Indlela yokufumana ixesha elikhululekile xa uhleli nomntwana?

UMaternity ngumsebenzi onzima. Akukho mntu uxelela, kodwa akulula. Ngokukodwa kanzima kwiminyaka emithathu yokuqala, xa umama, kubonakala ngathi, akukho nxalenye yesibini yamahhala. Abaninzi kweli xesha "bagijime" ngokwabo, bayalibale ngokwenza imisebenzi yasekhaya baze bahlale benomdla kumyeni wabo. Kwiintsapho ezininzi ukuzalwa komntwana kubandakanya iingxaki ezinzulu, kuba ubomi buguquka ngokukhawuleza. Kodwa umfazi ukhohliwe ukuba akayena nje uMama, kodwa naye ungumfazi kunye noMfazi kuphela - awukwazi.


Ngenxa yoko isiphetho esicacileyo - ukufunda ukufunda ixesha lokufumana izinto ezincinci imihla ngemihla! Ngako oko kungenziwa njani kumama, xa kuyimfuneko kwaye uhlambe, kwaye udle ukupheka, nokuhamba nomntwana, ukuba uyitye, kwaye uhlakulele uMsika ozithandayo, ngamanye amaxesha ukulala? Ixesha liza kufuneka lihanjiswe kusengaphambili, konke kufuneka kucatshangwe ngaphezulu (kungcono nangaphambi kokuzalwa komntwana) kwaye wenze zonke kwizigaba. Le yinto ebizwa ngokuthi "ixesha lolawulo" lomfazi onomntwana omncinci ezandleni zakhe.

Ngaphandle ko kunceda akunakwenzeka

Into ephambili yokwenza ukuthetha nomyeni wakho. Ungalindelanga ukuba yena ngokwakhe uya kuqaphela ukuba kunzima kangakanani ukulala ebusuku, ukukhawuleza ukusuka ebhedeni ukuya kwisitofu kunye nebhavu emini kwaye kusenokuba nethuba lokuba naye ngobusuku obuthandayo. Amadoda (nangona athandwayo kunabo bonke) abheke omnye nomnye ngokungafaniyo. Ngokuphathelele ukungabikho kokulala kobusuku, uya kuthetha ukuba kuhlale kunokwenzeka ukulala emini, kwaye malunga nokuba awuzange ushiye indawo yokudlala yabantwana kakade unyaka, uya kuthi - kungcono. Njengoko uhlala, uphumla, awuyikuchitha imali yakho yentsapho, awuxubushelanga nabangaphandle (awuyi kuthi, uya kucinga kakhulu).

Akukho nto yokumemeza kumyeni wam ukuba akancedi ekhaya. Khumbula: kuba i-Papocene encinci incinci-ingcinezelo efanayo njengawe, ukuba akunjalo. Eli bhinqa phakathi neenyanga zokukhulelwa ngokomzimba wayenomntwana, kulula ukuba wakhe kwakhona. I-anastomosis kule nkqubela iwaxakeka ngokuphindaphindiweyo ngokuxanduva, okwangaphambili alinakulinganiswa. Ngokwazi, iingqondo zengqondo zithi intsapho ayifuni ngemvume enikwe kwi-ofisi ye-registry, kodwa ngokubonakala komntwana.

Ngoko, umzhe. Ndixelele ukuba uyaqonda ukuba kunzima kangakanani ukuba afundeke, ukuba awusayi kubini. Kodwa ungathanda ukuba mnandi kwaye uyamnandi kuye ngaphambili. Ngaphandle kwakho akunakwenzeka ukuba ufezekise oku. Ukuba uncedise ubuncinci ubuncinci, unokukunika ixesha elincinci ngokwakho, apho ekugqibeleni wayekuphela. Ukuthetha ngakumbi malunga nosana, kubaluleke kangakanani ukuba abe nengqondo yokhuseleko ezandleni zopapa. Ugxininise ukubaluleka kokuseka ukunxibelelana nomntwana ukususela kumncinane. Bathume uhambo lweeyure ezimbalwa kwaye uzikhathalele. Yenza into enhle kumyeni wakho (bhaka i-casserole ayithandayo), ukuze abone iziqhamo zomsebenzi wakhe ngendlela yokukunceda.

Musa ukungahoyi uncedo lwabaakhulukazi. Ngokuqhelekileyo, oomama abaselula abafuni ukuthembela kumntwana wabo. Musa ukwenza olo budenge. Emva koko, ekugqibeleni, lo mfazi uye wakhula indoda yakho iphilile kwaye ihlakaniphile. Akukho nto eyenzekayo kwimasik yakho ngeeyure ezimbalwa. Ukuba wena nogogo bakho banokuphikisana okuthe ngqo malunga nokunyamekelwa kwabantwana, zama ukuxoxa ngale ngxaki. Inokwenzeka ukuba, ulwazi lwakho lusekwe kwintshukumo yamanje, funda kumaphephancwadi. Nangona kunjalo, amahlombe omamazala anamava okwenene okuphila. Kwaye ookhokho bethu, ngaphezu kwewaka leeminyaka baqokelela eli liva, ngokuqinisekileyo babengenangqondo. Cinga ngolu hlobo lwamaSlav aludala alukwazi ukuzala ngokubanzi ngaphandle "kwezesayensi zanamhlanje", zihlala kwiimeko ezinzima! Kodwa thina kunye neziphumo ezitsha kunye nokuphuhliswa kwazo ziyacima kancane. Musa ukulibalala isayensi, ewe, kodwa akufanelekile ukulibala malunga namava alula ubomi.

Ngoko, uthatha uncedo lwenyoko okanye uninazala (mhlawumbi zombini - omnye nomnye), ufumana iiyure ezipheleleyo zexesha lokukhulula. Kodwa kufuneka bachithe ngokuchanekileyo. Ngaphandle kwesicwangciso esifanelekileyo, wena, nokuba unesigxina semini esele, awukwazi ukwenza nantoni na. Ukucwangcisa kule meko kuyimfuneko.

Ukwakha isicwangciso sekhaya

Ukupheka

Ukupheka kuthatha ixesha elide, ngoko kungcono ukwenza oku xa umntwana elele. Ukuba akukho mandla kuwo onke (oku kwenzekayo onke amaxesha omama amancinci), ku soloko kuyimfuneko ukuba ube nemveliso eyahlukileyo yokugqityiweyo kwifriji. Baya kulungiswa ngokukhawuleza kwaye kungekho naluphi na ubunzima. Kodwa, ungakhohlwa ukutya okuphekayo, naye. Ufuna amandla, okufuna oko, afuna umntwana.

Ukuhlamba inaliti

Ba bhetele bazame ukudibanisa nezinye izinto. Namhlanje, umzekelo, unokuhlamba kwaye ugaye ixesha apho inyama ibhalwa ngesobho. Ngomso iindawo zokuhlamba ziyakusindiswa ngokuhlwa, xa umyeni ebuyela ekhaya evela emsebenzini okanye umntu ovela kwiintsapho uya kuba nako ukuhlala kunye nosana.

Ukucoca inkonzo

Kungenziwa ngokubanzi ngentsana. Beka (okanye ubeke) ecaleni kwinqanaba, uhlambe umgangatho okanye usule uthuli, uhlabelele iingoma zabantwana. Musa ukuchitha yonke imihla uhlambulule kwiyure - okwaneleyo kunye nemizuzu elineshumi elinesibini ukuya kwinqanaba elincinci elisezantsi. Ukucocwa ngokubanzi kwenziwa ngeveki-ke umyeni okanye ezinye izalamane zisekhaya.

Ixesha le-nab

Kakade, asimele sikhohlwe ngathi. Vuka imizuzu elishumi phambi komntwana, ube nexesha lokuzibeka ngokwakho. Ngethuba umntwana ekhutshwe ngento ethile, unokwenza umaski onomsoco, ngokuhlwa xa uyihlo ekhaya - thabatha ibhotile yokuphumla. Zama ukuzibamba ngezinto ezintle.

Ixesha labafazi abasetyhini

Andililibaleki nantoni na ngomyeni wakhe. Thetha naye ngomusa, kaninzi ukumbumbulule, sitsho ukuba uyithande kangakanani kuye. Ungadluli intloko kuqala kwimicimbi, ngaphandle koko umyeni uya kuthatha isigqibo sokuba akukho nxaxheba kuye kwishedyuli yakho. Kwaye le sizathu sokuya ufumane enye kwishedyuli esiya kufunyanwa ngeli xesha. Awufuni oku, akunjalo? Emva koko, umgudu omncinci wokugcina ubudlelwane obufudumele kuya kufuneka uchithe. Kodwa uya kuba nekratshi ukuba athi kuwo wonke umntu: "Umfazi wam ulawula yonke into-kwaye ihlala ihle kangaka! Yaye uyayiphatha njani? "