Ayikho imfihlelo yokuba ihlabathi elingaphakathi kwesigqibo esihle sabantu lihlelwe ngendlela eyahlukileyo kunokuba yindoda. Oku kubangelwa kukuba abesetyhini banomdla kakhulu kwimimandla yendalo, ukuphendula ngokuthe ngqo kwi-stimuli yangaphandle. Ngoko, kwiimeko ezixinzelelekileyo, impendulo ivela ngokukhawuleza, leyo ayiyona ndlela efanelekileyo yokuchaphazela ngamnye wethu. Kubalulekile ukuba kuqaphele ukuba isimo sengqondo malunga nale nto okanye imeko, kubandakanywa, kuxhomekeke kwiimpawu ezithile. Ngoko iingcali zeengqondo ziye zachonga iindidi ezi-4 zabesetyhini abavelele ngakumbi xa bexinezelekile kunabanye.
1. Zonke kwaye zisoloko zisezandleni zabo kuphela
Into ebalulekileyo: ayikwazi ukuhambisa imisebenzi, ikholelwa ukuba yonke into ihlala ixhomekeke kuyo kuphela. Ingumsebenzi onobuchule, onguchwepheshe wezobugcisa. Usebenza ngamandla onke, akazi ukuba njani.
Iphutha eliyingozi: akwaziyo ukuyeka nini. Akaziveki ukukhathala nokudinwa. Ngenxa yoko, iingxaki ezinxulumene nempilo, okanye ngokukhathala ziqokelela enye emva komnye. Oku kulingana nebhobhora elide. Ingumcimbi wexesha.
Indlela yokujongana nalokhu: kubalulekile ukwenza ikhefu, ukuvumela umzimba ukuba uphumule kwaye ufumane amandla. Musa ukuyilanda. Nayiphi na imisebenzi ingahanjiswa, kodwa ingathathwa kuwo onke. Kufuneka ukuba ufunde ukuthembela kwabanye.
Izenzo kubantu balolu hlobo:
- Faka iphepha elingenanto phambi kwakho. Zama ukubhala ezininzi izenzo ezinokuthi uzifezekise. Emva koko bafunde ngokucophelela.
- Ngoku khawucinge ngomfanekiso onjalo. Enye yezenzo zakho azenziwanga nguwe, kodwa, umzekelo, wakho osebenza naye emsebenzini. Kwaye, masithi, lo mntu akajongani nomsebenzi othile. Yintoni elandelayo? Yintoni eyenzekayo? Yintoni enokwenzeka ukuba imiphumo yephutha eyenziwe ayinakuguquka. Okanye, mhlawumbi akukho nto iphela emhlabeni? Mhlawumbi uzenzele ingxaki kuwe, kodwa eneneni akukho naluphi na ingxaki.
2. I-Perfectionist
Into ebalulekileyo: Ndiqinisekile ukuba yonke into kufanele ilungile kwaye ihlala ilungile. Kuphela. Uzama ukuzisa konke ukufezekisa. Kuyinto ekhethileyo kunye nokukrokra kubantu abakujikelezayo, becinga ukuba basesekude baphelele.
Iphutha eliyingozi: ukuzama ukugcina isicwangciso esilungileyo, ngandlela-thile uyaqonda ukuba ukufezeka akukhoyo ngokwenene, ekugqibeleni ekukhokelela ekudakaleni okukhulu.
Indlela yokujongana nale nto: ukuzichaza ukuba ukuphelela akubalulekanga kakhulu, kwaye akuyimfuneko ukuzama ukulungelelanisa nangakumbi ukuze ufune abanye.
Izenzo zabantu balolu hlobo: tyelela indawo yokudlala apho ungayibona khona imidlalo yezingane ezilula. Qaphela ukuba zonke iintshukumo ngexesha lo mdlalo kubantwana azibandakanyekanga, kodwa zivakale uvuyo, obashiya umdlalo ofanayo ongabandakanyi naziphi na izicwangciso .
3. Ukuthobela
Into ebalulekileyo: ingxaki-ntle, izama ukunceda wonke umntu, nceda wonk 'ubani, ngamanye amaxesha nangona kungengamandla ayo. Akazi indlela yokugxeka okanye ukugweba.
Iphutha eliyingozi: umnqweno wokukhusela wonke umntu ngenxa yezinto ezithandayo, ubeka isiseko sokuvela kokudakumba, okubangelwa yindlela echanekileyo kubangela uxinzelelo. Yaye le nkqubo ingenakuguquka. Ekubeni ingcinezelo ayidluli ngaphandle kokulandelwa. Oku kungakhokelela, umzekelo, ukuphazamiseka komntu we-psyche, kuba ingcinezelo ayidluli ngaphandle komkhondo.
Indlela yokujongana nale: musa ukulimaza iimfuno zakho.
Izenzo kubantu balolu hlobo:
- Ngaphambi kokuba uvume ukubonelela enye inkonzo, cinga malunga nokuba ufuna ngokwenene ukwenza oku.
- Cinga ngezinto oza kuzibingelela ngokwenza oku okanye inkonzo leyo, kwaye uya kuzuza ntoni ukuba uyayilandela.
4. Ibhinqa elifanelekileyo
Into ebalulekileyo: soloko ihlekile, inomotheka ebusweni bakhe, ebonakala ngethemba. Lo ngumhlobo omhle, umqeshwa obalaseleyo, umfazi onomzekelo, umama oncomekayo. Ukungasebenzi ngokupheleleyo. Abantu, njengomthetho, bahlala bexhaphaza ubuhlobo bakhe kunye nomnqweno wokunceda wonke umntu.
Ingozi enobungozi: i- perezhivaniya, ukunyamekela kwangempela, rhoqo le nto ihleli ngaphakathi. Ihlala iphazamisa iimvakalelo ezingekho phantsi kwayo, ayizilahleli, kodwa zifihliwe ngumaske womfazi ogqibeleleyo. Yonke le mhlaba ukuvela kwezinto eziphambili.
Indlela yokujongana nalokhu: ukukwazi ukusabalalisa uxanduva.
Izenzo zabantu balolu hlobo: funda ukwenqaba kwaye musa ukwenza konke kanye, kwaye wenze "isiqingatha."