Kwaye kwenzeka ntoni, into enje into enje? Umyeni osandul 'ukwenziwa wazama nzima ukunceda umfazi wakhe waza wahlamba izitya, kwaye, ngamanye amaxesha, kubonakala nangemva kokuhlamba iisokisi zakhe. Kwaye umfazi wamkholisa umyeni wakhe ngento ehlekayo, wahlambulula yonke into ekhanyayo, yahlutha iikhati zakhe. Umoya wabo wokukhuthalela wawuphi? Mhlawumbi sele beqhelane kunye kwaye abasayi kubona isidingo sokwenza izinto ezintle omnye komnye, ukuvakalisa omnye nomnye? Kutheni ubonisa nantoni na? Wonke umntu unengxaki kunye nobunzima bakhe, ngokokuba bekuncedisane.
Xa umntu eqala ukucinga yena ngokwakhe, ngoko uthabatha into eyenziwa ngumnye umntu. Kuphela yinto leyo, kwintsapho akukho mntu uhlawula nantoni na. Kulo mbulunga, akukho mntu ozalelwe ukutshiza phantsi, isinyithi iikhati kwaye akayi kusuka kwisitofu iintsuku. Yaye xa uqonda ukuba uyayixabisa kwaye ihlonishwa, ke kuphela kukho inzondelelo kulezi zenzo. Abaninzi abaqondi isizathu sokuba umntu adinga ukudumisa nokuxabisa izenzo zakhe. Kodwa, ukuba ucinga ngalo mbuzo, kuyacaca ukuba kubamkeleka kabili ukuba wonke umntu enze nantoni na ukuba umntu uyamdumisa aze amkhuthaze.
Kuyacaphuka gqitha xa bethatha umsebenzi kunye nexesha elifanelekileyo lokuba abafazi baxane. Emva koko, udinga igama elihle kuphela, kwaye kaninzi awufumani ukuba kuvunyelwe, ngokuchaseneyo, ukuhlambalaza ngento engenziwanga. Wonke umntu uyazi ukuba uyasetyenziselwa izinto ezintle ngokukhawuleza. Emva koko yonke imisebenzi yakho kunye nemizamo ithathwa ngokungenanto, kwaye ngokuqhubekayo, ubudlelwane buyancitshiswa ekubeni kunganeliseki, ukuhlambalaza kunye nezihlazo. Ingaba kunzima kakhulu kumntu, ngaphambi kokuhlambalaza umfazi wakhe into engenziwanga, akayazi isizathu salokhu? Mhlawumbi ufuna uncedo? Mhlawumbi wayekhatywe yimicimbi yemihla ngemihla, engenakuphela kwaye ingapheli. Uphila, akanalo ibhetri engatshintshwa ukususela kumdala ukuya entsha.
Asikhulumi ngento yokuba imisebenzi yamabhinqa kufuneka isuswe kumagxa akhe kwaye ikufonele ukuba ichaze ngokucacileyo imisebenzi yomyeni wayo kwaye itshintshane. Ndifuna nje ukuthetha ukuba abafazi badinga ukuqonda nokuhlonipha abantu.
Inzondelelo yabesetyhini kwiphondo yasekhaya ilahlekile ngokuchanekileyo ngenxa yokuba umyeni uyeka ukumbulela ngenkonzo okanye isenzo asenzayo kuye. Ingaba kukutya okuphekiweyo okanye ukuzalisa isicelo, yizisa iglasi yamanzi. Amadoda athatha yonke into engavumelekanga, kwaye aqale ukufuna ukulala nokuhlambalaza kunye nokuphathwa. Ngamanye amaxesha kuhla kwi-blackmail. Emva koko umyeni uqala irekhodi malunga "kutheni ndatshata", okanye "awuyiyo inkosikazi." Kuyinto ehlambalazayo, kuba kuvela ukuba umyeni wakho ulahlekisa ingcamango "yomfazi" kunye "nomgcini wendlu." Kodwa kulula kakhulu ukuba umbuzo onobuqu, uze uthi "mbulela." Kwaye ibhinqa elikujikelezayo liza kugubha njengebhovaneli.
Umtshato awubandakanyi ubudlelwane "bamadoda" kunye "nabafazi", kodwa umanyano womyeni nomfazi, abanomdla omnye komnye kwaye banandipha ubomi bentsapho. Ngokwemvelo, abanako ukusinda kwiingxaki zemihla ngemihla, kodwa umbuzo kuphela indlela yokuzilungisa. Abanye abantu banokuvuma ngokukhawuleza ukuba ngubani ojongene noko. Unokwenza umyalelo othile wentsapho, phantsi kwesihloko esithi: "Umyeni nomfazi: benzisana omnye nomnye."
Ukuba umntu uyintandokazi okanye i-ideistist, uya kuthi, kwiimvakalelo kunye nokuphefumlelwa okumncincileyo, okokuqala wenze okungakumbi kumntu othandekayo kunokuba uya kukwazi ukwenza njalo kwixesha elizayo. Ukuba umntu ungokoqobo, ngokukhawuleza ubeka onke amachaphaza phezu "kwaye", kwaye akwenza kucacise ukuba wena, kwaye ngoko uya kuthi wenze ngoko kwaye, wena, nakanjani. I-Altruists, ngakolunye uhlangothi, iya kuthwala phantse yonke into emagxeni abo, kuba becinga ukuba kufuneka okanye kufuneka enze konke oku. Kwaye ngokubanzi, akuyona umthwalo kubo. Kodwa umntu wohlobo lwesigunyaziso solawulo uya kulawula onke kwaye alawulwe zonke iinkqubo. Uvo lwakhe aluxhomekeke kwingxoxo, njengoko wathi (-a), ngoko kuya kuba, kungekho nanye indlela. I-introvert iya kuqala ukuqokelela ngokwayo uhlobo lokungazineliseki, ukuba yonke into ayiphendulanga. Yaye i-extroverts iya kutyhola imvakalelo yabo ngaphandle, ibonise ukungabi nomsindo ngeendlela zokuxabana.
Kubaluleke kakhulu kwintsapho ukuba ingavumeli iingxaki zemihla ngemihla ukuba zidle zonke ezo zinto zilungileyo kwaye zihle kakhulu ezaqala ekuqaleni. Omnye kufuneka akwazi ukugcina umdla obaluleke kakhulu, ithemba, ezinye izinto ezinomdla, njl njl. Kwaye akukho nto imfuneko yokukhawuleza. Emva koko, ukuba omnye umfazi uhlala ebonakalisa ukuthanda kwakhe, ke omnye akanakho ukhetho kodwa ukuwusebenzisa. Kuyo yonke into kufuneka ukwazi umlinganiselo kunye nokuhlonelana.
Kwintsapho kubalulekile ukuzama ukugcina ukukhululeka kunye nentando ebuhlotsheni. Emva koko, xa umfazi ehlala ekhononda, ecaphukisa aze abone indoda yakhe ngaphandle kwayo, wenza njengelitye entanyeni yakhe. Njengomyeni okhathazayo kuphela ngemicimbi yakhe, unomdla kwaye akaqapheli yena nomfazi wakhe nento ayenzela ubomi babo kunye. Ngelishwa, asifundiswanga esikolweni okanye kwiyunivesiti indlela yokwakha ubuhlobo bentsapho ngokufanelekileyo, ukulungisa iingxaki zemihla ngemihla okanye indlela yokudala isimo esihle sengqondo ekhaya. Kwaye, nangona singafundiswanga oku, wonke umntu uzama ukwenza into ebambelele kuye, ngaphandle kokucinga ngemiphumo.
Ziziphi iimfuneko ezifunekayo ukuze zisingathwe kwiinkqubela ezikhoyo ekhaya? Yintoni ongayenza ukuba unelisekile ngokuhambisa imisebenzi kwimicimbi yendlu? Makhe sijonge kwiimodeli zobudlelwane basekhaya kwintsapho kwaye uzama ukufumana impendulo kumbuzo onomdla kuwe.
Intombi ephumelelayo kwaye ayikho indoda ephumelelayo
Ukuba kwintsapho yakho wena kunye nomyeni wakho utshintshe indawo ngokubhekiselele kwisondlo sentsapho, ngoko kufuneka uthathe isimo sengqondo esibi kakhulu ekusasazeni imisebenzi yasekhaya. Uhlala ulala emsebenzini, ungokoqobo ukuzalisa uhlahlo lwabiwo lwentsapho, kodwa awunalo ixesha elaneleyo lokwenza imisebenzi yasekhaya. Yaye umhla womsebenzi womyeni wakhe uncinci kwaye umvuzo ungaphantsi. Kodwa akenzi umgudu omkhulu wokuhlambulula, kwaye unokupheka ngokuzonwabisa.
Iingcebiso
Xa ufika ekhaya, ufumene ukuba umyeni wakho uphekile isidlo sakusihlwa, wazama waza wenza ukuba uzive ulungile. Ngoko umdumise ngokunyanisekileyo, makamqonde ukuba uyayixabisa kakhulu umsebenzi wakhe kwaye uyakunakekela. Mxelele ukuba unye kwisigidi kwaye unenhlanhla kuye. Musa ukuhleka usulu malunga "nabafazi bezindlu", kuba kuyacaphuka kakhulu. Kuhleli kakhulu emphefumlweni wakhe ongeke ukhokele kuyo nayiphi na into ebalulekileyo kulwalamano lwakho naye.
Kwakhona, kubaluleke kakhulu, ngosuku lwakho lokupheka, ukupheka isitya sakho ozithandayo kumntu othandekayo. Ukutshiza emva kwakhe. Makhe aziva efana nendoda kwindawo yakhe eqhelekileyo. Ewe, uya kuvuyela ukuqonda ukuba uyamxabisa ngezinto akwenzela zona zonke ixesha, uthando kunye nokunyamekela. Akukukhathazi ukuba ucinge ngezinto onokuzenza ngokwakho ngeentsuku zeveki. Masibe sisitya esifanayo sokuhlamba okanye ukubeka umntwana ukuba alele embhedeni, nto leyo ibe negalelo kwiimbopheleleko zakho zentsapho. Ngokuqinisekileyo, ukuxhomekeka kwezinto eziphathekayo kumfazi kumyeni wakhe akuthwali nto enhle, kodwa ukugqithisa into ebalulekileyo ekulahlekelweni kobudlelwane beentsapho, ukungayihoyi imisebenzi yakhe njengomfazi nonina, akunakwenzeka ukuba ube yisizathu sakho.
Umfazi weNdlu kunye noobuchule
Ngaba uyayenza umsebenzi wakho wansuku zonke ekhaya ngaphandle kokuthintela, kwaye amandla akho sele sele esezantsi? Ngoko, lixesha lokuthetha nomyeni wakho othandekayo ngokusasazwa kwemisebenzi yasekhaya. Ngokuqhelekileyo, kuyakufuneka ukuba uqwalasele ukuba iqabane lakho lisebenza kanzima ngaphandle kwendlu. Kwaye oku kuthetha ukuba, kuya kuba yingqiqo kwaye ayifumaneki ukwabelana ngemisebenzi yasendlini ngqo kwisiqingatha.
Iingcebiso
Uninzi lwabayeni bakholelwa ukuba kuphela abadiniweyo, kunye nabafazi bendlukazi abangekho.
Emva koko, babesemsebenzini, benza izabelo ezahlukahlukeneyo kunye neenkokeli zobukhokelo, kwaye abafazi babehlala ekhaya. Kwaye oku kuthetha ukuba emva kokubuya emsebenzini, indoda inelungelo elipheleleyo lokutya okumnandi kwaye ihlale phambi kweTV.
Isicelo sakho sokuncediswa ngendlela yokwabiwa kwemisebenzi yasemakhaya kufuneka sichazwe ephepheni, ngeengxoxo ezicacileyo kunye nesicwangciso. Oku kuya kuba ngumyinge wokuphumelela kwingxoxo yakho nomyeni wakho. Okubaluleke kakhulu, ungayifaki phambi kweqiniso okanye ufake ingcinezelo kuyo. Apha kufuneka uqwalasele ithoni yezwi lakho, kunye nomoya wakho. Nika le ngcaciso ngokuchaneka, ukukhanya, ukungabonakali. Bonisa umyeni wakho ukuba ulungele ukuphazamisa, kwaye ungasetyenziswanga ukulwa. Zama ukuxelela umntu wakho ukuba ufuna ukuba enze okuthile kuwe. Ukuba oku kunzima kuye, ngokuqinisekileyo uya kuza kukuhlangabeza kwaye aphendule isicelo sakho. Kodwa akudingeki ukuba ufake iqabane lakho. Simele siyiqonde imizamo yakhe kwaye simbulele ngento ayenzileyo. Njengomfazi, kubalulekile ukuba uzame ukuzilinganisela kwizinto ozenzayo komnye nomnye. Ungayisebenzisi nje.
Umfazi ungumntu ohlambulukanga, indoda yakhe ikati enobuqili
Uyenza yonke into ejikeleze indlu, zama indlu. Yaye umyeni wakho ulala embhedeni phambi kweTV, okanye uhleli ekhompyutheni, akunandaba. Kodwa ngokusobala uyakucasula, uzenza ngathi ungenzi nto nantoni na, unayo indlu ecocekileyo kwaye idayi yetafile yokuzihlanza ivela kwindawo ethile.
Iingcebiso
Mhlawumbi, bonke abantu bayaqiniseka ukuba umsebenzi othe ngqo wowesifazane ukupheka. Kodwa, njengokuba siyazi, akukho mntu uhlawula nantoni na. Ngoko ke, unokumema umyeni wakho ukuba apheke into okanye naye. Nangona emva koko kuya kubakho ukuvula iikhiphe lonke.
Abameli bendoda bayayizonda i-scandals kwaye bazame ukuwaphepha nangayiphi indlela. Ukuba ulwa ngxabano ngenxa yemisebenzi yasemakhaya engabonakaliyo, qinisa okokuthi ukungavumelani. Mhlawumbi, kuya kubakho ukwenza ukuvunyelwana ngokubambisana okanye ukwabelana ngokubelana ngomnye nomnye, ukuba umyeni akafuni ukuhlamba umgangatho okanye ukutshisa uthuli, umnike umsebenzi ongenakucinezela kwaye uhlazisa.
Icala elinikezelwe yindoda kufuneka liphelele phantsi kwayo. Nangona umyalele ukuba akhuphe inkunkuma, yiba nesineke, ungayifuni kwaye uyinyamezele. Mkhumbule ngomnene ngesicelo sakho kwaye mvumele akwenze ngokwakho.
Xa umyeni wakho agqiba umsebenzi obelwe wona kwaye ufuna ukuba kuphinde kwenzeke kwakhona, kufuneka usebenze ngokukhawuleza kwisiphumo, kwindlela ethile ekhethekileyo okanye into ethile. Yichitha ngeentonga ezininzi, ziwanga, ziphose entanyeni yakho, zondle ngesitya sakho ozithandayo. Yaye uya kukunceda ngokukhawuleza kwixesha elizayo.
"I-dragonfly engenandaba" kunye "nentambo yomfazi"
Ngamanye amaxesha kwenzeka ukuba abafazi abahlala bekhawuleza ukwenza imisebenzi yasekhaya. Bahlala bexoxa ngefowuni kunye nabahlobo, bachithe iiyure kwi-beauty salon, kwivenkile, njl. Umyeni uzama ukungaphumeleli ukubonisa ukuba kufuneka uqaphele kungekuthi wena owamthandayo, kodwa malunga nosapho.
Iingcebiso
Kufuneka uxoxe ngokukodwa nomfazi wakho. Bhala phantsi iimbopheleleko ezithile zendlu oza kuyenza, oku kuya kubonisa ukunyaniseka kweenjongo zakho. Emva koko, kwingxoxo enzulu, bazise kuye ukuba baqwalasele. Emva koko, kuya kufuneka ube nesigulane uze umncede ngokukhawuleza ukuze asebenze kwiimbopheleleko zakhe ezintsha. Ukuhambisa imicimbi yakho yasekhaya, khokelwa yinto oyaziyo ukuba ungayenza njani bhetele, kwaye yintoni umfazi wakho angcono ngayo. Okanye othanda ukwenza okungakumbi. Qaphela ukuba uxanduva lwakho lomfazi aluyikuba lenu kwakhona, musa ukulingwa ukuba wenze ngokwakho oko iqabane lakho kufuneka lenze. Ngamanye amaxesha kwenzeka ukuba akakwazi ukwenza into, ngoko kufuneka ufundise kuye, mhlawumbi uya kuyiva ikhefu kwakhona.
Njengomfazi wendoda, ngoko indoda nomfazi bafanele badumise baze bakhuthaze umsebenzi owenziweyo, mnike iimpawu zokunakwa. Khupha kuye umkhwa wokwenza konke ngokwakho, ukumthemba ngezinto ezinzima kunokuba zijwayele. Qiniseka ukuba uqaphele imizamo yakhe kunye nempumelelo ukuze inzuzo yentsapho. Ezi ntshukumo ziza kwenza njengendlela yokunyusa, ukukhuthaza ukuqhuba imisebenzi eminye.
Ukulingana
Bobabini kuni, ngokubanzi, banako ukuvumelana kunye. Yaye uyayiqonda into yokuba imisebenzi yasekhaya kufuneka ihlulwe ngokubanzi ngangokunokwenzeka kwisiqingatha. Ngokuqinisekileyo, kwenzeka kwakhona ukuba unqwenela ukutshintsha uxanduva lwakho kumagxa omthandayo. Abanye benu baya kwenza oku kanye, okwesibini iya kusetshenziselwa le meko yeendaba.
Iingcebiso
Kwintsapho, umfazi angathatha ixesha lomsebenzi wakhe ngomyeni wakhe, umzekelo, ngexesha lokugula komyeni wakhe, wayenelisekile emsebenzini, wancedwa ngomsebenzi wendlu kamama, njl njl. Ngokufanayo, iqabane liyakongeza okwesikhashana imisebenzi yomlingane, umzekelo, ngexesha lokukhulelwa, okanye xa ehleli nomntwana omncinci.
Kodwa ixesha liphela, kwaye akukho mntu ukhawuleza ukubuyisela izibophelelo ozenzileyo. Mhlawumbi awuyi kuhamba. Oku kuthetha ukuba ixesha lifikile ukufaka utshintsho olunzulu ekuhanjisweni kwezixanduva. Kufuneka uxoxe nomphefumlo wakho umtshato, qaphela izizathu zokuba umyeni wakho okanye umfazi wakho kufuneka aphinde abe ngabanikazi benxalenye yabo yemisebenzi yasendlini. Ukuba umntu uzama ukuzidela kubo ixesha elithile ngaphandle kwesizathu esithile, ngoko kufuneka kwenziwe izithenkethi kunye nezenzo ezinganyanzelwanga.
Ngokomzekelo, wenqabile ukuhlamba iisoksi zomyeni wakhe okanye uthabathe inkunkuma. Emva koko uya kuqonda ukuba kufuneka akwenze kwaye akukho namnye oza kuthatha iifokthi ezintathu eziqokelelwa kuyo. Ungenza okufanayo ngokupheka. Uyazi ukuba umfazi uya kubuya emsebenzini, elindele ukuba upheke isidlo sakusihlwa, umxelele oko wakulungiselela ukugqibela, kwaye namhlanje lixesha lakhe. Uya kufuneka ulinde, uya kusebenza kanzima, kodwa ngokwenza oku uya kumsindisa esithemba ukuba umntu uya kumpheka xa kufika ixesha lakhe. Ngokwemvelo, kunokwenzeka kwaye kuyimfuneko, ngamanye amaxesha ukwenza ukuvumelana komnye nomnye, ngakumbi xa ucelwa ngako. Kodwa kubaluleke kakhulu ukuqinisekisa ukuba ezi ntlawulo ze-indulgences aziyi kuba ngumdlalo emasangweni athile kwaye azingena kwinkqubo echanekileyo.
Indoda ayidalwanga umsebenzi weBawo
Kwiintsapho ezininzi, imisebenzi ihlukaniswe ibe yinkwenkwekazi kuphela kwaye iyindoda kuphela. Kwiintsapho ezinjalo, iinkolelo zomyeni ukuba umfazi ufuna uncedo kuthatha ixesha elide, amandla kunye namandla. Zonke izicelo zibonwa ngobutshaba. Ngenxa yoko, iqabane liphelelwe yimithwalo, kwaye igalelo lomsebenzi lifuna utshintsho.
Iingcebiso
Amadoda anemfihlo encinane. Ngamnye kubo kufuneka abe yimfuneko, kuyimfuneko kule nto okanye loo mbandela. Leyo yimfihlo kwaye kufuneka isebenzise abafazi, kunye nesiseko sentsapho eso sicwangciso. Mkholise ukuba kungcono kunokuba akukho mntu unokukwazi ukujamelana nokusika kwenkukhu yenkukhu, ingakumbi ekubeni unamandla kakhulu kuwe kwaye uza kukunceda ngokukhawuleza kule ngxaki. Kwaye ngokubanzi, ngamaxesha onke kwakukho ishishini lamadoda ukusika nokupheka inyama. Yenza iqabane lakho live ngathi liluhlu lomkhosi.
Okanye, umzekelo, ukuzisa iimveliso zasekhaya kwimarike. Owesifazane onobubele kunye nobumnene uyayidinga igalelo lomntu. Abasetyhini ngokubanzi bayaphikisana nokuthintela, kunye neqabane lakho lihlala likhuthaze ngakumbi kwaye linamandla kunawe, kuba uyisiphene. Naluphi na uncedo umyeni wakho kufuneka akhuthazwe, adunyiswe kwaye ambulele.
Iziphumo
Ngokomyinge, indlu endlwini yedolophu ithatha malunga nama-3-5 iiyure ngosuku. Ingqesho kwimicimbi yasemakhaya kwintsapho engenamntwana i malunga neeyure ezingama-4, kwaye kwintsapho enomntwana - malunga neeyure ezingama-6. Ngaloo nto, ngokuqinisekileyo, kukho ukunakekelwa komntwana. Kwaye oku kuhoxisa, kudla ngokuwa phantsi kwamahlombe omama.
Izifundo ezingapheliyo zibhekiselele kwizinto ezinomdla ezinxulumene nemisebenzi yobugcisa yabasetyhini. Xa ibhinqa liya emsebenzini, lichitha ixesha elingama-40-60% elingaphantsi kwexesha ukwenza imisebenzi yasemakhaya kunabesifazane abangasebenzi. Oku akunjalo kuba inani lomsebenzi owenziwe ngabo liye lahla, kodwa ngenxa yokuba ixesha labo liphelile. Akubi, ukuba loo ntokazi inabancedisi ebusweni bomyeni wakhe nabantwana bakhe. Kodwa kuthekani ukuba akunjalo?
Indlela yokuphila engaphazamisekiyo ibangela umthwalo omkhulu kwi-psyche yomntu, leyo leyo ingabangela ukugqithiswa kwamanzi emzimbeni. Kukhona uvakalelo oluqhubekayo lokukhathala. Njalo kufuneka ufumane ixesha lokuphumla nokulala okupheleleyo. Ukujongana nokuncedisa izixhobo zasekhaya, izixhobo zombane, eziza kukunceda wenze umsebenzi ngokukhawuleza kwaye ube lula.
Kubaluleke kakhulu kwintsapho ukunikezela ngokufanelekileyo uxanduva lokulawulwa kwezindlu. Ngelishwa, ezininzi iintsapho ziphila ngomgaqo wokuba yonke imicimbi yendlu isenziwa ngumama, kunye nawo onke amalungu entsapho ayiboni njengabo abazisebenzayo, kodwa njengoncedo oluncinci kuye. Ukuba ulingano, olukhoyo emsebenzini okanye kuluntu ngokubanzi, luhlala lukho kwiintsapho. Kukho imisebenzi eyabelwe ngokwahlukileyo ibe yindoda kuphela kwaye ibhinqa kuphela. Xa umntu enza izinto ezinjalo njengokuthatha inkunkuma okanye ukuthenga isonka, ngelixa elinye ibhinqa liphumla, ngamanye amaxesha kubandakanya ukuvala isikhonkwane kwindonga.
Amadoda ahlala ekholelwa ukuba umsebenzi wesikolo awusebenzi nzima, kodwa umsebenzi olula. Uphando lwezenzululwazi lubonisa okuchaseneyo. Siyabonga kubo kwaziwa ukuba ngexesha lokusebenza kwemisebenzi yomzi umthwalo ophezulu kakhulu kunomsebenzi kwishishini.
Kwakhona, ngenxa yophando, kwaziwa ukuba ngaba-24% kuphela besetyhini abasebenzayo, bafumana uncedo olungavumelaniyo nomyeni wakhe kwisicwangciso sasekhaya, kwaye uncedo oluncinane kubantwana.
Ukuhanjiswa kwemisebenzi yasendlini kunjalo kakubi kwaye kungafanelekanga. Intsapho kufuneka ihlakulele imodeli yokuziphatha kunye nokuncedisana. Abanye babo sichaze ngasentla. Kufuneka ukuba uqale ukwenza okulungileyo ukususela ekuqaleni kokuphila kunye. Khumbula ukuba inxaxheba ngokubanzi, kokubili ekuphumleni nasekusebenzeni, ngokungathandabuzekiyo iqinisa ubudlelwane babantu abathandekayo ababini. Yiyo yonke into esinokuyithetha ngayo ngesihloko esithi "Umyeni nomfazi: sebenzelana komnye nomnye", nangona intsapho nganye iyodwa kwaye akukho mfuneko yendalo yonke yabantu.