Kutheni kubalulekile ukuba ulawule iimvakalelo zomntu?
Uphuhliso lwabantu alubandakanyi uxinzelelo lwengqondo oluqhubekayo, ngoko kufuneka uhlale uqinisa ingqondo yakho kwaye ufunde ngamanye amaxesha ukukhusela iimvakalelo zakho. Ukuba awunayo, unako ukuphazamiseka, kwaye njengoko uyazi, iingcamango ezimbi zitsalathisa iziganeko ezimbi ebomini. Ngokuchasene noko, isimo sengqondo esifanelekileyo malunga nokuphumelela kunye nokusilela kukudala ukhuseleko kumntu, ophikisa yonke into engeyiyo.
Ukongeza, iimvakalelo ezingalawulekiyo zinokutshabalalisa umntu, kubandakanywa nokuba yimbangela yelizwe elichaphazelayo, apho umntu enakho ukwenza izinto ezingalindelekanga kwaye kungekhona ngaso sonke isikhathi. Kule meko akunakwenzeka ukwenza izigqibo ezinzima, kodwa izenzo zokukhawuleza zibe yinto evamile yokuziphatha.
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Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba uthathe ixesha kwaye ufunde indlela yokulawula iimvakalelo zakho ngenye indlela uya kufuneka utshole abahlobo kunye nezihlobo zakho, kuba abo bajikelezileyo abayi kukwazi ukunyamezela umntu ongenakulinganisela ixesha elide. Eyona nto ihamba phambili, baya kuthabatha kwisithinteli sakho esondeleyo sokunxibelelana ngexesha, kunzulu kunaphakade.
Indlela yokufunda ukuzilawula kunye nemvakalelo yakho?
Kukho iindlela ezininzi zokusombulula ingxaki. Iimvakalelo zinokukhutshwa, zinyanzeliswe, ziboniswe okanye ziqondwe kwaye zilawulwe. Njengoko uqeqesho lubonisa, oku kusebenza phambili. Into eyenzayo kukuba iyakunqanda kuphela ixesha kwaye iyakwazi ukuphela kakubi, kuba iimvakalelo zinjengomlambo - xa idama liphela, banokukrazula yonke into ejikeleze umlambo onamandla. Ukukhusela oku kungenzeki, sincoma ukuba uphulaphule iingcebiso zethu, eziza kukunceda uziqonde kwaye uzilawule.
Imithetho eyanceda ukuzilawula
Asithembisi ukuba kuya kuba lula ukuzaliseka, kodwa ubunzima buza kulandelwa kuphela kwisigaba sokuqala. Kubalulekile ukuqonda isidingo senguqu kwaye baza kuqala ngokwabo, ngaphandle kokubhikisha kwangaphakathi.
- Susa yonke "imisila" yakho, amatyala ahlala ekhumbuza wena kwaye athathe amandla. Ngokukhawuleza ukuba uvale okokugqibela, uqinisekisiwe ukuba uzive ukhululekile.
- Zama ukwenza ukhululekile endlwini ohlala kuyo. Musa ukulibala ukuxhobisa indawo yokusebenzela. Akufanelekanga kuphela ulungelelaniso lwentsebenzo, kodwa kwakhona linike ixabiso elihle lokuziphatha. Ngako oko, uxinzelelo emsebenzini luya kuba nefuthe elikhulu kuwe.
- Gwema iimeko ezixinzelelekileyo. Ukuzigqithisa kwaye uzame ukuqeda abantu abaphikisanayo nabomi bakho, ukuba kunokwenzeka. Ungabonakali ngamabomu kwiindawo apho iziganeko ezingahle zicwangciswe ngamabomu.
- Ukwenza izinto zibe lula, yenza uluhlu lwezinto ezinokukucasula nokulimaza ukuvisisana kwakho ngaphakathi. Kufuneka ube neendawo ezingenakuqhekeka kunye nemithetho. Kuphela kuphela abantu kunye nezinto ezingabahloneliyo zihlala kunye nawe.
- Yiya kwimidlalo. Kubonakala ngathi ulawulo olulula oluvakalayo kwinqaku ngalinye lesibini lendlela yokutshintsha ubomi bakho. Kodwa isebenza. Ukuzivocavoca umzimba kunempumelelo ekunciphiseni uxinzelelo, ngoko isiqingatha seyure yemihla ngemihla iqinisekisa umzimba wakho umthamo wehomoni yolonwabo.
- Musa ukuqhuba ubomi bakho. Ndifuna ukuthetha oku kumntu wonke. Musa ukwenza i-balcony ehleliyo kuyo. Yenza wena "ukukhulula" iintsuku, apho uza kulahla izinto ezingadingekile, ubuqu, iingcamango.
Zama ukulawula ubomi bakho, ngoko ufunde ngokuzenzekelayo ukulawula iimvakalelo zakho. Ukuba ubeka yonke into engcolileyo kwaye uzungeze nge-positive, ungaqiniseka-uya kuphumelela.