Ngoko, indlela yokuziphatha kumyeni nomfazi okhulelwe, kwintoni omele uyamkele kunye noko unokukunceda? Amadoda afanelekileyo, ukuze uhlale nomfazi okhulelweyo iinyanga ezilisithoba, kufuneka ube nesigulane kwaye ufunde indlela yokuphendula ngokuzinzileyo kwizinto ezininzi ezibonakala zingenangqondo, ezingenangqondo okanye ezingenangqondo. Ukuba ukhumbuza nomfazi wakho malunga nalokhu emva kokuzalwa komntwana wakho, mhlawumbi kunokwenzeka, yena ngokwakhe akayi kukwazi ukuchaza isizathu sokuba akwenze. Ngoko ke, qiniseka ukuba ezi zikhumbuzo zihambelana nokuhleka, kungekhona inzondo.
Ngoko, njani ukuziphatha nomfazi okhulelweyo? Okokuqala, kuyimfuneko ukumnceda kuyo yonke into. Ngaphandle kwinqanaba lokuqala, umfazi akakwazi ukugqitywa, ukuphakamisa izisindo kunye nokusebenza emsebenzini. Awukhumbuli amaxesha apho abafazi basebenza kwintsimi kuze kube sekupheleni baze bazalise ngokuthe ngqo phantsi kweentsika ze-hay. Ngokuqinisekileyo, konke oku kwakukho, kodwa kukufanelekile ukukhumbula ukuba bangaphi abafazi abafa kunye nokubeleka, bangaphi abantwana abazange baphile okanye bazalwa bekhubazekile. Ngoko ke, musa ukuziphatha ngokunganyaniseki uze ucinge ukuba yonke into iya kuhamba kakuhle. Ngokuqinisekileyo, kuya kuba, kodwa oku akuyikunyanzela isidingo sokuqinisekisa nokukhusela. Mthande kakhulu nomfazi wakho. Zama ukumnceda kukho konke onako. Ungaze uvumele umfazi okhulelweyo ukuba ahlambe kwaye ahlambuluke, ingakumbi ngomhla ozayo. Kakade, akubona bonke abantu abazi indlela yokuphatha indlu. Kodwa wonke umntu unokufunda. Ngokukodwa kuya kuba luncedo kuwe emva kokuzalwa komntwana wakho, kuba ngelo xesha umfazi wakho akayi kuphinda ahlambuluke, ahlambuluke aze apheke. Ngako oko, nangona umfazi ngokwakhe ezenza into ethile, zama ukuthatha ininzi yomsebenzi. Kodwa ngelo xesha, into ephambili ayikunyanga umfazi wakhe, njengokungathi uyisikhubazo okanye uyagula. Ngamanye amaxesha amadoda aqala ukunyamekela abo bathandekayo kakhulu. Ungavumeli ukuhamba kwisinyathelo kwaye ungavumeli ukuba uthabathe ngisho neentsiba. Le ndlela, ngokuqinisekileyo, ininzi. Sekunjalo, ibhinqa kufuneka live njengomntu oqhelekileyo. Ngokukodwa oku kusebenza kumamakazi anamandla asetyenziswa ukwenza konke ngokwabo. Kule meko, udinga uncedo, ungakulibali ukukhumbuza ukuba akazange abe buthathaka kuwo onke, ngoku nje unembopheleleko yobomi babini kwaye kufuneka avumele ubuncinci ithuba lokukhathazeka ngaye kwaye amncede.
Kwakhona, amadoda ahlala esothusa ngamabhinqa, xa befuna ice cream, iikomkethi zetyuwa, kunye nexesha elingama-20 imizuzu. Ngamanye amaxesha abantu baqala ukucinga ukuba baxhatshazwa. Enyanisweni, oku akunjalo nakweyonke. Ngenxa yokuba utshintsho emzimbeni, ezininzi iinkqubo zendalo ziphulwa kwabasetyhini, kwaye imfuno yemveliso ethile ivela, ize iphele. Qonda oku ngeqondo lokuhlekisa nokuqonda, kwaye kungekhona ngokucaphukisa. Khumbula ukuba umfazi uqonda ukungafanelanga iimfuno kunye nokuziphatha kwakhe, kodwa, okwangoku, akakwazi ukwenza nantoni na. Kakade ke, ngamanye amaxesha amadoda asebenzisa izikhundla zawo ezincinci, kodwa, ngokukodwa, i-vagaries yabo ayinakuziqonda kubo.
Ngoko ke, ukuba le ntombazana yayifuna inanapple ngehora lesibini ekuseni - yithenge le phayinaphu. Nangona uhamba ngethuba lokuzisa ekhaya lezityalo ezinokugula, isenzo sakhe siya kubaluleke kakhulu kuye. Wonke umfazi ufuna ukuphulaphulwa. Kwaye kule ndawo uyayifuna kabini.
Kwakhona, umele ukhumbule ukuba ngenxa yokutshintsha kwe-hormone kwimvelaphi ngexesha lokukhulelwa, i-psyche ye-female iyinto engaqinisekanga. Kakade ke, oku akuthethi ukuba yonke intokazi ijika ibe yintokazi engabonakaliyo. Amanye amantombazana aziphathe ngokufanayo. Kodwa kubafazi abathile, ukukhulelwa kuya kuba nzima. Ukuba umfazi wakho unjalo, ungaze uhlale ucaphukile kwaye ungakhubeki ngaye. Isimo sakho sengqondo esibi siya kuthintela impilo yengqondo, ehambelana ngqo nomzimba.
Khumbula ukuba abafazi abakhulelweyo naluphi na uhlobo abanako ukukhathazeka, ukwesaba, ukukhathazeka, ngaphandle koko zonke ezi ngxaki ziyakuchaphazela impilo yemama nomntwana. Ngoko ke, nangona ibhinqa lilila kwaye lomsindo ngenxa yeso sizathu, akudingeki ukuba uchazele ukuba akalungile. Mthobele nje, ndixelele indlela othanda ngayo kwaye uyayixabisa ngayo. Ndikholelwe, kwimeko enjalo, kunzima kubafazi ukuba bathathe iingxabano ezinengqiqo. Kodwa baya kukuthobela ngokunyanisekileyo ububele kunye nenkxaso yakho.
Ngokuqhelekileyo, abafazi abakhulelweyo mabahlale bekhunjuzwa ukuba uyabathanda kwaye uyaqonda ukuba yinto enhle kakhulu kwaye ifunwa. Abasetyhini abaninzi kwimeko bacinga ukuba indoda ingamyeka ukumthanda ngenxa yokufumana ubunzima, ayikwazi ukuzinyameka ngaphambili, kunye nokunye okunjalo. Nangona uqonda ukuba oku kungenasiphelo kwaye akukho sizathu sokuba ucinge ngoko, musa ukuthukuthela. Ukuba umemeza umkakhe, ngoko ukuziphatha kwakhe kuqinisekisa iingcamango zakhe. Kodwa oku akunjalo kwaye awufuni ukucaphukisa umama wengane yakho ezayo. Ngoko ke, yibani nomnene naye, uthando kunye nokuxabisa, wenze izipho ezincinci kunye neentlungu. Akunakufuneka unike igolide kunye neadayimani ukuba ungenayo indlela yokwenza, kodwa wonke umntu angakwazi ukuzisa izimbali kunye neesekese ngezikhathi ezithile.
Xa ibhinqa likhulelwe, wonke umntu unethuba lokuzibonakalisa elona liqabane, kuba ngeli xesha lobomi elincinci, efuna inkxaso, ukukhuselwa, ukunyamekela nokunyamekela.