Indlela yokufundisa umntwana ukuba alale ngokwahlukileyo

Ukulala, ukulala ubuthongo, iinkqubo zokubeka umntwana ngamunye. Yonke into incike kwixesha, ubuntu, ubunjani kunye nomoya womntwana, imeko kwintsapho, impilo yomntwana kunye nesitayela somzali.

Abantwana abaninzi abaneminyaka engaphantsi kweminyaka emithathu badinga uxhumano oluninzi lwezinto eziphathekayo, bayathula kuphela xa beva ukufudumala komzimba kamama, ukuphefumla. Ngoko ke, aba bantwana kufuneka bafundiswe ukuba bangalala ngaphambi kweminyaka engama-3, oko kukuthi, ukususela kwiminyaka xa umntwana edala ukuzithemba.

Isitayela sokukhuliswa kwintsapho sithintela neendlela zokulala. Ngokomzekelo, xa umama egxininisa ukuba umntwana kufuneka alele yedwa, kodwa ugogo akayi, adibana, abeka umntwana ixesha elide, ubeke naye, umntwana uya kuhlala ecela ukuba awele kunye nonina aze alahle isikhala sakhe.

Ukuba uqinisekile ukuba ixesha lifikile kwaye umntwana wakho angalala ngokukhawuleza, ulala yedwa kwaye ulale ixesha elide, kufuneka wenze izinto ezimbalwa eziphambili:

1. Ngaphambi kokuba ulale ngeke ukudlala imidlalo esebenzayo.
2. Umntwana kufuneka azi ukuba uzimisele kwaye ukuba uxelelwa ukuba uya kulala yodwa, kufuneka uzalisekise lesi sithembiso.
3. Ngaphambi kokulala, landela ngokuthe ngqo izenzo ezifanayo (oko kuthiwa yinto yokuziphatha ngaphambi kokuba ulale) - umzekelo, siya kuhlamba, ukugqoka iiparajamas, ukutshibela iidyayi, ubeke eceleni kwedoti yakho oyintandokazi, funda enye inkcazo yamaphulo, ufunde umbhobho, uvale amehlo ethu.
4. Yiya kulala ngexesha elinye.
5. Isimo sengqondo esifanelekileyo kwisibhedlele njengendawo yokulala ibaluleke kakhulu kubantwana, ngakumbi xa kunye kunye nithenga iilinen zokulala kunye nomzobo wabantwana, nibuthene ndawonye.
6. Hlalani nisondele, nishaye, yibambe isibambo.

Isihlandlo sokuqala siya kuba nzima, kodwa ukuba uya kulungelelanisa zonke izenzo kwaye wenze ngokucacileyo, emva kwexesha (iiveki ezingama-2-3 ngokuqhelekileyo) umntwana uqala ukulala yodwa.

Enye imeko kukuba wonke umntu osapho ususelwe ngendlela efanayo, ulandela yonke imithetho yokulala kunye nolawulo oluqinileyo. Endlwini kukho umoya ozolileyo kunye nobungane.

Kuthekani ukuba umntwana unephupha elibi?

Izizathu zezi mpawu zomntwana zingabininzi. Yiyo imeko kwintsapho (ukuxabana, ukwahlukana, ubudlelwane obunzima phakathi kwabatshatileyo, ukugula okanye ukufa kwezihlobo), kunye nobume bomlingani, ubuntu bomntwana, ukudibanisa kweemeko zobomi ezingenakwenzeka. Umntwana unokufumana ubunzima obuninzi, angenelwa yinto ethile, kwaye awukwazi ukuyijonga. Ukulala okungapheliyo, ukuphumla kungaphinda kube ngumphumo we-neurosis.

Hlola imeko kwintsapho-mhlawumbi into eyenzekayo eyenza umntwana ukuba abe namava, ukuba ingqondo yakhe ayikwazi ukubuyiswa kwakhona kwaye ikhuselwe. Fumana oko umntwana kunye nomlingani okanye imeko ingaba nako ukukuxelela into eyenziwa ngumntwana emini.

Ngaphambi kokubetha i-alamu, zama ukuzinqabisa, ngenxa yokuba umntwana uhlala ephupha, ukhathazeka ngakumbi kuba ngumama wento eyenzeka kumntwana wakhe. Ngokukhawuleza xa umntwana evuka ebusuku, ufike ngokukhawuleza, uhlabe phezu kwentloko, uhlabezele amazwi amnandi, thatha izandla uze ugubungele. Kuba bafana, kubalulekile ukukhusela uyise, ngoko kuthetha nobawo ukuze anikezele ngakumbi umntwana. Nika umntwana ithuba lokuba adlale ngaphezulu kwemini, kuba umsebenzi wokudlala ngokwaneleyo unokuba esinye sezizathu zokukhathazeka.

Indlela yokuqeqesha omkhulu ukuba alale

Kukho ingxaki enjalo: Abazali abaninzi bakhononda ukuba umntwana uya esikolweni kungekudala, kwaye usebenza kwikamelo lokulala labazali bakhe. Ngokuqhelekileyo oku kusele ingxaki kwiimeko zabazali ngokwabo. Umntwana ujabulela ububele bakho kunye nokungabikho kokunyamezela, ngakumbi xa ukwesaba nokukhathazeka komntwana kungabonwa.

Ngoko ke, ukuze ufundise umntwana ukuba alale yena ngokwakhe, kwaye nakwikamelo lakhe, kufuneka:

1. Ukubonakalisa ukunyamezela kwaye uthi "intombazana (injana) usenayo ininzi (oh) kwaye kufuneka uziphatha njengomntu omdala, ngoko siya kuqala ngokuthi uya kulala yedwa (kwaye) kuphela kwigumbi lakho."
2. Ukwenza oku, ngokwenene, kufuneka uhambe ngokuthe ngcembe, kodwa ngokuqhubekayo, ukucacisa ukuba uqinileyo. Thembisa ukuba ngamanye amaxesha, umzekelo, ngoMgqibelo, umntwana uya kulala nawe. Ekubeni, mhlawumbi, umntwana akanalo uqhagamshelwano olwaneleyo nabazali bakhe emini, kwaye uzama ukuhlawulela oku ngale ndlela.
3. Kweminye imicimbi yomsebenzi womntwana, omnye kufuneka akhuthaze ukuzimela kunye nokubonakaliswa kwabantu abadala, umsebenzi. Qinisekisa ukudumisa.

Cinga malunga nokuba awuyikunyamekela ubuncinane bomntwana, awucingi ukuba ungaphantsi kwexesha elikulo xesha. Emva koko, abantwana bavame ukuziziva behambelana neminyaka abazali bayigxininisa ngayo.

Sishiye isibane sasebusuku, sinike umdlalo. Ukuba umntwana uza kuwe ebusuku, mthabhele kwisibhedlele, uhlale encinci, kodwa kunye naye akufanele uhambe.

Ukuba wenza yonke into ngokuthe ngcembe, ngokuchanekileyo kwaye ubonise ukunyamezela, ngoko ke iphupha lakho kumbhede uya kulungiswa.

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