Abantu badanduluka nini na bafazi?

Ukuba ufuna abafazi abaninzi, bafuna ntoni na umntu? Baphendula ngokukhawuleza: "ngubani ongayi kulila." Kuyavakala kungamangalisa, kodwa uphando lwangoku kwintsimi luye lwabonisa ngokukodwa le miphumo.

Abafazi bahlala befumana kwiimeko apho amadoda aphakamisa amazwi abo aze aqale ukukhala. Izizathu ziyakwazi ukuhluka, ukusuka kwikhekhthi enesinyithi kunye nokukopela. Nokuba iinkcukacha ezincinci zingabangela ukucasuka kumadoda, okubangela ukuphazamiseka kwamanzi. Ngamanye amaxesha ukukhala okunokuthi kuphelile kakubi kubini. Khumbula ezo zihlandlo xa, emva kokumemeza, amadoda aphakamisa ngokuphindaphindiweyo isandla sabo malunga nabafazi. Ngubani na kule ngxaki inenhlanhla? Akukho mntu. Ibhinqa inemivimbo, le nto ihamba phambili, kwaye indoda yanikwa isilumkiso samapolisa ukuba wayenethamsanqa. Ngaphezulu kweyodwa emva kwalokhu kwakukho umtshato okanye iinkqubo zomthetho, eziye zaphela kakubi kubantu.

Kukho ngokwenene ukukhwaza kwamakhaya ethu namhlanje. Le ndoda iyamemeza, loo nto ibhinqa, iqala ukumhlonela kwaye iziphatha ngendlela engafanelekanga.

Iingcali zengqondo zidla ngokuthethelela abantu, zithi, babekho kwiimeko ezichaphazelayo. Xa amadoda edanduluka ngabasetyhini - akusisona sixhobo esihle kakhulu, nangona sisebenza kakuhle.

Ngoko yintoni ukukhala kunye nendlela yokuyichaza ngokuchanekileyo? Ukukhala kuyindlela yokusabela kwindoda okanye ibhinqa kwi-external stimulus.

Isizathu sokumemeza kungabinakho ukuphazamisa umfazi kunye nokufezekisa oko akufunayo. Ekubeni ukukrakra yisona sikhali esinamandla kunokwakheka kwengqondo esinokufaniswa nesijeziso somzimba. Ukukhala okwesabisayo kubangela ukukhuseleka okunamandla kwi-cortex yengqondo, emva koko ingqondo ingakwazi ukwenza ulwahlulo oluchanekileyo. Kwaye lo msebenzi ungenye yezona zinto zibaluleke kakhulu ukusuka kwinqanaba lokujonga i-physiology.

Kwizilwanyana, ukukhala kubonisa ukuphakama kwesilwanyana esinye kwesinye. Ngokomzekelo, iingonyama ziwaphelisa abachasene neentliziyo ezinamandla. Kwaye phakathi kwabantu kukho okuqhelekileyo. Xa abantu bememeza - oku kuthethwa ngokufanayo phakathi kwezilwanyana. Xa bekhwaza ngamabhinqa, oku, ngokweengcali zeengqondo, kukhokelela ekutshatyalaliswa kwengqondo yabo. Kamva, lo mfazi ugijima kumhlobo wakhe omhle. Utshela yonke into ngcaciso encinci, ethemba lokufumana ukuqonda nokuthula. Kodwa umhlobo wakhe kufuneka amncede ukuba aqonde imeko. Into ephambili ayikuthi iqhube umkhuhlane kwaye ufumane izizathu zokumemeza umntu owabangela ukuba. Kule ngongoma, kubalulekile ukuba wamnceda ukuba azinqabise aze athile ubuhlobo nomyeni wakhe, kuba oku kubaluleke kakhulu. Kuthetha ukuthini ukuseka? Kukuziqonda kwaye uzibukele ngaphandle. Mhlawumbi umfazi ngokwakhe kwezinye iimeko aziphathe kakubi kwaye ngoku uyavuna iziqhamo zezenzo zakhe okanye amagama? Bonke abesifazana bayesaba ukukhalisa abantu, kodwa ngamanye amaxesha bona abaphambukisi ukumemeza, okubangela abantu ukuba benze izenzo ezimbi kwixesha elizayo. Kwaye ngamanye amaxesha bayamemeza ngokuphendula kwamanye imibuzo ebhinqa abafuni ukuphendula. Ngoko, umzekelo, malunga naluphi na ukulibaziseka emsebenzini okanye ukufakela umnxeba kwifowuni yakhe yeselula. Xa abantu bekrazula ngabasetyhini, bazama ukuzikhusela baze baphuphe ngaphandle kwempendulo. Wonke umntu sele eyazi ukuba ukukhuseleka okusemgangathweni kukuhlaselwa, ngoko bawusebenzisa ngendlela ethile ukuzivikela. Kuphela xa bekwenza oko, kuthetha ukuba banesihlunu kwisibhamu, njengoko besithi.

Yintoni enokuyenza kwimeko apho amadoda ememezayo ekhethiweyo? Into ephambili ngexesha elifanayo ayiphenduli ngokukhala kwiitoni zakhe eziphakamileyo. Ibhinqa lifuna ukuba lisondele kuye kwaye linyamezele, kwaye umsindo wakhe njengesandla uyakususa. Ziqonde kwaye uziqonde umntu, naye ungumntu ophilayo. Ukuphendula kwakhe kunokubhekiselele kokulungileyo. Ngaba unokuzama ukukufikelela ngokumemeza?