Kwaye emva kwexesha liye lahluke ngokupheleleyo, phantse lingalawuleki, ngoku liqala i-scandals, kwaye lihlala likulo. Kuthekwa yinto yonke: isobho eshushu kakhulu, awufumani iisokisi, kwaye kwanokuba unenkathazo emsebenzini, nawe. Ngenxa yoko, awukwazi ukuma kwaye usabele xa ushukunyiswa, uhlazo olubi, ngexesha adibana naye ebhedeni. Yaye yintoni emangalisayo, emva kokuhlambalaza, ubonisa ubulumko obungapheliyo kunye nokungaxhomeki kwimiba yesondo, nangona ngokuqhelekileyo akayikho embhedeni. Ndingayichaza njani le nto?
Uninzi lweengqondo zibiza abantu abaphikisanayo ngenxa yesondo - umsindo. Kubafundi abantombazana abadibanise ubomi babo, baninzi iindaba, nangona kunjalo zivakala, kodwa zilungile kwaye zimbi.
Masiqale ngokubi. I-Gnevoliki ifana neye-fetishist. Abaphela kuphela banomdla ovela ngaphantsi kweengubo, amathoyizi kunye nezinye izinto, kunye nohlobo olunefuthe lwamadoda-ukusuka kwi-scandals. Yaye ukuba ngaba naluphi na ixesha bafumanisa ukuba ukuxabana kubakhuthaza ngakumbi kunanoma yiyiphi i-preludes, ngokukhawuleza indawo ye-preludes iya kuba neengxabano. Ingxaki yakho kukuba emva kwexesha uyayeka ukufumana isifiso sesini, ngokuba oko kufunyanwa ngumntu wakho-akukuphefumli. Kwaye awunalo amandla okula. Ngokuqinisekileyo unako ukubuyela kwingcali onokuthi, ngokucetyiswa kwimeko efanelekileyo "yobomi ngokwesondo, uya kuzama ukunceda. Kodwa nokuba iingxoxo ezinde kwiofisi zihlala ziphela ngokubuyela kwisicatshulwa esidlulileyo sesini.
Iindaba ezilungileyo kukuqonda komntu ngengxaki kunye nomnqweno wokulungisa. Ulaka olunjalo lunokuphathwa. Kwaye ngokubaluleke kakhulu, akuyiyo yonke into eyenziwa ngayo isisombululo sokuphela kwesondo, ininzi yabo inqamle ingxoxo ethule.
Inzululwazi ye "sexology" yenze le ngxaki igama elincinane - "iNero Complex". UNero ungumlawuli waseRoma owayesebenzisa ingxabano nokukhala ukuze akhulise ubulili bakhe. Emva kokuqhaqhaqhaqhaqhayisa umbusi owawubona kumfazi wakhe-umfokazi, okuphambi kwakhe kwakunomlingane omtsha wezesondo, obenomdla ngakumbi kunomfazi wakhe. I-Physiologists iphinda ichaze le nto ngokunyusa i-testosterone ngexesha lokuxabana, nto leyo inokuba negalelo lokunyuka kwengqondo.
Ingxaki enomsindo kukuba baphupha "umfazi" owelele ukusuka ebusheni. Emva koko, akusiyo imfihlelo yokuba umfanekiso weentlonelo ezithobelayo umfundi unqabile ngokwenene abantu, kodwa amantombazana akhathazayo adala isifiso esingalawulekiyo. Kodwa, njengomthetho, amadoda achitha ixesha kunye nabanye, kwaye atshate ngokupheleleyo kwabanye, abahloniphekileyo nabathandekayo. Ingxaki ivela xa umntu eqala ukuqaphela ukuba umfazi wakhe ohloniphekileyo akayi kubangela isifiso sesini kuye. Ngenxa yokwesaba ukuba ulahlekelwe yimisebenzi yakhe yamadoda, uya kwi "bhathane" yokuqala kwaye ngokukhawuleza uyaqonda ukuba yonke into ilungile, kuba ingxaki ayikho kuye, kodwa kumfazi wayo. Amadoda amaninzi, emva kokufunda ngokungahambelani, emva kweminyaka embalwa bahamba nabafazi babo, kwaye abanye, bebathanda umfazi wabo, bafuna zonke iindlela zokufumana uvuyo kumlingane wabo. Kwaye emva kweengxabano ezilandelayo bafumanisa ukuba umfazi kwindoda yokuvukela - lo ngumfanekiso wesondo ogqithiseleyo, kunye nokuqhubeka kwimeko eyaziwayo. Bayidonsa loo nto ibhinqa, kwaye ixesha ngalinye elilandelayo lisebenzisa ingxabano njengesizathu sokwabelana ngesondo. Konke ngaphandle kokucinga malunga nesiqingatha esinye sicinga malunga nokuqala kwangaphambili.
Mhlawumbi, ukuxabana njengesiganeko sesondo kubonakala kunomdla kwaye kuyalinga, ukuba-kwenzeka kwenzeka ngokungalindelekanga, ngokukhawuleza kwaye kunqabile. Kwamanye amaxesha, amadoda anqanda ingqondo yomfazi ngeengqungquthela ezinobungqina, kwaye ngokuqhelekileyo ukuqonda oku. Bazama ukuhlawula ubukhohlakali babo ngokunyamekela nokukhathalela ubomi bemihla ngemihla, ngamanye amaxesha kunye nezipho ezibiza.
Iingcali zengqondo zithi uhlobo olunjengomsindo, ngokubanzi, luchaphazela kakubi abafazi. Baziva bengathembeki kubo, ukungaqondi, ukunyaniseka kunye nomsindo. Isizathu salokhu sinokukhuliswa koyise onesizungu okanye umama ongenalo uthando. Ngenxa yoko, umntwana ukhula i-misogynist. Kodwa, ekubeni engenakukulahla ngokwenyama abafazi, uqala ukumhleka ngaye embhedeni. Ngamanye amazwi, isakhiwo sengqondo yokubandezeleka sinamacandelo amabini: 1) ayithandi ngabafazi ngokubanzi 2) ubuthathaka ngokwesini
Ukuba awunathamsanqa kwaye kufuneka wabelane ngesitya kunye nomsindo, gcina ukhumbula ukuba ukuthula kwakho akuyi kuthathwa njengegolide. Emva kokukhetha iqabane, awukwazi ukuqaphela ukuba uya kufumana "ulonwabo" olunjalo. Ngethuba elifutshane baye bamtyelela, kwaye emva kokuba ufunde ngesifiso sakhe, awukwazi ukuzibandakanya naye? Ngoko ungakhathazeki ukuba, ngokugqithiseleyo kwexesha, sele uphelile zonke izihloko zokuxabana, uya kuqala ukukugxeka ngezinto ezingenangqondo. Ungazichukumisi ngegosa lentsimbi, nawuphi na umfazi onokugculelwa kwexesha elide uya kulahla isikhundla aze abaleke. Ukuba ufuna ukuhlala, kufuneka ufune ukuphuma.
Okokuqala, misela ukuba yiyiphi ingcambu yengxaki, oko kukuthi, uluphi uhlobo lomntu wakho. Ukuba uhloniphekile kwaye ungazivumeli kakhulu embhedeni (iimeko ezihlukeneyo, i-caresses yomlomo), ngoko umntu wakho unokusindiswa. Ingxaki inokwenzeka kuwe, kwaye wena, njengowesifazane ozilumkileyo, kufuneka uhlaziye iimpazamo zabo. Ukuba ubona ukuba umyeni wakho ukhetha i-caresses enzima, bonisa ukuba ulungele ukuzalisekisa i-whims kwaye ngaphandle kwempikiswano. Gqoka iimpahla zangaphantsi ezintle kwaye uziphathe ngesibindi. Kungekudala uya kuqonda ukuba ukuxabana njengesizathu asikho nto.
Ukuba umntu wakho u-misogynist, kuya kuba nzima nakakhulu ukutshintsha into ethile. Okokuqala, bonisa ukuba uyamthanda kwaye ungalokothi uyamngcatsha, umenze athembele, okanye mhlawumbi uthethe ukuba ufuna umntwana kuye. Kakade, akuyi kuba lula ukuphula indoda enjalo, kodwa yonke into inokwenzeka. Njengendlela eyongezelelweyo, qhagamshelana neengcali. Yaye ungavumi ukuhamba ngezandla zakho kwangaphambili, kuba yonke into ehlabathini ingatshintshwa. Njengesikhuthazo, makube kuwe ukuba umsindo awuyiyo into eqhelekileyo neyaziwayo, oko kuthetha ukuba ingxaki inesisombululo, ngaphandle koko abafazi bengenakuthula.