Umyeni ongaqhelekanga uyixhoba lakho

Ewe, ukuba abafazi bayazi kakuhle ukuba ukuthatha omnye umntu akulungile. Uninzi luya kuvuma ukuba ukuthatha indoda ngaphandle kwentsapho kakubi, abanye abantu bacinga ukuba abayi kuze bakwazi ukwenza oku. Kodwa ngamanye amaxesha kunzima ukugqithisa into embi. Abanye besetyhini baqhayisa ngokukwazi ukukrakra ngamanye amadoda abantu kwaye bachaze i-kleptomania kunye nomtsalane wabo, umntu onqabileyo onokumelana naye. Njengokuba kukho i-tony, ukutshata nomntu otshatileyo kwenzeka phantse kwintombazana yesibini. Kwaye ukuba inxalenye yokuba kukho umfazi kunye nabantwana akusoloko ikhona into yokuba unqande ukuba ulonwabo lwakho lusengozini. Unokwenza njani umyeni womnye owakho?


Amathuba akho.
Yazi ukuba awukwazi ukuthatha wonke umntu ngaphandle kwentsapho. Ubudlelwane phakathi kwendoda esatshatileyo kunye nenkosikazi inokuhlala iminyaka, kodwa ayisoloko iphela ngokuqhawula umtshato kunye nomtshato wakho. Ukuba umntu unesistim esicacileyo sexabiso, apho intsapho ifumana khona, akunakwenzeka ukumrhoxisa. Unako ukuqonda ukuba kukho iingxaki kwiintsapho, ukuba iimvakalelo ziye zaphela, kodwa uxanduva lomfazi kunye nabantwana aluyi kumvumela ukuba athathe isinyathelo esinqumayo kwisicwangciso sakho. Ukuba unesiqiniseko sokuthi unkosikazi yesinki esinzima, akudingeki ukuba uchithe ixesha lakho namandla phezu kwakhe, amathuba okuba kwiminyaka emibini uya kuhlala esecaleni, kungakhathaliseki ukuba ukuphatha kakuhle kangakanani.
Indoda ephuthuma ukuthutha iisoksi zayo kuwe emva kokumazana okufutshane, ayichazi kakuhle, ichaza ngentshiseko nangomdla. Inokwenzeka ukuba, le ndoda yamantombazana sele iyenzile ngale ndlela phambi kwakho kwaye ihlala ibuyela kumfazi wayo. Iimvakalelo zakhe zipholile ngokukhawuleza njengoko zikhanya.
Ukongezelela, akukho siqinisekiso sokuba umntu oshiye intsapho akayi kuphinda ayenze. Ngexesha elizayo kuphela kwendima yomfazi okhohlisayo uya kuba nguwe.

Ukuxhatshazwa.
Masithi uthe wagqiba yonke into kwaye ukulungele ukuthatha ingozi. Injongo yakho ibomi obonwabileyo nomfokazi. Yintoni endiyenzayo ukuba nditshintshe indawo yokuhlala yomntu kunye nezinto eziza kuqala?

1) Ibhinqa liholide.
Kumele ube ngumntu onokulula naye. Nangona kukho iingxaki, iipms kunye nemizwa yakhe, kufuneka uvuselele ukufudumala nothando, nangona kungelula. Le ndoda iyakwazi ukufumana izigqibo ezilula kwaye ziqonde apho uphelele khona.
2) Hlakanika.
Ewe, kunjalo, ukusuka kumfazi wakhe. Ekuhambeni kwexesha, uya kukwazi into ethile ngaye. Amadoda avame ukukhalaza ngemikhwa emibi yomfazi, thetha malunga nokubangela ukuwa kunye nolwalamano, bazithethelele yena kunye naye. Mamela kunye nomzingeli. Ukuba umfazi uye waba ngumzimba emva kokubeleka, uyeke ukulandela, waqala ukulungisa izikhalazo kunye nezibuko zesikhwele, kufuneka ube yinto echasene ngokupheleleyo. Musa ukukhwele, ungabi meme, ungakulibali malunga nokuzivocavoca nokulungiswa kwendwangu yokugqoka. Yiba ngumchasi-mfazi. Njengoko uyazi, ukungafani kubonakala ngokuqhelekileyo.
3) Makhe athathe inxaxheba ebomini bakho. Okungaphezulu kokukubekayo - kunye neemvakalelo, kunye namava, kunye nezenzo, uya kuba nguye. Ukuba ubuhlobo bakho bunzima kuye, uya kuzama ukuwashiya. Ngoko ungaba neentloni zokumcela uncedo, kodwa uzama ukucela into enokuba nzima ukuba akwenze.
4) Musa ukuvula ngokupheleleyo. Ibhinqa kufuneka libukhali, kodwa lihlekisayo, kodwa le nyaniso inqabileyo isebenza namhlanje. Esinye sezizathu ezenza alahlekelwe ngumdla kumfazi wakhe, mhlawumbi, kukuba wakwazi ukufunda zonke iindawo ezifihlakeleyo. Kwaba nokuqikelelwa, kwaye ngoko kungathandeki. Ngoko shiya isiqwenga sakho, esingeke sikwazi ukubona.
5) Ukwazi ukuphulaphula nokuva. Kubalulekile ukuba umntu aqondwe, ngoko uya kuqonda ukuba uyamthanda ngokwenene. Musa ukubuza imibuzo engadingekile, kodwa unomdla kwizinto ezilungele ukuxoxa ngazo. Yaye uzame ukungaphuthelwa ezindlebeni zento akuthethayo kuwe. Mhlawumbi iintetho zakhe ziya kuphawula kwiiplani zakhe ezizayo kuwe okanye enye enye ingcaciso ebalulekileyo.
6) Musa ukugxininisa. Ungazifunanga izigqibo kunye nezenzo ezivela kuye, kuphela ukuba ubuhlobo bakho obucacileyo abuhlali ixesha elide, kwaye izithembiso zakhe kufuneka zenzeke kudala. Ukuba uthe wahlanganisana kungekudala ukuba wenze izifungo zothando olungunaphakade nesithembiso sokuhlangana "emva kweeholide", "ngomso", "xa abantwana bekhula", musa ukunyanzelisa ukuba ushiye intsapho. Yitsho nje ukuthi uyamthanda, ukuba uphupha ubuhlobo obuqinileyo, malunga nento ekulungele ukuyenza kuye noko ufuna ukukuva.

Ngokuqhelekileyo indoda ishiya umfazi wayo wokuqala unxulumano kunye nenkosikazi yakhe okanye ayihambi nayo. Ewe, kukho ukungafani, kodwa kungenjalo. Ukuba unelisekile ngesimo somfazi ongunaphakade, akukho mzamo ofunekayo kwaye awudingi. Ukuba ucinga ukuba ufanelekile usapho kunye nolwalamano olunyanisekileyo, kuya kufuneka uzame ukufumana. Kodwa, kunjalo, kungcono ukuba umntu ukhululekile, njengawe.