Indlela yokudibanisa kunye nesimo senkosikazi?

Ngaba unkosikazi yomntu otshatileyo? Yintoni endiyenzayo? Indlela yokudibanisa nale meko? Eli gangatho liyakhubaza kubasetyhini abaninzi abasesikweni. Kwaye kwababhinqa abathile akukho nto.

Indoda yakho inomfazi ohlala emlindele ekhaya. Lo ngumva wakhe, ohlala ekulungele ukumfudumala. Inkosikazi ilalana nomntu ongaziwayo kwaye ingqalelo. Ziziphi iintlobo zabasetyhini abakhetha isikhundla sekosikazi, kungekhona umfazi okanye intombi?

Kukho uhlobo lwabasetyhini abazingelayo kuphela amadoda asetshatiweyo. Bafuna ukumthabatha kwintsapho nabo bonke amandla abo baze batshata naye. Ngokukodwa ukuba lo mntu ucebile kwaye unomdla. Abafazi abanjalo bazama ukuphindezela abanye. Kwakhona, bathabatha umyeni womnye, bathi, okanye kukho nayiphi na inzuzo. Ukuba bayakwazi ukumthabatha baze bamtsate, ke lo mtshato awuyi kuhlala ixesha elide.

Udidi lwesibini lubandakanya abafazi abatshatileyo abadibana nabasetyhini. Balingana novukelo. Ugijima kumyeni wakhe kuye, kwaye ubalekela kuye kuye. Ngokuqhelekileyo kwenzeka ukuba bahlobo kunye neentsapho, kwaye abafazi bahlobo oluhle. Bobabini balala baze bafihle. Kuba kubo kufana nokuzonwabisa okuzonwabisa.

Udidi lwesithathu lwabasetyhini ngabo bafana nesimo sabo, indima yesicwangciso sesibini. Kubo, isimo sengqondo siyamkeleka kwaye akukho mbopheleleko komnye nomnye. Balala ngokwesondo. Ukuba ngokukhawuleza indoda yakhe esitshatileyo ikhetha ukuyeka umfazi wayo kwaye ihambe kuye, ngoko le meko ayifanele. Ekubeni uya kulungisa isikhundla somthandi, kungekhona umfazi okanye umhlali.

Kwakhona kukho nabasetyhini abaneenkomfa ezikhetha amadoda athabileyo ukuba aziqinise. Abafazi abanjalo banento engalunganga ngokuzithemba. Uyesaba ubudlelwane kunye namadoda angatshatanga, kuba uyayika ukuba uya kumshiya okanye acele umtshato. Ulwalamano nomntu otshatileyo luya kumnika isizathu kubahlobo kunye nabaziwayo ukuba akayi kushiya intsapho yakhe, kwaye akafuni ukuchitha intsapho.

Kukho abafazi abathanda indoda, kodwa abazi ukuba unentsapho. Iimeko ezinjalo ziqhelekile, ukuba abafazi bayakhohliswa ngumthandayo. Amadoda afuna izizathu zokuba kutheni bangahlali nabo ebusuku. Kodwa ngokwenene unomfazi, ngokuqinisekileyo akazange akuxelele. Nangona umfazi akwazi ukuba unayo.