Awukwazi ukulahlekelwa ngokwesini kunye nobufazi emva kokuzalwa komntwana

Emva kokubeleka, abaninzi abafazi bayakhohlwa ukuba bafazi. Ngomqondo wangempela wegama. Bakholelwa ukuba akudingekile ukuba uzigcinele, ukuba ibhinqa lomfazi linikwe kuphela ukunyusa umntwana, kwaye ubuhle bakhe obuninzi luyinto yeshumi, ukuba akafuneki ukuba agqoke kwaye alahlekelwe kwizinto ezintsha. Enyanisweni, xa sele wazala umntwana, umfazi ulahlekelwa ngokuzenzekelayo ilungelo lokukhangela ngesondo, ukunyaniseka komzimba, ukunxibelelana nabahlobo kunye nolunye uvuyo lobomi bemihla ngemihla? Yaye ungathini ukulahlekelwa ngokwesini kunye nobufazi emva kokuzalwa komntwana?

Ngesizathu esithile, imbono yokuba ngokuzalwa komntwana, uvuyo lwabasetyhini luphela, luhlala luluntu kwiingqondo zabamama abaselula banamhlanje. Igalelo eliqhubekayo lokukhathala, ukungabikho kokulala, ukwesaba, ukungaqondi kakuhle izalamane, kunye nokunganeliseki ngokwendlela yabo - zonke ezi zinto zibulala ngokusenyameni.

Ngaphantsi kwamandla ambi!

Ukubonakala kuyimifanekiso yesibuko yehlabathi lethu langaphakathi. Ekuqaleni, umama osemva emva kokuzalwa komntwana ukhathala kakhulu ngenxa yokungafumani ukulala ngokwaneleyo, ngoko-evela kwimigudu yokunyamekela umntwana, ngoko-kubomi bokuzimela, ngoko-ukungaqondi kakuhle izalamane, njalonjalo, ngaphandle kwekhefu kunye neentsuku. Akumangalisi ukuba ngamanye amaxesha ufuna ukukhala, ukukhala, nokulwa. Nguwo nje amandla akho ambi afuna ukuphuma. Zama ukungavumelani le meko xa i-negative yakho iya kukhangela umntwana, kumyeni, kwabanye abantu abathandekayo kuwe. Ukwenza oku, kufuneka uzinikele kwangaphambili ukhuphazo olukhuselekileyo lwamandla akho.

Kungcono ukubhalisa kwimpilo enxulumene nobugcisa bentlalo (umzekelo, taibo), okanye unokwazi ukuxhoma ipeyari ekhaya uze uyibeke. Uxinzelelo luya kuhla, nangona esi asiyiyo isisombululo sonke kwingxaki. Emva koko kufuneka uhlolisise imeko nge "intloko ekhuphekileyo" kwaye uqonde: imbangela yentlungu yakho yinkxalabo yangempela okanye ukhathele kwaye kwakukho ukuphazamiseka. Ukuba kukho ingxaki, kufuneka ixazululwe. Ukukhulula nje isiqabane apha akuyi kunceda. Kwaye ukunyamezela akuyona inketho. Ngoko uzibophezele, jikela kumfazi omdala, uzithiyile kwaye ... kungcono ungaqhubeki.

Musa ukwenza intonga yombane kumyeni wakho!

Ngokwezibalo, emva kokuzalwa komntwana, inani elingaphambili lomtshato liyavela. Amadoda ahlala eshiya intsapho, eshiya abafazi bawo kunye nomntwana. Kwaye kule nkqubo ngokuqhelekileyo umfazi unetyala. Ukhohlile ngokuthe ngqo ukuba ecaleni kwakhe - indoda. Into afuna ukuyibona kwintombi yakhe ethandekayo isondo kunye nobufazi, ukuziva unyanzelekile, kungekhona nje ukusetyenziswa njengento yokukhutshwa kwesibini okanye ifowuni ekwenzeni imali. Ibhinqa ikholelwa ukuba umyeni unyanzelekile ukuphulaphula nokunyamezela amaqhinga akhe, azenzele ukuba uyamthanda ngonaphakade unwele olungenaswanga, ukhonkwane izikhonkwane kwaye udiniwe, ugugule ebusweni bokulala ubusuku. Kwaye akadingeki ukuba, yena ngumntu ofanayo nomntu wonke, uyamthanda amehlo akhe, emva koko! Kwaye, kungabi naluphi uthuzelo emehlweni nangomphefumlo, uyashiya.

Into ebaluleke kakhulu kukuba ekungabikho kwenani lamadoda, omama abancinci ngokuqhelekileyo bajika kwisihogo sento. Bayalibala injongo yabo yokuqala - ukuba abe ngumfazi. Ngokuzinikela kumntwana, batshabalalisa imiphefumlo yabo ngokubandezeleka, kunye nemizimba yabo ingakhathaleli. Ngenxa yoko isiphetho esibalulekileyo: qaphela amadoda!

Akuyimfuneko nje kuphela yokwenza imali nokunceda indlu, kodwa nokugcinwa kobufazi. Enyanisweni, abatata abaninzi abancinci banokuthi baxhomekeke kwiintlobo ezininzi: bachitha ixesha elincinane kunye nabantwana babo, abanalo ixesha lokuncedisa ngemisebenzi yasendlini, kwaye ahlale uqonda ukuba ikhefu lokubeleka alikho iholide, kodwa eyona nto iyona msebenzi. Kodwa apha into eyona nto kukusebenzisa iindlela zoxolo: uyazi kakuhle umyeni wakho, uyazi ukuba uluhlobo luni lwesibindi omele udibanise, ukuze yena ngokwakhe afune ukudibana nawe.

Ungalibali ngokuhle

Hlalani ngowesifazane okhangayo kwaye okhangayo, nangona emva kokubeleka kunakho kwaye kuyimfuneko. Umfazi kufuneka ahlale evakalelwa ngesini. Ngoko ke ungabi namahloni ukuthanda umntu wakho, kunye nawe.

Musa ukotya ukukhusela ilungelo lakho lokuya kwi-salon yobuhle okanye ukuyothenga. Makwenzeke ngokukhawuleza - into ephambili ukuba loo miphumo yayiyiyo. Khangela njalo kwisibuko - ngokuba ngoku awubhekanga kuphela kumyeni, kodwa nakwintsana yakho. Ungalindeli ukuhla ukuya kwilula iikhati, ukugqoka iingubo ezimbi kunye nokuzivocavoca.

Ukwabelana ngesondo - "ewe"! !! !!

Umntwana akayiyo yonke into ebangela isondo. Ukungabikho komnqweno wesikhashana kuyinto eqhelekileyo. Into ebaluleke kakhulu ukuqala. Ngoko qalisa-isondlo siza kunye nokutya.

Makuqale uziva ungonwabi ngaphambili. Uyingcipheko encinci, kodwa ilungiswa. Khumbula: umama omncinane ufuna ukulala ngesondo. Umbono wesifazane ongenelisekile, makungabikho mntu, ungonwabi. Yaye ukhathala ngaphezu kokunganeliseki ngokwesini kuyingozi kubafazi bakho.

Kwinqaba okanye kwinyango?

Wena, ke, unokuhlala kunye nomntwana ekhaya: usuku nosuku, inyanga emva kwenyanga, kwaye uzithabathele ngethemba lokuba yonke into iya kudlula. Kwaye awukwazi ukuqala ukuhlupheka, kodwa ufunde ukuhlala kwenye entsha, kuphela ngomntwana. Qala ukuya kutyelela, ukubonisa imiboniso, kwisitoreji, uzame ukudlula ngakwesokudla, fumana imfundo eyongezelelweyo.

Umama ngamnye, ukuba unqwenela, uvakalisa iindlela zakhe zokuziva ubomi. Musa ukunyamekela izinto ezincedo njenge-sling, i-backpack-kangaroo, i-stroller, ukuthwala kunye nezinye izinto ezilungelelaniso zanamhlanje. Oku kuya kukunceda ube nomntwana wakho weselula.

Ngakumbi ngesondo!

Kwakungekho malunga neengubo, iimpahla kunye neenwele. Umama osemncinci nomhle kwi-mini-skirt kunye ne-lace pantyhose kunye nosana kwaye umqhubi ukhangeleka ngaphezu kobuhle. Musa nje ukulibala ukugcina iliso kulo mzobo kwaye ungagqoki kakuhle, kodwa ucocekile. Kungcono ukukhetha ukhetho lwezemidlalo - izinto ezinjalo zifake imfashini, aziyi kulahlekelwa ngokwesini, kodwa ziya kugxininisa kuphela.

Gcina yakho imeko. Uya kukuthetha konke: nokuba "Ndiyindoda engonwabileyo kwaye ndiphelile, ngaba nzima kangakanani abantwana abanikezwayo", okanye "Khangela, yintoni umama omhle endikuyo, yintoni inyana enhle enayo! "U

Kodwa ke, ngamanye amaxesha akusiyo isono sokuthabatha udlala ngothando. Lona umdlalo ongenakulimala owenza unokholo kumfazi. Ungakulibala ukuba ungumfazi onokwenza ingqwalasela, unike umfudumalo kwaye ulungile, uzibonge. Ukuba awuhambi kakhulu, "ukuzivocavoca" okunjalo kubalulekile. Ekugqibeleni, ujonge iziphumo zakho ziya kuba ngumntu ozithandayo.