Ingxaki. Ucinga okanye unyanisekileyo?
Ngaphambi kokuqonda, kwakukho ukuxhalabisa ngokwesini okanye kungenjalo, kubalulekile ukwazi, ukuba umgangatho okanye izinga. Nantsi kunengqondo ukuba ungatshatanga umlingane kunye nomyinge ngamnye. Iikhrayitheriya ezenza kube lula ukuhlukanisa umgangatho wesondo kwi-pathology ingaba yinto eyahlukileyo, kodwa okokuqala umntu kufuneka abe nolwaneliseko ngobomi bakhe bobulili. Ukuba oku kungenzeki, yilexesha lokufuna uncedo kwizakhono eziza kufundisisa oko kubangela ukungoneleliseki: ukuzithemba ngokuzithemba, ukuxhaswa kweqabane, intsholongwane exhaphakileyo yezesondo kubantu, nokuba kukho ingxaki yesini esaqalile okanye isuke kude.
Mhlawumbi, ngumbuzo wokukhungatheka. Ezi zibandakanya ukungabikho kwamandla kunye nokunyanzelisa. Ngokomzekelo, ukungabikho okanye ukungabikho kobuthakathaka kwindalo ebantwini kuthathwa njengongenamandla (namhlanje eli gama "elihlaselayo" lithatyathwa yinto enye-erectile dysfunction). Kodwa ngaba kunokwenzeka ukuba kuqwalaselwe ukungabi nantoni njengenyaniso xa kubangelwa izizathu ezicacileyo ngokupheleleyo - unxulumano olungathandekiyo lomlingane, ukukhathala, ukuzithemba, ukwesaba ukukhawuleza okanye ukuphazamiseka ngaphandle?
Iingxaki zesini zesini zesini zingabandakanywa ukwesaba ukukhangela okanye ukungakwazi. Ukuchonga ngokuchanekileyo, kufuneka kubonisane nokubonisana, mhlawumbi kungekho enye. Kusenokwenzeka ukuba awuyi kuguquka kuphela kumgulana wezesondo, kodwa nakwi-urologist, gynecologist, psychologist okanye ingqondo. Emva koko, kwakunzima ukucacisa okokubangelwa yintlupheko. Into enye icacile: ukuba uziva ukhululekile kwindawo yokulala, izibini azikwazi ukulibaziseka uhambo oluya kudokotela. Mna kuya kuba kubi.
Iminqweno engazalwanga
Ingxaki ebalulekileyo yabasetyhini kukuba abayithandanga ukuya kwintonga yesini. Amadoda angamashumi amahlanu ibhinqa lisebenza kwiingcali. Kwaye, ngokubanzi, kuyaqondakala ukuba kutheni: ukulingisa ukulungiswa kunzima kakhulu kune-orgasm. Amadoda amaninzi akasoze akrokre ukuba abafazi babo ababi nantoni na ngexesha lobudlelwane obusondelene nabo, ngokusemgangathweni, "banyamezele". Ngokuqhelekileyo kwenzeka: umntu ucinga ukuba umfazi wakhe ugocekile, kwaye yena, uvela nje, ungumdlali othe tye. Enyanisweni, iingxaki zesini kubafazi zikhulu kunabesilisa, kuphela kuphela ezibangelwa ngabathinteli bezesondo. Mhlawumbi, iingcali zeengqondo okanye iingqondo ze-psychotherapists zibandakanya kule nto, kodwa kuphela oogqirha-abazinzi-gynecologists.
Ukuba ngaba oomama nabo baya kwiofisi yezocopholose, ngoko ngokuqhelekileyo izikhalazo malunga neengxaki zesondo eziqhelekileyo-ukungabi nantlungu (anorgasmia) okanye ukunciphisa umnqweno wesini (libido). Ngendlela, iifundo zibonisa ukuba kuphela i-16% yabasetyhini abanamava omzimba ngesondo ngasinye, ngesondo ngasinye kwisini-22%, kwaye abazange bafumane i-orgasm malunga ne-18%. I-Anorgasmia ingabangelwa yinto engenalwazi, ubunzima bomgaqo-siseko, intlungu ngexesha lobudlelwane obusondeleyo, ukuvuselela okwenzelana neqabane, izicwangciso zangaphakathi ezingavamile, okanye iinkqubo zokuvuvukala kwindawo yesini. Ngamanye amaxesha ngokuqhelekileyo kukho ukuhluka kobuncwane. Kwiyiphi na le meko, uvavanyo olupheleleyo lwegulane luyimfuneko.
Bhala phantsi kwebhanti
Kwiminyaka engama-30 kwi-sexopathology, akukho nto ibonakalayo entsha, kwaye amadoda aya kwiingcali ezinengxaki ezifana neyokuqala: ukulungiswa kobuthakathaka kunye ne-ejaculation ngaphambi kokuqala. Nazi ezinye izizathu. Simele siqwalasele ixesha elinzima esiphila kuyo. Ukugxininiswa kwaba yinto ebalulekileyo, kwaye okokuqala, ukubetha kwimpilo yomntu.
Ngokuqhelekileyo, amadoda aneminyaka engama-20 ukuya kwe-35 acela uncedo, nangona kwenzeka ukuba beza kubancinci nangaphezulu. Abanye abantu abatsha bayethusa emva kokulala ngokwesondo, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha kuvela ukuba umntu uye wahlupheka ngenxa yesifo sengxaki yesondo iminyaka engama-40 kwaye ngoku, xa sele engaphezu kwama-70, ekugqibeleni unqume ukuza.
Kungekudala, phakathi kwabantu besilisa kukho i-so-called manager syndrome. Umsebenzi onzima kunye noxinzelelo kubangelwa ukuba amadoda ayancitshiswe nangamathuba kunye neminqweno. Oku kunjalo ngokukodwa kubantu boshishino. Baphila ngokungafaniyo ngokwesondo kunabo abasebenza kwimodi ekhululekile kwezinye iindawo. Kwaye, ngokusobala, akusikho ukuhlawula okanye ubudala, kodwa umthwalo onomzwelo. Amadoda nje "ashushu." Khumbula urhulumente xa kufuneka uqalise uvavanyo olunzulu. Ngaba yayingaphambi kwesondo? Kwimeko yoxinzelelo, ube yiyure okanye ezimbini, kwaye la madoda ahlala kwiinyanga kunye neminyaka. Iingxaki kubo - ngokulandelanayo, ukuvela kweengxaki zesini zesibini esitshatileyo.
Ngamanye amaxesha yonke into ixazululwa ngokukhawuleza: yahamba, yaphumla, kwaye yonke into ibonakala iqhelekileyo. Hayi, ngexesha elincinane - ubuyela emsebenzini, ubuya kunye neengxaki. Kodwa ke phakathi kwabantu, akubona wonke umntu okhawuleza ukudibana nathi ukuze ancede. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, kukho "iingcali" ezingenakunyulwa kwiinkqubo zononophelo lwempilo, nangakolunye uhlangothi, iziyobisi ezenza bazive njengendoda epheleleyo. Thatha i-Viagra edumile. Omnye ugqirha wakha wathi: "Ukubonakala kweViagra kukufa kwe-sexopathology." Kwiminyaka emininzi edlulileyo kwingxelo ye-intanethi ye-intanethi kuye kwaphawulwa ukuba le nkunkuma iphakathi kwezona zilishumi eziphezulu zithengiswa kweli lizwe. Khawucinge nje ukuba bangaphi amadoda abandezeleka ngenxa yokukhathazeka! Kodwa, nangona kunjalo, izigulane kwi-sexopathologists zaba ngaphantsi. Andifuni ukuba abantu baqhubeke bephosakele, kuba akukho nkunkuma eyoyiphilisa izizathu zesifo.
Enye ingxaki kubini
Ukuthetha ngokuvisisana kwintsapho, malunga nobudlelwane bomtshato, sithetha intsapho yonke, xa inkathazo ihlukaniswe ibe zibini kwaye ingxaki yomnye wabalingani ihlangene kunye. Asikwazi ukuthetha malunga neenkcukacha zeengxaki zesini zesibini esitshatileyo kwilizwe lethu - uphando olunzulu lufuneka apha, kwaye le yimali eninzi. Sinezibalo kuphela zeNtshona. Ngokubhekiselele kule ngxaki eqhelekileyo kuthi, sinokugweba kuphela, ngokusekelwe kwinani labafaka izicelo.
Ngelishwa, kwiminyaka yakutshanje, abafazi abakwazi ukuxhalabisa malunga neengxaki zesini kwiingqabane zabo. Amadoda ashiywe yedwa kunye neengxaki zawo, kwaye ke, inani le-sex-intermarital relationships phakathi kwabasetyhini, ngokutsho kwelinye uphando, lwandisiwe malunga nesiqingatha. Phantse kwiminyaka engama-30 edlulileyo imeko yayingehluke. Imindeni yayomelele, kwaye kwakukho ukwahlukanisa okuncane. Esi sibini sasigcinana. Xa indoda yacaphukisa, yafika kwindwendwe kunye nomfazi wayo. Ngamanye amaxesha abafazi beza kuqala ukubonisana, ngoko ke abafazi ba thunyelwa.
Ukongezelela, namhlanje malunga neyesithathu yabasetyhini baqhuba "ukugxeka" ukuziphatha ngokwesondo. Behave ukuze nokuba indoda enempilo ayikwazi ukwenza ubulili obuqhelekileyo. La mabhinqa akhange athathwe ngumntu osondelene naye, kodwa "ngeentengo" ezingatholakala. Baye babona umsebenzi wabo ukuba bangazinikeli kunye nomntu ovuyayo, kodwa ukuba enze into enetyala kuye: "Akuzange kusebenze ebhedeni - umsebenzi!" Futhi "usebenza" - izipho, imali okanye i-real estate. Yaye ukuba yena, uyazibona, uya kubuya, umfazi uya kulahlekelwa. Ngoko ke, aba bafazi abavumi ukuba amadoda aphiliswe, kungakhathaliseki ukuba ugqirha unzima kangakanani. Kodwa ukuqonda, nokuba kwenzeka okanye kwenzeka ngokwenene, kunokwenzeka, ngaphandle koko, ngokubonisana kuphela. Akukho ndawo kwihlabathi kuphela abasebenzi basezesondo ababandakanyeka kwiyeza zonyango. Esi sisenzo se sibini. Kwaye ulwalamano olomeleleyo kwintsapho luxhomekeke kumntu onjani na umfazi ozimisele ukuthatha inxaxheba kwimpilo yomnye nomnye.