oselula kuyakhula ngayo, kunye nendlela ikusasa lomntu eliza kuziphatha ngayo kuluntu.
Kuqala kuphi?
Ngokukhawulezileyo kukuhlehlisa iincoko, iiklabishi nezinye iimbali ezifanayo zookhokho bethu. Kufuneka nethemba lokuba akukho mntu ucinga ngoku. Musa ukuthulisa umntwana wakho ngamabali malunga nevenkile ekhethekileyo apho ungathenga khona abantwana - umntwana uya kukucela ukuba uye khona kule venkile uze uthenge umzalwana kuye okanye udade.
Andiyithandi kwaye uloyiko lwesini esahlukileyo luphawu lokuqala lokuba xa ekhulelwe umntwana, abazange bakhulume ngokufanelekileyo ngezihloko ezinjalo, kwaye wayedla ukucinga ukuba ubudlelwane phakathi kwesondo luyinto engavunyelwe, ihlazo, kwaye ngoko ke imelene nomntu. Akuyimfuneko ukuphinda iimpazamo zabazali bethu abangaphantsi kobutyebi ekuphuculweni ngokwesini somntwana! Emva koko, ezinye iingxaki zingahlakulela ngenxa yokungazi abazali ngendlela yokuthetha nomntwana wabo.
Imiphumo "yeenganekwane" zabazali
Kwakhona kwenzeka ukuba intombazana okanye inkwenkwe, ebusaneni, iphefumlelwe ukuba ubulili bubi, bekunqatshelwe ukuthetha ngayo xa ekhula, nje nje ushiya "kwi-reels" kwaye ingaba yintampu yesondo. Kufanelekile ukukholelwa, ukubamba amandla akho ngokwesini ixesha elide kunzima kumntu ongafaniyo nabanye abantu abakhulayo, baya kujongana nokutshintshwa kwimizimba ye-physiology kwaye baya kubeka ubungqina, umzekelo, ulwalamano olunjalo lwabahlobo.
Ukuba umntwana ufunda yonke into kuphela kwiibali zabangontanga, naye uya kuba neengcamango ezingalunganga kunye ezingalunganga malunga nobulili kunye nolwabelana ngesondo. Abantwana bazintle kwaye balula. Bavele bakopishe abantu abadala kwaye ngamanye amaxesha balala ngesondo nje ngeendlela zokuzonwabisa. Emva koko, akukho mntu ufuna umntwana ukuba athabathe kubo ukungcola nokucabangela? Ubundlobongela kufuneka bubonwe njengengxenye yothando kwaye umntwana kufuneka aqonde ngokukhawuleza. Emva koko uya kuba neengcamango ezifanelekileyo malunga nolwalamano phakathi kwesini, ngekamva uya kuba nako ukuvavanya ngokufanelekileyo nangokulinganayo iqabane lakhe.
Izenzo
Okokuqala, akufanele ugweme ukuthetha ngezihloko ezifana nophuhliso lwezesondo zomntwana. Simele siqonde ukuba umntwana akakho umahluko phakathi kwemibuzo malunga nenyanga, izilwanyana kunye nesondo! Bafuna ukwazi! Yaye yonke iminqweno idinga ukuvuzwa! Kukho ukhetho ukuba xa uva impendulo efanelekileyo kuye, akayi kubuza imibuzo ngale kwesi sihlandlo! Ukuba iingxoxo ziphephelwa, umdla wakhe uya kuvutha kuphela.
Ukuthetha kuyimfuneko KUNYE kwintetho kunye namazwi atholakalayo kuphela. Musa ukucaphula iincwadi zezifundo kwi-anatomy! Musa ukugxotha amagama athi "ncinane, khula - uya kuqonda"!
Ungabonakali ukuxhamla kwangaphakathi - isimo sengqondo sabazali kwimicimbi enjalo kufuneka kube lula kunye nokuzola. Kwaye akudingeki ukuba uziqhubekele entloko yembono yokuba ezo ngxoxo ziyisono. Emva kwakho konke, akumangalisa ukuba, ukuba umntwana akakhathaleli malunga nemibuzo enjalo, ingaba ngumqondiso malunga nokuphulwa komsebenzi we-psyche.
Ukuqulunqa
Awudingi ukutshintshela izibheno ezithandwayo kwiimviewa, ukuchazela ngamagama athi "kakuhle, ukunyaniseka!" Kungcono ukutsho ukuba ifilimu ibonakala ingenakuthandeka kuwe, ukuba awukwazi ukuma. Kwaye indlela engcono yokuphuma - ngandlela-thile ngobuqili, kodwa kungabi ngekratshi, yenza ingxelo malunga neemeko, ngokusekelwe kwisicwangciso sefilimu. Emva koko, rhoqo iTV ayiyi kuqala ukutshintsha kwaye kungekudala kamva umntwana uya kubona iziganeko ngokwakhe.
Isiphumo - ukuba ngabazali ngokwabo baneenkathazo ngokuphathelele ubudlelwane bezesondo, akufanele bahanjiswe kumntwana. Konke kulungile ngokumodareyitha. Izibambiso azizange zilethe umntu olungileyo!
Ngoko kuyimfuneko ukucinga malunga nendlela kwaye nini ukuqala imfundo yesondo yomntwana. Kwaye kunokwenzeka ukuba uqale ukucinga malunga nokuba umntwana usanda kulungela ukuzalwa, kuba xa uqala ukukhulelwa komntwana, kungase kufike ixesha elide.