Ngokuqhelekileyo lolu hlobo lwesondo luqhutywa ngabantu abaselula kunye "abatsha abangatshatanga" kwiminyaka engama-25, oko kukuthi, ngamanye amagama, "abaqhubi". Kuba ngama-85% abo bafumana ama-threesome, amava awayi kuphinda aphindwe, oko kukuthi, baye bazama kwaye bayalibala, "kungekhona yam." Inqaku elithandekayo kukuba kuphela ipesenteji ezingekho phantsi kweentlanganiso eziqhelekileyo zeLyamur de Trois ziza kubakhokela intsapho kwaye iza kuba nabantwana. Isiqingatha sala bantu abaneminyaka engamashumi amane siya kuba ngabaphathi bezifo ezinobungozi, ezingenakuphiliswa, izifo ezithathelwana ngesondo. Le yinkalo yamazwe aseYurophu. Kubalulekile ukubonisa iifomati eziqhelekileyo kwiindawo zethu zokufunda ...
Ngubani wesithathu?
Ukwabelana ngesondo akuwona wesini, apho ungatshintsha khona amaqabane kunye nabo bonke ngokulinganayo. Kukho amadoda amabini kunye nomfazi omnye, okanye amabhinqa amabini kunye nomntu oyedwa. Ngokuqhelekileyo kukho inhlanganisela yesibini. Amadoda, ngokuqinisekileyo, bakhetha abafazi ababini, abafazi bakhetha ibhinqa, ngokusekelwe kukukhethwa kwindoda, okanye bona ngokwabo bathanda ukubona umfazi wesibini ebhedeni, njengokungathi ukonwaba.
Okwesithathu okongeziweyo okanye okwesithathu ukuyeka?
Njenge-twist, kodwa ulwabelana ngesondo lubandakanya abantu ababini, kwaye okwesithathu, kuvela, ayinathathi inxaxheba kwinkqubo ngokukhawuleza. Ukuze ukwanelise wonke umntu, kuyimfuneko ukuba umntu abe namandla kunye nesiganeko soxhatshazo ukuze ahlangane namaqabane amabini ngexesha elifanayo, okanye ngokukodwa, ukuba anelise umfazi ngokukhawuleza amadoda amabini. Ukufuna iintlobo ezahlukeneyo kwezobudlelwane bezocansi, kufuneka uqikelele okokuqala isakhono sakho sezesondo.
Okubi nakakhulu, xa i-sextet ikhetha ibini yezinto ezintathu, ngubani ofuna ukuzenza "ukuguqula" ubudlelwane babo. Khetha inqweno yesifazane ibhinqa, kwaye kwinkqubo umfazi okanye intombazana ehlala engakhuselekanga, njengokuba umntu umlutha kumlingane omtsha. Unokucinga ngendlela ubuhlobo phakathi kwamadoda nabasetyhini buya kutshintsha emva koko.
Iinkonzo zesini kunye kunye
Ukuvuthwa kwezesondo kunemiba yayo emihle. Kwabancinci nabangatshatanga, abangazange badibane nabathandekayo babo, olu luhlobo lwamava ezesondo. Kwindoda nomfazi obunomtshato omdala, lo luhlobo olutsha olungavamile, oluvakalayo ngokwesondo. Kubalulekile ukuba bonke abathathi-nxaxheba bavumelane, kwaye musa ukwenza lo mntu oqaqambileyo, ukuba nje ulungile. Ngokugqithiseleyo kunokuba kunjalo, lo ulwabelana ngesondo olungenalo ityala, oko kukuthi, lonwabo ngenxa yokuzonwabisa. Ukuba ngaba isibini esitshatileyo, akukho mbuzo nawuphi na umona. Ngamanye amagama, kufuneka uvuselele, kwaye ungacasuli, ulwalamano lomlingane wakho kunye nomnye umlingane.
Iimaminiso zesini zesithathu kunye
Kuhlala kusengozini. Ngokuphindaphindiweyo, isibini esinobudlelwane bobulili abathathu kunye, ubudlelwane abuyinto engcono. Ukuba nomona, ukucaphuka, ukudumala - abo bahambahamba nabo abangakwazi ukuhlala entloko enye yeqabane, ngokuqhelekileyo ibhinqa. Ngako oko, into ekhethekileyo kukuba ulalane nabantu abathathu abangaqhelekanga, abangabikho ubuhlobo obunzulu okanye yonke into emele ixhomekeke ekuhambeni, kwaye akukho kubalingani.
Umngcipheko wokuthabatha izifo zesifo socansi, ngenxa yesondo, ezi zintathu ziyakhula kakhulu.
Izibalo zithi emva kovavanyo olufanayo lwezesondo, izibini ziza kutshatyalaliswa kamva okanye kamva. NjengeNikruti, into emithathu, oku akuyona indlela yokuqinisa ubudlelwane.
Khangela isithathu
Ngoko, wanquma ukulala ngesondo. Ngubani oza kukhetha? Eyona nto ibhetele, nokuba iforamu okanye i-agency, akukho mntu uyakwaziyo, awazi mntu. Into ephambili akuyi kuba lixhoba lomkhwabanisi, kuba umema umntu ongaqhelekanga endlwini yakho. Ukumema abahlobo ebhedini, unokukhubeka kwenye "umlambo ongaphantsi kwamanzi": iqabane lakho lingenakuyithandana nentlalo yesithathu kunye, kodwa oko kuqhubeka nolwalamano lwezesondo kwicala lezembeko liya kuba lunomdla kakhulu. Ukunciphisa ubuhlobo - ngokuqinisekileyo ...
Imithetho yobudlelwane obungavamile
Ngoko, wena kunye neqabane lakho wenza isigqibo sokubambisa ukuzisa isithathu kwisitya sakho. Emva koko thabatha ingxaki ukuchaza zonke iinkcukacha ukuze kungabikho ukungaqondani, kwaye wamukele imigaqo ethile.
- Gqiba ngesini kwesithandana sesithathu, ukuze kungabikho mntu onyolo onokulimaza.
- Thetha onke amaxesha "ngaphambili, ngexesha nangemva": ukuziphatha, ukubuza, ukukhusela, ukhuseleko.
- Akukho zihlobo. Ubundlobongela kunye nobuhlobo ziyiziqulatho ezichaseneyo, ukuvumela umhlobo wakho ukuba alale, uya kulahlekelwa nguyo ngonaphakade njengomhlobo.
- Akukho mkhwele! Ukuqonda ngesenzo sesondo somlingane wakhe nomnye umntu, ngaphandle kokubona indlela enokuyithokoza ngayo, yinto ebalulekileyo kakhulu. Ngoko ke, ekuqaleni waxabisa kakhulu isimo sengqondo kulo, ukuze kamva kungabi mfuneko ukubeka onke amachashaza phezu "kunye".
- Ukuba umntu wesithathu ungumfazi, thandana ukuze ufumane umxhelo ophezulu, lungele uluthando lwe-Leism.
Kwaye ncinane ngokukhuseleko
Ubhedu lwesithathu luhlala lubeka ingozi enkulu ekuthatheni into ethile. Ngoko ke, ukhuseleko kufuneka libe sezingeni eliphezulu. Kubalulekile apha ukuba ukwazi ukucinga ngekhanda lakho ngexesha lonwabo. Ubundlobongela abathathu bangela izimo ezongezelelweyo zokubamba izifo ezidluliselwa ngesondo. Ngenxa yoko, musa ukuvumela iqabane ukuba lingene kuwe kwikondom esetyenziselwa ngesondo kunye nomnye umlingane. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba ube "inkcazelo" eyongezelelweyo kunye nesitokisi sekhondom ngokwayo.
Kulungile kwaye ekugqibeleni. Ukuba uzolile malunga novavanyo olwenziwe ngesondo, unomdla, uze ulahle izinto ezichasayo kwaye uzibambe. Kubalulekile ukuba ukhumbule ukuba ukulala kunye kunye nesigqibo esibaluleke kakhulu, ungayithathi kwindawo yokuxiliswa okanye ngokufanelekileyo.