Into oyifunayo intombazana ebudlelwaneni nomfana

Ubudlelwane obukhulu phakathi kwesini na bazalwa ngokukhawuleza. Ngokuqhelekileyo kuthatha ixesha elide ukufumana umntu onqwenela ukuyibopha ixesha elide, kwaye mhlawumbi, ubudlelwane obungunaphakade. Ngexesha elifanayo, ngokuqinisekileyo, uqaphele ukuba lo mnqweno kumantombazana, kwaye mhlawumbi unesidingo, ufike kancinci kunokuba abuyele kubafana. Kwaye konke ngenxa yokuba sikhula ngokukhawuleza, siyaqonda ukuba kulo mbuzo kunzima. Kwaye, mhlawumbi, sidinga into emnye kumntu esidibana naye. Kwinqaku elithi "Yintoni intombazana efuna ngayo ubudlelwane nomfana" siya kuzama ukumba ubunzulu kwizengqondo zethu kwaye siqonde: kutheni zonke iintombazana zilindele ukuba olu lwalamano kwaye ngokokudala ufuna ukuba ubuncinane bentsapho yexesha elizayo?

Ngoko ke, intombazana ifuna ntoni kulwalamano nomfana? Impendulo ilula: ukuba intombazana sele ikhulile, ukuba ithe yahamba kunye namakhwenkwe kwaye yanquma ukukhetha umntu oyedwa, ngoko waziva ukuba nalo mfana uya kuba njengodonga lwamatye. Emva koko, yonke intombazana kufuneka iziva ikhuselekile, kodwa ngubani omnye oya kuba yinkxaso ethembekileyo kuye, ukuba ayengumfana othandayo?

Umnqweno wokudala intsapho okanye, ubuncinci, ukuhlakulela ubudlelwane obunzulu, ngokukodwa kusekelwe kwintsimi yokubeleka eyayizalwa kuyo yonke intokazi. Uqaphele ukuba amanye amantombazana atshada ngaphambi kwangoko aze aqale iintsana, ezinye zihlala "kumantombazana endala," kungekhona njalo kuba akukho mntu uthatha phantsi kwephiko lawo elithembekileyo lendoda. Siphinde sithethe ngala matyala xa intsapho yakhiwe ngokukhawuleza ngenxa yokukhulelwa kwentombazana. Sithetha ngesinyathelo esilungeleyo nesinyanisekileyo esenzekayo kungakhathaliseki ubudala. Nguye nje omnye wethu okhulayo ngaphambili, kodwa lo mama wesimo asikho kamsinya kumntu. Nangona kunjalo, uhlobo luyazi kakuhle xa kwaye ngubani ofuna ukuba nolwalamano olunzulu.

Ngokuqinisekileyo, isizathu esichazwe ngasentla sithandekile. Namuhla yonke into iyinkimbinkimbi. Apha, abazali bethu - bahlala kwezinye iimbotyi, bekuninzi kakhulu ukukhulelwa okungafunekiyo, kwaye umtshato wawuxabiswa njengento engatshatyalaliswayo kwaye izinzile. Ngoku, ngamanye amaxesha, imitshato idalwe yintlungu ngenxa ye "holide efunayo" - kwaye, njengokuba uyazi, ixesha elide iintsapho ezinjalo azikho. Isizathu esinjalo esinengqiqo asikwazi ukuba ngumthombo onokwethenjelwa kwintsapho.

Yintoni enye into intombazana engayifunayo kumfana, ngaphandle kwentswelo yokhuseleko? Mhlawumbi siza kuphendula ngokukhawuleza, kodwa kukho isizathu saloo nto. Imali ibangalisa amaninzi amantombazana, ngakumbi abo ba khulela kwiintsapho ezingasebenzi. Ukungabi nemali kunye nomnqweno wokuphuma kwindlu egxininisiweyo owayekwabelana ngayo nabantakwenu bonke ubomi bakho, ngamanye amaxesha kubonakala kunamandla kunezinye iimvakalelo. Kwaye kunye namantombazana, ukushiya ithemba lokuthandana kunye nobutyebi, bathanda ukusebenzisa umcimbi ovuyokileyo kwaye bakhethe ubutyebi kuphela, bengenalo uthando.

Ukuba intombazana ivakalelwa kukuba idinga isoka, oko akuthethi ukuba ufuna ukudala intsapho kunye naye wazala abantwana. Mhlawumbi, le ntombazana isencinane vzbalmoshna kwaye ikhangele nje ukubonakala komntu? Akunakunyulwa ukuba ufuna ukufezekisa ukuthandwa kwezinye iindidi ezithile, kwaye uzimisele ukusebenzisa umntu ofanelekileyo kule nto. Umanyano onjalo unokuba luncedo, kodwa, unzima. Wena uyaqonda ukuba kutheni. Emva koko, ekufezekiseni iinjongo zabo, intombazana ayisayi kuyimfuneko yokuhamba nale ndoda - iya kufuna enye, "ngokukhawuleza", kuba iinjongo azikho ndawo.

Nangona kunjalo, into esiye yafudukela kuyo yindlela ekutshitshiswa ngayo kunye nokuthengisa. Kwaye, nangona kunjalo ukuba loo matyala ayenzeka ngokuphindaphindiweyo ebomini bethu, oku akuthethi ukuba akukho nto ibonakalayo kwaye ilungileyo kwihlabathi lethu, kwaye bonke ubudlelwane bukhohlisayo kwaye bubulumko.

Emva koko, yonke intombazana ebudlelwaneni kunye nentombazana ethandekayo ifuna, okokuqala, isisa kunye nokuqondana, uthando kunye nothando. Ndifuna ukuba akhathazeke ngawe kwaye abize yonke ihafu yesure - nokuba kukubonakala kukucaphukisa, kodwa ukunyamekela okunjalo kuya kuba mnandi kakhulu ngaphakathi! Ndifuna ukuba akugubungile ngengubo phakathi kobusuku aze amanga ethempelini, ecinga ukuba sele sele ulele ngokuqinileyo. Ndifuna ukuba anqume isimo sakho kwamehlo kwaye aqonde yonke iminqweno yakho.

Kodwa kukho ezinye iintlobo zamantombazana, ngokuphambene noko. Makhe sibize olu hlobo lwengqondo "umama wesifazane" ngokomqathango. Kutheni "umama womama"? Ngenxa yokuba loo nto intombazana ebudlelwaneni ayifuni indoda ukuba imthabathe umntwana omncinci, yenza zonke izinto zayo kwaye zifunde ngamehlo. Hayi, yonke into iyahluke ngokupheleleyo: kufuneka inakekele inkwenkwe yakhe (ngendlela, le nto ayiyonto inqabileyo). Intombazana enjalo idinga ukunakekela umntu kunye nokufundisa. Uya kumondla loo ndoda, kuphuculwe izakhono zayo zokucwangcisa ukwenzela ukuba amlungiselele omnye umthendeleko wesisu. Yena kusihlwa uya kudibanisa ikhefu ebusika kumntwana wakhe. Ngaba uya kuphazamisa ukukhanya kwepansi kunye nefenitshala, ukuze abahlobo bamadoda akhe bathi: "Thixo wam, unjani ushishino!" - kwaye amazwi anjalo aya kumzisa. Ingxaki kuphela - akubona bonke abantu bayayixabisa olu hlobo lwabasetyhini, umntu ufuna intombazana encinci. Kwaye ukuba "umama-mfazi" uya kuba yindlela ekhethekileyo yomtshato, baqonda kuphela xa ixesha lilahlekile.

Kukho amantombazana e-vampire. Hayi, oku akuthethi ukuba loo ntokazi uyayiphuza igazi ... kodwa uyadla amandla, ngokukhethekileyo yindoda. Kuba intombazana enjalo akukho nto ingcono kunokuyalela umntu. Kwaye kubonakala kumnandi kakhulu ukuba ngaba ngummeli wesini esomeleleyo. Ukhangele "i-rag", indoda ethandana naye ezindlebeni kwaye ngubani okulungele kuyo yonke into. Ngomntu onjalo ukhululekile - intombazana yevampire ayithandi ukuxina ngaphandle kwesizathu. Kodwa akuyena wonke umntu, kungakhathaliseki ukuba wayebuthathaka kangakanani, uya kuvumela intombazana ukuba ihlekise ngaye. Ngako oko, le sizathu, kunoko, kuludwe "lwezinto eziphambeneyo".

Kwaye, ngokwenene, yonke intombazana ifuna ukuba isoka lakhe libe yindoda yokwenene: inamandla, inokwenza izigqibo ezibalulekileyo, ezingakhubekiyo kwaye azikhubekisi. Kwaye ke ufuna ukuba intombazana efunyanwa ebomini bakhe injalo intanda kunye nendoda yangempela-kuba le nto ilula, kodwa injabulo enkulu yowesifazane.