Akunabantwana abanjalo abangenakwenza into "ngaphandle kwesiqhelo". Abantwana abayithobeliyo, bayathanda, badlala amaqhinga kwaye awukwazi ukuphuma kuyo. Umntwana ongenamdla uthabatha amandla amaninzi kumama, kuba kufuneka ahlale ekhangelelani, jonga, kangangokuthi kwakhona akazange asebenze ngokuzenzekelayo kwaye wenza into eyisiphukuphuku.
Indlela yokuzolalisa umntwana ongekho?
Yazi ukuba nayiphi na umntwana unesizathu salo mkhuba. Ukuze ufezekise umphumo onqwenelekayo awuyi kuncedwa ngendinyana ye "belt papa", ukubetha, ukufunga. Ukuba nomntwana ongekho nto kufuneka uphelise isizathu sokungathobeli abantwana.
Izindlela ezifanelekileyo zokuzinzisa umntwana?
- Khumbuza into ebalulekileyo ukucima ukukhala: "Uyakukhala kwakhona ngelixa elizayo, kungekudala ilanga liya kubeka kwaye asiyi kuba nexesha lokuhamba." Awuwususeli ilungelo lomntwana ukulila, nje ucele ukulinda okufutshane, kwaye njengomthetho, abantwana bayavumelana nale sabelo kwaye bahlalise.
- Buza umntwana ongenalwazi ukukhala ngelizwi eliphantsi (ukuba ungamvumi ubaba okanye ukhale ngelizwi eliphantsi, ngenxa yokuba unentloko). Ukuba uya kukuthobela, awuyi kukhwaza ngokwenene kwaye ukukhala kuya kukhawuleza.
- Awukwazi ukuphosakela isimo sengqondo esibi, esiya kudlula ngokwaso. Kodwa unokwenza lula impazamo, bonisa ukunganakwa apho ufuna ukubandakanyeka nokunyamekela. Ncedisa umntwana ukuba ahlalise. Kwaye uyambuza: "Masihambe ngaphandle size sibone ukuba kukho amaqabunga kumthi we-birch?"
- Khawuleza inkomo ngokukhawuleza "ngokukhawuleza ngokukhawuleza", akayi kuba nexesha lokuza engenakho ukuchasa. Isebenza kuphela nezingane. Abantwana asebekhulile baya kuvuma malunga nantoni na.
- Unokuqinisekisa umntwana ongenalwazi ngeenjongo. Ingundoqo yale ndlela kukuthetha lonke ixesha, ukuthetha ukuba kufuna amandla amaninzi. Ingane, eyayiza kulila, iyakulibala ngokukhala kwaye ingafuni ukugqoka imizuzwana embalwa iya kufa. Kukunzima ukugcina ulo lwazi olude olude. Kungcono ukuthetha into ephuhlisayo, eyiluncedo neyengqiqo, kwaye ungagxothi.
- Unokuphazamisa umntwana ngamazwi: "Unayo i-cilium kwiso lakho, kukuthintela ekulileni, ndivumele ukuba ndikhuphe ngaphandle."
- Awukwazi ukuphazamisa umntwana okhulile kunye nokhulile ngentaka, kodwa ufuna enye intshaba. Umntwana osecaleni lobahlaziyi, unokuthi: "Nokuba ngubani okhwela ekhitshini, mhlawumbi yinqaba okanye imouse, kufuneka ukhangele." Kufuneka ufike kuqala ekhitshini uze ushiye i-hedgehog okanye imouse kwikhadi kwitafile.
- Ngamanye amaxesha, ukwenza ikhefu lokukhala liphele, kufuneka ukhulume umntwana, oko akuvakalelwayo. Ndifuna ukumxelela ukuba uyazi ukuba kutheni ungahambi. Emva koko inkwenkwe iya kuqonda ukuba awunandaba nehleko lakhe.
- Unokunika umntwana wakho into ukuba alahleke iimvakalelo ezimbi. Ingaba ibhola, ithebhulethi, isando okanye inkampu, baya kunceda ukufumana umbane wamandla ambi.
- Zama ukusebenzisa isithethe esisiqhelo. Ngokukhawuleza xa umntwana ongeyena uya kulila, vula umcoco wokucoca uhlambulule umntwana kwi-vagaries okanye umisi oomatshini ukuze uncede iinyembezi zomntwana. Kodwa ukuba umntwana uyesaba indlela ezi zixhobo zekhaya ezizwakalayo, akufanelekanga ukusebenzisa le masiko.
- Ungasabela kumgudu onganelisekiyo ongenakunqwenela: "Esinye isilo esibi sisifikile. Hamba, nkosikazi, uza kubuya nini na umntwana ozukileyo? "Kodwa unokulindela ukuba umntwana angasabela ngokungafaniyo nala mazwi.
- Kwenzeka kanzima ngokwaneleyo ukumbumbana, kumanga umntwana, uthi uyamthanda, ongeyinto ehlaselayo, ecula ngobuso obuqhekekileyo. Kuphela inceba yentliziyo, ukufudumala kwamehlo kunokukhawuleza kunye nokwethembeka kwezinyembezi zezingane.
- Ngokusetyenziswa okufutshane usebenzisa ezi ndlela, uya kuziva ukuba kungcono ukusebenzisa le ndlela. Khumbula ukuba xa ukhalela kwindlela osebenza ngayo namhlanje, umntwana wakho uya kuthatha inxaxheba, uzive uxolo, uncede okanye udlule.
Kufuneka ukhunjulwe ukuba ngomntwana okufuneka ufumane ukuqonda kunye nokuchaza isizathu sokuba izenzo zakhe zibi. Kuphela ngokufikelela kwiinjongo, unokufezekisa ukuba umntwana ongekho nto uqale ukulungiswa. Akulula, kodwa kunokwenzeka.