Ukulwa "abantwana - abazali" ngonaphakade. Abanye abayiqondi abanye, aba bazama ukufundisa yokuqala ... Kwaye phantse kukho konke okulungileyo. Kwaye macala omabini acinga, aziva kakuhle indlela yokuqonda ngayo, isikhalazo esikhulu kukuba abazali basebenza, kwaye abantwana banandipha ubomi ...
Abantwana badinga i-rattles kuqala, ngoko ke amathoyizi axabisekileyo, kwaye emva kokuba abantwana babo bezonwabisa kunye nokuzonwabisa baya kuba nzima kakhulu. Umzekelo, umntwana ongaphezu komntwana angathanda ukudlala "kwintsapho" okanye "kwishishini." Abazali, ngelixa banoxanduva, baphoqelelwa rhoqo ukuba "bancede" umntwana. Ngoko ufumana ingxaki ongaziyo ukuba uyayiqonda njani - abazali bayasebenza, kwaye abantwana banandipha ubomi behleli entanyeni yabo.
Kunzima ukuba abantwana bazive ukuba ngabazali babo - yinyaniso. Ubuntwaba kunye nokuzikhukhumeza kwentsha kubanzi. Kwaye kuphela xa abantwana beba ngabazali, banokuziva bexanduva ngokupheleleyo. Bangakwazi ukuqikelela ukuba bangakanani abazali babo kunye nemali yabo, ixesha kunye nezakhono ezityalwe kuyo. Kodwa ngaba abantwana banetyala le, okanye ngaba bayaqondakala kukuba banandipha ubomi ngokuzeleyo xa abazali babo basebenza?
Akukho mntu omele uxanduva
Okokuqala, abantwana bafunda ukuhamba, ngoko-ukuqonda ubomi kuyo yonke imbonakalo yayo. Konke oku, babazali. Kwiminyaka yokuqala, umama noyise - phantse yonke indawo. Kwaye umntwana uncike kwi-100%. Induduzo kunye nococeko, uphuhliso kunye noonxibelelwano ngunyaka wokuqala wobomi - konke oku kufuneka kufuneke kubazali.
Abantwana bakhula, kwaye abazali bafuna ukubona kubo "abantwana" abaye bakhula iminyaka emininzi, apho bajwayele khona. Kodwa abantwana banemibono yabo yehlabathi, iindawo ezihlukeneyo, ezingenakufikeleleka kwiinkalo eziqhelekileyo zabazali, nangona kunjalo - zabo iiminqweno (ngokuchasene nemiyalelo yabazali "indlela yokuphila ngokufanelekileyo"). Ngoko, ukuxabana, ukuxabana nokuxabana akunakukhutshwa.
Kwaye into eyona nto yinkxalabo kule nkqubo "nzima" yinto yokuba umntwana sele ekhulile ngengqondo yakhe kwaye uyazimela ngokupheleleyo, kodwa akanalo inkululeko yokuphathekayo. Ngako oko yonke into ayifunayo, iphinda ifune ivela kwindalo yonke-evela kubazali bakhe abaye bazama ukumondla, banikeze baze balinde ukuya kwishumi elinesibhozo.
Kwaye ngoku, kubonakala ngathi, umda wokugqibela. Umntwana wathola isatifiketi sokukhula, wawela umgca ... kodwa hayi! Lindela, sisenza. Ukulungiswa "ukungena" (kwakhona, ngokunyanzelwa kwabazali - kwixesha elizeleyo) - sifunda. Kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo "thina". Kwakudala kangakanani ukuba "sidla" okanye "thina pokakali" ...
Ngoko, iminyaka emihlanu yoqeqesho, kwaye umntwana sele esekhulile ... Nangona ulinde! Waya emsebenzini - kwaye ekugqibeleni akazange "sihambe." Kwiintlango zeofisi yeofisi, "i-kid" yakho kufuneka ikwazi ukujamelana nayo. Nayi kuphela umvuzo oye waphonywa - kunye nenkokhelo nangayiphi na indlela ongeke ufumane ubuncinane kwihostlu ehlawulekayo. Umama, Tata, uncedo! Okanye ubuncinane, ungakhathazeki. Apha unayo i-$ 50. ngokutya kwam, kunye ne-communal - ngoko awuyikucima ukukhanya, ngoko kutsha!
Kwaye ngeempela-veki umntwana uya kwintombazana okanye ahambe kunye nabahlobo bakhe, echitha umvuzo wakhe ophantsi. Umama (ngamanye amaxesha usele umhlalaphantsi) uyabubula, kwaye anikezela intombi into engekhoyo "yezilwanyana" okanye "i-pantyhose". Ngoko kuvela ukuba umntu akanakuqonda ukuba kutheni abazali (nokuba ngumhlalaphantsi wokuhlala emsebenzini) basasebenza, kwaye abantwana banandipha ubomi kwiindleko zabo ...
Ngoko, umvuzo ukhule, uqeqesho lufumaneka kwaye luqinisekiswa. Sekunjalo ixesha lokuba abazali bahlale ematyaleni abo ... Kodwa abantwana bayatshata baze batshata, kwaye ngakumbi nangakumbi kumtshakazi (nangona umyeni ekwazi ukuhlawula zonke iindleko zomtshato), abazali "baya kunceda". Eyona nto ayiyintombazana yabo ehluphekileyo yedwa ukuba idonsa umthwalo wayo wezemali kakhulu kumvuzo wakhe oqhelekileyo!
Emva koko abantwana, ke indlu, ngoko imoto ayaneleyo ... Abazali banikeli nje yonke into - bayinika okokugqibela, ukuba ngaba abantwana babo kuphela baninzi kwaye abayidingi. Nangona le mfuneko yicinga, oko kuthetha, "inqobo" ...
Ngexesha elithile, kwaye ngokukhawuleza kunokuba emva koko, kufuneka ukwazi ukusho ukuthi "Yeka, Kwanele . " Ukwenza oku ngokuchanekileyo nangokwemvelo, uchaza ukuba iintsapho zahluke ngoku, uhlahlo lwabiwo-mali. Enyanisweni, kukukhohlakele ukuza kunye nekhekhe ngosuku lokuzalwa kwentombi yakho ethandekayo okanye unyana, ungakuvuyi into enzulu. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba amathuba okwenza imali aqhubekile, ngoko kwenzeka kwaye njalo. Kodwa nangona kunjalo, umzuzu kufuneka ufike xa abantwana beqonda ukuba abazali abasebenzi nje kuphela, kodwa kufuneka banandiphe ubomi. Ukuba abazali banokuba nezicwangciso zabo kunye nokulondolozwa kwabo, abangahambelani nezicwangciso zabantwana ...