Ukuqala ubudlelwane nomfana oselula, amantombazana amaninzi acinga ukuba baya kuba ngaxesha elide. Emva kwakho konke, kuphela ekufikeni kwentsha, amantombazana, xa esithandana, ayengabonakali kwixesha elizayo. Kodwa omdala ibhinqa liba, ngakumbi ufuna ukuba nobuhlobo kunye nomfana osemtsha waba ngumtshato kunye nobomi obude kunye. Nangona kunjalo, ukuze uqhubeke ulwalamano olomeleleyo, kufuneka uqale ukuziphatha ukuze umntu angathanda ukuba nawe ngaphezu kweveki enye okanye ngenyanga.
Indlela yokwakha ulwalamano olomeleleyo oluya kuzisa uvuyo kubo bobabini? Lo mbuzo awunzima ukufumana impendulo. Kufuneka ukuba uhlale uhlola imeko leyo, ungazivumeli kakhulu uze ukwazi ukuphazamisa. Kodwa ngelishwa, akubona wonke umntu oqonda ukuba zeziphi iinjongo ezizithethayo. Ngoko makhe sithethe ngokubanzi malunga nendlela yokwakha ubudlelwane obuqinile.
Musa ukunyusa
Ukuqala ulwalamano nomntu, amaninzi amabhinqa azama ukuzibonakalisa ukusuka kwicala elifanelekileyo. Bavame ukuziphatha njengokuba bengabikho kwimpilo yemihla ngemihla, badlala kunye nabantu abatsha, bazenzele ukuba babelane ngokuthanda kwabo. Ukuze ube nolwalamano olomeleleyo, ngale ndlela awukwazi. Ngokuchanekileyo, unako, kodwa kuphela xa uqinisekile ukuba unokuziphatha ngoku njalo. Nangona kunjalo, njengoko kubonisa ukubonakalisa, ngokuqinisekileyo akukho mntu unokuhlala edlala kwaye engazivumeli ukuba ngokwakhe. Kungenxa yoko, ukuqala ulwalamano, kusengaphezulu ukubonisa uqobo. Kakade ke, oku akukwenzanga ukungathinteli ubufazi kunye nentlalo yesantombazana. Kodwa ngelo xesha, akudingeki ukuba uzenzele njengendoda engenakuqonda, ukuba ngokwabo ungumntwana "intombi yommelwane".
Yazi indlela yokubonisa ukunganeliseki
Enye impazamo yabantu abaqala ukudibana, oko kukukhokelela ekuxabaneni nokuhlukana-ukungakwazi ukubonisa iimpazamo komnye nomnye. Ekuqaleni kobudlelwane, baninzi bavala amehlo abo ukuba esinye isiqingatha asilungile, soyika ukumcaphukisa nokuzisa ingxabano. Ngenxa yoko, umntu uyasetyenziselwa into yokuba wenza konke okulungileyo kwaye xa umthandi engayigxininisi ixesha kunye kwaye eyazibonakalisa, intukuthelo nokungaqondi kakuhle kuyaqala, ukutyhola ukuba uthando luye lwadlula. Ukwakha ulwalamano oluqhelekileyo, akumele uloyike ukuthetha inyaniso. Umbuzo ngowonahlobo luni le nyaniso inikwe. Akusoloko kulungele ukugxeka, kwaye nangakumbi, ukuhlambalaza othandekayo. Kodwa kulungile ukuba uqaphele ukuba awuyithandi le nto okanye ukuba, ukuqinisekisile amagama akho ngeengxabano ezicacileyo nezichanekileyo-kunokwenzeka kwaye kuyimfuneko. Ngaloo ndlela, abantu bafunda ukuphulaphula imibono yomnye nomnye kwaye batshintshe into ekudibeneyo.
Yithi umona "cha"
Ukuba ufuna ukwakha ulwalamano olusisigxina, awufanele uvumele ukuba ube nomona ogqithiseleyo kunye nomnqweno wokulawula. Khumbula ukuba wonke umntu unokungagxininisi ilungelo lokuzimela kunye neendawo zakhe. Ukuba ufuna umntu abe nolwalamano olunzulu, oku kuthetha ukuthembela. Kwimeko xa kungekho ntembelo, umntu akufanele ahlale ebudlelwane obude kwixesha elide. Ngoko zama ukuzinqanda kwaye ungazami ukuvavanya wakho umthandayo. Khumbula ukuba wonk 'ubani unelungelo lokubhalisana, ixesha lakhe kunye neefowuni. Ngako oko, ungaqwalasele rhoqo apho kwaye ungubani na intanda yakho, zama ukufunda iSMS yakhe okanye ufunde uluhlu lwamakholi angenayo naphumayo. Okokuqala, ngaphandle kokwazi yonke imifanekiso, ininzi ingaqondwa kakubi. Ukongezelela, xa umntu ethanda ngokwenene, akavumelani nombono wobugwenxa. Nangona kunjalo, uxinzelelo olungapheliyo kunye nokungathembeki kunokumqhubela kwisenzo esinjalo, kungekuphela ukuba abe netyala rhoqo kwizenzo ezingaphelelanga.
Ewe, okugqibela kukungqinelani. Uyakwazi ukuvuma. Nangona ungumfazi, akuthethi ukuba nguwe kuphela ohlala ulungile. Zama ukuqwalasela ngokwaneleyo imeko kwaye uvume iimpazamo zakho. Yenza umntu wakho azi ukuba unokuhlala ufumana indlela yokuphuma kuyo nayiphi na imeko kunye.