Ngoko, makhe sithethe malunga nendlela yokunciphisa izinamathiselo kumntu othandekayo. Enyanisweni, uthando luyinto enzima kakhulu ukunqoba. Ukuba siphatha umntu ngendlela ekhethekileyo, kwenzeka ukuba iingcamango ezinengqiqo ziya kuba kude kakhulu nokuqonda kwethu. Siqala ukubonakalisa ibango elithandayo, kwaye sifuna ukulilawula ngokupheleleyo, ukuhlala ebomini bayo inxalenye enkulu. Lo mnqweno kufuneka unqotshwe. Inyani kukuba wonke umntu kufuneka abe neendawo zakhe kunye nobomi bakhe. Uthando lwethu, ngokuqhelekileyo, aluvumeli ukuba siphefumle ngokukhululekile. Umfana othandekayo naye ufuna ukuzifihla kunye nokuthetha kunye nabahlobo bakhe. Ngelishwa, awona onke amantombazana ayaqonda oku kwaye azama ukunqoba umnqweno wabo wokulawula ngokupheleleyo loo mfana. Ngokuqinisekileyo, ukuxhamla kumntu kulungile kakhulu, kwaye abaninzi bakholelwa ukuba xa abantu beboshwe, izibophelelo phakathi kwazo zinzima kakhulu ukuphula. Kodwa, enyanisweni, akukona ngokupheleleyo. Yintoni eyenzeka ngokwenene?
Ngoko, makhe sithethe ngabasetyhini abafuna ukulawula yonke into yokugubha kunye nesinyathelo somntu othandekayo. Ezi ntombazana zihlala zibhalela ii-sms, zibiza umnxeba kwaye zibuze ozithandayo apho ekhona, yintoni na yena, nokuba ufike ekhaya kakade. Kwakhona, ngaba bafazi abacinga ukuba kubalulekile ukujonga ngokusemgangathweni umfana emlonyeni, kwaye ukufunda i-sms yakhe ayikho into engafanelekanga. Enyanisweni, zonke ezi zinto azizihlanganisi, kodwa ziya kubaphazamisa abo bantu badibana okanye bahlala kunye. Kakade ke, ungacingi ukuba abantu baziphatha njengeengelosi zangempela. Benza ezininzi iimpazamo ezicaphukisa amantombazana. Bagcina umkhondo wabo bafazi babo kwaye bahlala bebabiza xa beya ku-fitness okanye baya kwiqela lokukhupha kunye namantombazana. Oku kuziphatha, njengendlela yokuziphatha yabasetyhini, kunokukhokelela ekuxabaneni, ukuhlaselwa kunye nokuqhekeka.
Kutheni senza oku, kwaye yintoni eyenza sizive sisithandane ngokugqithiseleyo kwimizuzu yethu? Enyanisweni, kukho iinkcazelo ezininzi ezenza abantu benze oku. Ngokomzekelo, ngokuqhelekileyo, unomona kakhulu ngabo bahlala beziva bephosakele. Abantu abangakholwayo ngokwabo bahlala becinga ukuba bayatshintshwa, kuba bayazi okanye bayazi kakuhle ukuba abafanelwe ngumfazi onjalo okanye umntu onjalo. Kwakhona, abanye abantu abafuni nje ukuthanda, kodwa ukufumana umntu. Abaqapheli ukuba baqala ukuphatha umntu njengento eqhelekileyo eyabo kwaye akanalo ilungelo lokwenza ngokuzimela. Inkqubo enjalo yekhoboka ibangela ukuxabana kunye nentukuthelo. Kuyinto ebuhlungu kwaye ingathandeki kunoma yimuphi umntu ukuba aphathwe njengodonsa omuhle, onokudlala kwaye abekwe ekhoneni, apho kungahambi ndawo.
Isinamathiselo esinamandla kumntu sikhokelela ekubeni siqala ukuzama ukumnciphisa. Siyakholwa ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba oku kuya kuba bhetele, kwaye akazi ukuba njani kunye nendlela yokwenza ngokuchanekileyo. Oku kunjalo, enyanisweni, akunjalo ngokupheleleyo. Konke okufanayo, ngamnye wethu unelungelo lokukhetha, ngubani onxibelelwano nento enokuyenza, kunye nendlela yokuhambisa kunye nokuchitha ixesha lakho. Kodwa, xa sifumana uthando oluqinileyo, siqala ukubeka uxinzelelo kubantu kwaye sibeke iimeko: ukuba uyandithanda, awuyi kuhamba khona naphandle, kodwa, kwakhona, yenza njalo kwaye. Ngokuqhelekileyo, umntu akavumelani ngokugcweleyo nemigaqo yokuba isiqingatha simisa kuye, ngoko ke, uqala ukufihla into kwaye ungathethi. Ngokuhamba kwexesha, ukungaqondi kakuhle kuya kuba buxoki. Xa zonke iziganeko zinyuka, "ukuhlalutya kweenqwelo zeenqwelo" kuqala, nto leyo, ngokuqhelekileyo ibangela ukuphuka.
Kodwa, yintoni enokuyenza kunye nendlela yokusebenza kule meko? Indlela yokuzincama ukuba ulandele wakho umthandayo kwizithende zakho uze uqaphele onke amazwi akhe kunye nokunyakaza? Enyanisweni, akukho ntlupheko yolu hlobo "lwesifo". Kulula ukuba wonke umntu axoxe ngezihloko ezinjalo kwaye anike iingcebiso, kodwa ukuzikhethela kwaye wenze isigqibo esithile kunzima kakhulu. Ngoko ke, kufuneka nje ufunde ukwamukelwa ngumthandane wakho. Awukwazi ukumphoqa ukuba angabikho othandweni okanye afune into ethile, ukuba, ngokuqinisekileyo, akuyikulimaza impilo yakhe. Bonke abantu bahluke kwaye sinokuzonwabisa okuhlukile. Ukongeza, kunomdla kakhulu ukuqonda ukuba esinye isiqingatha sithandayo. Kuphela kukuba kufuneka sikholwe ukuba sifuna ukwazi oku. Ukongeza, asimele sikhohlwe ukuba ngelo xesha, ngamnye wethu wayehlala ubomi bakhe. Kwaye i-boyfriend yakho yayinabangane ukususela ebuntwaneni kwaye awunalo ilungelo lokuthetha naye. Kwakhona, wayenomdla kunye neminqweno, ongenalo ilungelo lokuthabatha. Ekugqibeleni, umntu ngamnye unendawo yakhe siqu. Ngoko ke, ungazami ukukhahlela kwiVkontakte yekhasi lakhe, ufunde imilayezo okanye uvale ingxoxo. Kumele uthembele kuye xa ungaziva ukuba uyakukhohlisa kwaye ekutshintshiseni. Kwaye, ngamnye umfazi unako ukuqonda xa umntu efuna ukungaqiniseki, kwaye xa yena ngokwakhe ecinga into ethile. Ngoko ke, nokuba umfana wakho uthe cwaka kwaye uyimfihlo, ukuba uthanda ukuhlala kwikhompyutheni kwaye akaze aphendule ekunyuseni kwakho, ungamcaphukisi, umlinde uze wenze wenze njengoko ufuna. Thina sonke sizenza abantu kwaye senza njengokuba sifuna. Ukuba ubona kwaye uvakalelwa kukuba uyakuthanda, wenza konke kuwe, akacaphukisi kwaye akayi kutshintsha, makabe nguye. Musa ukuthukuthela kwaye ungawunyanzelisi. Sakhiwa njengomntwana kwaye siyayithiya xa umntu ezama ukusibuyisela. Khumbula njalo oku.
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