Ngethuba lethu, imida phakathi kwehlabathi lamadoda nabasetyhini iyancipha. Ngoko kubonakala ngathi ngaphandle. Kodwa ekugqibeleni, ilungu ngalinye lobulili "lithatha ingubo phezu kwayo." Ingakumbi ibonakaliswa ebomini obumbene. Umfazi ofumana ngaphezu komyeni wakhe, uthinte ukuzithemba kwakhe; Umlingane ongencedi malunga nendlu uyacaphuka ngenxa yesimo sakhe sengqondo. Amacwecwe angagqitywanga, alala ebusuku, ijack ayengaxhonywa kwi-closet ... Inkathazo encinci ibangela ukugxeka kwehlabathi kunye nokuxabana okukhulu. Kodwa unokufunda ukuthetha ulwimi olufanayo kubameli beeplanethi ezahlukeneyo, kufuneka ulandele isicwangciso esithile.
Amacandelo amabini
Enye ingxaki yezibini ezininzi zikwahlukana kunye nokuhlukana komnye nomnye. Kwenzeka ngokukhawuleza: abantu abaselula bahlala kunye, abafuni ukwahlukana. Emva koko banquma ukuhlala kunye. Kodwa i-bouquet-candy period ifike ngokukhawuleza. Kubuhlungu kakhulu kubabaninzi bethu ukuba siphume kwi-romance siye sabelane ngemisebenzi ekhaya. Umntu ngamnye unempawu ezininzi ezibonakalisa ngokwabo kwimihla ngemihla, kwaye iqabane lakhe lifunda kuphela xa eqala ukuhlala naye. Ngokuchasene neengxaki zemihla ngemihla, inkqubo yomgama omnye komnye iqala. Abafazi bajwayele ukugxeka bonke abantu: "Akathethi kum, uyeka ukunika izipho." Kwiimeko zomgama kwiibini, ezimbini ziza kubeka ityala. Ngenxa yoko, abafazi bashiya uxanduva kwindoda yesini. Kodwa amadoda alindele nje iqela, imbonakaliso yothando. Abasetyhini banako ukutshintshela oku kumagxa abo.
Ngubani na umninindlu?
Kwiminyaka yakutshanje, abafazi baye bazincama kakhulu kwaye bazama ukulingana namadoda kuyo yonke into. Amantombazana amahle angabonwa kwiindawo eziphambili zeenkampani ezinkulu ezingekho ngaphantsi kwabanini bezambatho ze-triples. Kwaye kwishishini, abafazi bayahamba kunye namadoda. Ngenxa yoko, abanye abafazi baqala ukufumana ezimbini, nokuba ziphindwe kathathu ngaphezu kwamadoda abo. Kodwa amadoda akakwazi ukuma olu khuphiswano. Ngenxa yoko: ihlazo ngenxa yekutsi umfazi nguye oyintloko, kwaye umyeni uhleka emva "kwiindawo". Kutheni amadoda engenakuwwamkela le nto kwaye esakholelwa ukuba inkolelo yabasetyhini kubeletha abantwana kwaye ihlambulule endlwini, idale ukucoceka kweentsapho? Impendulo yombuzo ingumgangatho wezofuzo. Ngezihlandlo zomntu wamathoba, amabhinqa akhangwa kuloo ndoda, owayengumngcipheko kunabo bonke: wayezingela kangcono, waphumelela phakathi kwezihlobo zakhe. Kwabesifazana basendulo, wayenempumelelo, kuba le ndoda yayingenayo inzala. Kwizinga lofuzo, laliprintiwe. Ngako oko, amadoda angamhlanje anzima ukukhuphisana, ngokukodwa kwintombi. Kodwa kungekhona kuphela izakhi zofuzo ezichaphazela ingqondo ephakamileyo kumncintiswano kumadoda. Oososayensi baseMerika bafumene ukuba babo banamandla kunabesifazane, buchaphazela ubukhulu kunye nempumelelo yomlingani emsebenzini. Oku kungenxa yemali enkulu ye testosterone emzimbeni. Ngombulelo kuye, inkunzi yenzani umnqweno wokuba ngowokuqala kuyo yonke into. Ngaphezu koko, intsapho yakhe ithonya ingcamango yendlela yentsapho yendoda. Ukuba uyise wayengumcebisi, kwaye unina wayesekhaya, kunzima ukuba atshintshe aze aqonde ezinye izicwangciso, kuba inkqubo yabekwe ebuntwaneni, ithatha njengesiseko.
Isicwangciso sokuziphatha:
- Musa ukwenza izizathu zokuphumelela kwakho.
- Ungathethi ukuba uyayiqonda indlela embi ngayo kuye ngoku, musa ukulivalela: oku kuya kuphazamisa iimvakalelo zakhe.
- Ndiyabulela ngenkxaso yakhe, ngenxa yesidlo esilungisiwe.
- Cela uncedo malunga nendlela yokwenza ngcono, ukuxazulula imiba ethile - makenze uzive eyona nto.
- Memezele izenzo zakhe kwizinto ezinobunzima, umzekelo, yintoni umntu ontle, ukuba waxhoma ishefu, inamandla kwaye isandi, njengokungathi inkosi yangempela yenzayo.
- Musa ukumbika ngenxa yokungaphumeleli kunye nokuxhamla emsebenzini wakhe. Musa ukuhlaziya isithunzi sakhe.
Ngokweziphumo zophando lweManyano ye-American Psychological Association, kwafunyaniswa ukuba abafazi, ngenxa yokuguquguquka komlingani wabo kwaye abanamandla, ngokungafani namadoda, balwela ukhokelo, baqhubeka nemisebenzi ngexesha leengxaki ezahlukeneyo. Ngokungafani namadoda, bavuma ukunyamezela kunye / okanye umvuzo.
Ukuxubusha
Ukuze uqonde ngakumbi, ngamanye amaxesha kufuneka ufune ukuthetha ngomoya okhululekile, uhleli etafileni. Tshela iqabane lakho onke amabango oye waqokelela. Makhe enze okufanayo. Kwaye kuyinqweneleka ukuxoxa ngeengxaki ngelixa besesibilini, kwaye kungekhona unyaka kunye nesiqingatha emva koko, emva kokuba bazuze phambili. Kwaye kuyimfuneko kakhulu ukutshintsha ugxininiso kwimpikiswano "ngubani omele uxanduva?" Ukufumana isisombululo "ukuba uyenze ntoni?". Zama ukuziva ukuba uyintandane ngokwenene, kwaye elowo unamagama angathanda ukuwaxelela omnye. Wonke umntu emininzi yomphefumlo uthemba ukuba omnye uya kumqonda, nangona igobolondo yezenzo ezimbi kunye neengxelo ezenzayo. Thetha ngokukhawuleza, ungahambi ukuya kumathoni aphezulu.
Isicwangciso sokuziphatha:
- Hamba ngosuku. Yinike yona iqabane lakho, uye kwi-cafe, kwindawo yokudlela, ukuhamba. Kulapho unokuthetha intliziyo ngentliziyo kwaye uphendule iingxaki zakho. Xelela omnye ngomnye ngezinto ozilibazisayo. Mhlawumbi wena okanye lakho iqabane liyakunomdla kwizinto zokuzilibazisa.
- Thatha uhambo lokuloba kunye naye, kwaye makumvumele ahambe nawe ukuba adlale izifundo. Izinto zokuzilibazisa ezidibeneyo zidibanisa.
- Udla ngokuzonwabisa kunye. Yiya kwi-cinema, kwi-bowling okanye kwiklabhu, ungakulibali ngokuphila kwenkcubeko-ukutyelela ngokubambisana kwimiboniso okanye ikhonsathi inokuphonsa isihloko esinomdla kwintetho.
- Nika umhlobo wakho izipho, umangaliswe. Ukuba ufuna insizwa yakho ikunike iintyatyambo, xelela ngaye okanye ngokuphawula. Akayena i-telepath ukwazi oko ufunayo ngoku. Ngako oko, kunika izinto ezintle kwiinkwenkwe zakho. Okanye ubhalele amanqaku amancinci kunye neminqweno yosuku oluhle. Basenokushiywa ephaketheni lesigqila sakhe okanye esikhwameni.
Malunga neMoydodyr
Ukususela kwixesha elidlulileyo kwakukholelwa ukuba xa amadoda ahlala ezingela, abafazi babegcina ikhaya. Kubonakala ngathi amaxesha ashintshile, kodwa amalungiselelo enu awanalo. Ingcambu yale ngxaki ikhula ukusuka kwintsapho. Ukuba umama unyanzelekile unyana wakhe ukuba ahlambulule kunye naye, ebomini bakhe bentsapho akafaneki ukushiya amacwecwe angatshwanga. Ukuba umama wayehlala ehlambulule kuye, ngenxa yendoda ngokulandelelana kwezinto, ukuba endlwini kufuneka umlindelwe ngumfazi. Ukuba ucinga ngako, kwimeko enjalo ibhinqa ilungele nantoni na, nje ukukhupha iqabane lakhe. Kodwa xa unyanzela umntu omncinane ukuba enze into - kholwa mna, uyithatha njengokuba ufuna ukuwayala. Yingakho ehlalisa ngokuzenzekelayo yonke imiyalelo yakho.
Isicwangciso sokuziphatha:
- Okona kubaluleke kakhulu - musa ukutyhala kumntu. Mnike indima ye-accomplice okanye umncedisi kwimicimbi edibeneyo.
- Hlala phantsi kunye nentombazana kwaye upende yonke imithwalo yemfanelo yendlu, ngubani na uhlobo lomsebenzi wangaphambili.
- Misela umyalelo wemisebenzi yasemakhaya kwaye uzimisele ukuhlawulwa ngenxa yokungahambelani. Khumbula ngexesha elifanayo ukuba udala imithetho yentsapho yonke, kwaye ungagcini inkululeko yomntu, ngoko ujeziso ngenxa yokwephulwa kwemithetho kuya kusetyenziswa kuwe kwimeko efanayo ngendlela efanayo. Ngaloo ndlela, uya kubonisa indoda yakho ukuba ungathathi ngaphantsi kwayo.
Isicwangciso sokuziphatha:
- Ngethuba lokuqala, ukuhamba kangcono ixesha elifutshane, ubuninzi beveki nesiqingatha.
- Shayela umfana wakho imihla ngemihla, wabelane ngemibono yakho.
- Ukuba nomntu wakho ufuna ngelinye ilanga ukuya kwedwa, musa ukwenza izigcawu, izihlazo kunye nokuphenywa.