Ukubamba kwangempela, kumnandi kunye nokonwabisayo, kunokukulindela wena umntu owenza intliziyo yakho ibambe ngaphezulu, ophethe iingcinga zakho imini nobusuku; Nguye kuphela. Ukumanga kwakho kokuqala kuya kuba yinto eqhelekileyo, akukho nto ingabonakaliyo, ukuba awuyiva neemvakalelo ezikhethekileyo kumlingane wakho. Kodwa ungakhathazeki, ngubani owaziyo: mhlawumbi ukuqala kokubamba kusalindele kuwe? Kwaye mhlawumbi uya kuba nalo mntu xa iimvakalelo zakho ziqina.
Kwaye ngoku umzuzu ufikile. Iza ngokusondeleyo kwaye isondele, kuba nzima kuwe ukuphefumula, intloko yakho iqala ukujikeleza, umzimba wakho awuwuthobeli, kwaye intliziyo yakho iphuma esifuba sakho. Awukwazi ukuthetha nantoni na, kodwa amehlo akho azivale ... Imilebe yakhe imnene kwaye ithinte ngothando lwakho. Ngomzuzwana ihlabathi liphela. Hlalani nina bobabini kuphela, kwaye akukho nto enye into engayenzayo kulo mzuzwana. Akukho nto, kuphela wena kunye naye. Umzuzwana - kwaye ngokukhawuleza uyaqaphela: nangu ke, okokuqala kubanga ongeke ulibale.
Indlela yokuqiqa umzuzu?
Ukuthandana nomntu oyithandayo yithuba elihle lokubamba kwakho kuqala. Oku, mhlawumbi, yiloo nto ukulindeleyo komnye nomnye. Ukumanga kulo mzekelo kuya kuba ngumqondiso wokubonga ngokuhlwa ngokumnandi.
Ngomhla wokuqala, mhlawumbi, kwaye musa ukukhawulezisa imicimbi, nokuba yonke into iyaqhubeka njengesiqhelo. Kodwa musa ukulibaziseka, kuba ukhethiweyo wakho unokufumana ubunzima, engaqondi ukuba ngaba lobuhlobo okanye uthando. Kuhle ukuba uhlala wedwa, ukuze kungabikho mntu ophazamisayo. Yibongani ngobusuku obuhle. Ukuba, ngokuphendula, iqabane lakho liqala ukudlala ngothando, ukukhawuleza endaweni, ukujonga ngqo emehlweni akho okanye ukunyamekisa, ngoko ubala ngokubamba kokuqala. Kwaye, mhlawumbi, kufuneka umncede.
Akunakwenzeka ukuba ngoku uya kunqatshelwa ukubanga, kodwa nangona oko kwenzeka, musa ukucaphukisa, ixesha elifanelekileyo liza kuza. Akunjalo bonke abantu abakwaziyo ngexesha elifanelekileyo batyhawule ukwesaba kwabo baze banqobe iintloni.
Indlela yokumanga?
Masiqhubekele kwiincomo ezisebenzayo.
Ukuba ungathandabuzeki, ukuba umfana wakho ulungele ukumanga, unokumbuza ngoku ngqo umbuzo othi: "Ndingamanga?" Ukuba ufuna, yitsho enye ibinzana, uchaza into: "Ndifuna ukukuanga." Kodwa, ngokuqinisekileyo, oku akuyona into enothando kakhulu. Okanye mhlawumbi kufuneka wenze ngaphandle kwamagama?
Ngoko, umyalelo wakho wezenzo.
- Wena kunye neqabane lakho lijongene. Uncumo ngobumnandi kwaye uthi sibulele ngokuzonwabisa.
- Sondela kuye ukuze usondele kakhulu. Ngeli nqanaba, mhlawumbi, uya kuziva udizzy kwaye "umhlaba uya kuqala ukuhamba phantsi kweenyawo." Kuyafana neyakho iqabane.
- Vala amehlo akho kwaye uthethe ngobumnene emlonyeni wakhe.
- Ubusiso bufanele bube buthathaka kwaye bubumnene. Musa ukukhawuleza, hlala encinane emlonyeni wakhe.
- Ukugqitywa kokumanga-kunye nokuzonwabisa kweso sikhashana. Ngoku unokuvula amehlo akho. Mhlawumbi, ukuqhubeka kuya kulandela, mhlawumbi kungekhona. Musa nje ukukhawuleza. Emva kokubanga okunjalo, le ndoda iya kucinga malunga nawe ukuya kwintlanganiso elandelayo kwaye unyamezele intlanganiso yakho entsha.
Ngoku uyazi okokuqala kokubanga! Ndiyakunqwenela ukuba uqale ukukhanga okokuqala!