Emazweni aseNtshona, oku kubizwa ngokuthi igama elihle lomfazi, kodwa zonke ezi mpawu zihla kubantu abadumileyo ngokubhekisele kwizinto ezinokubambisana kwamabhinqa, ukuba ibhinqa linokuba ngumntu ngexesha elifanayo. Ngokuphindaphindiweyo, amaninzi amabhinqa ahlala kwiindawo eziphambili kwiinkampani ezinkulu, izikhundla zemisebenzi yamadoda, ezama ukubonakalisa ukuzimela kwabo. Zonke ezi ntshukumo zabasetyhini zivusa ukuthambekela kwintlalo yanamhlanje ukuya kumatshato kunye nokufundisa abalinganiswa bamadoda banamhlanje, okwenzela ukunyaniseka kunye nokungakwazi ukucinga ngokuzimeleyo.
Ngokuqhelekileyo, xa ukhangele iqabane lomntu, umfazi akabukeli iindlela eziyinkimbinkimbi, kodwa ukhetha nje indoda efanelekileyo kakhulu ukuba angabi naluguqula imikhuba yakhe kunye nehlabathi jikelele, phulaphula ukukhankanya malunga nemisebenzi yalo mfazi kwaye uhlale ukhululekile kwaye ugoceke. Ngoko ke, kwindlela yabafazi banamhlanje ngokuphindaphindiweyo baninzi bafumana abantu abancinci. Ekuqalekeni kunzima ukucacisa ubukho bokuba ngumntu ongeyena mntwana - ngokuqhelekileyo amadoda anjalo akhangeleka njengomntu ukusuka kuqala (nakweyesibini!) Khangela, ngendlela yokuxoxa kunye nezinto ezithandayo, abafana abancinci bamele abamele isondo esinamandla. Inyaniso kuphela ekwazi ukuphawula ngokukhawuleza - oku kulungiswa ngokugqithiseleyo, njengokuba ininzi ye-infantils i-metrosexuals. Bonke ubomi bendoda bahamba kunqulo olungenakulinganiswa kubo, bathandekayo, ukwaneliseka zabo neemfuno kunye nokwesaba nawuphi na uxanduva. Xa uthetha ngobudlelwane obunjalo umntu onokumenza umntu odidekileyo okanye ubaleke, echaza izinto eziphuthumayo. Emva koko, uya kugqitha indlela yakhe yeshumi aze akhonxele kubahlobo ukuba abanalo ixesha lokuqalisa ubudlelwane, kwaye kuye bafuna into ethile.
Ngaba kunokwenzeka ukuba ube nemanyano ehambelanayo nomntu omncinci?
Amadoda angamaqabane angaboni ngongoma obunzulu kunye nomtshato, ngenxa yokuba bakholelwa ukuba ulutsha nolutsha luya kuhlala ngonaphakade, kuya kuhlala kusekho intombazana eya kutshabalalisa ubumnandi ngenxa yobukho bayo, kwaye yatshata nomfana omfana-oku kuya kubhubhisa ngonaphakade ubomi bakho, buyeke ukungabikho.
Kodwa ukuba umfazi uthatha isigqibo sokunyanzela ukungafuni, kodwa indoda ethandekayo, zonke iindlela ezenzekayo ziza kudlala - umzamo wokufumana umdla oqhelekileyo, umbuzo wemali okanye yomsebenzi, iimeko eziqhelekileyo zowesifazane obuthathaka. Kwiimeko ezininzi, umntu uqala ukubona kumfazi okanye umhlobo ococekileyo, okanye ubenobuthakathaka kunokuba yena, nokuba ngumntu, kwaye uqala ukutshintsha ngokukhawuleza i-worldview kunye nokuziphatha kwakhe. Kodwa kwimeko apho zonke iingcingo zabesifazane zisebenze, kwaye umthandayo akafuni ukwenza ukulungiswa, kungcono ukuphinda uthule kwaye uhambe. Izenzo ezinjalo ziya kumphoqa umntu ukuba acinge ukuba uyayifuna le ntokazi, malunga nobomi bakhe, ukuziphatha kunye nezinye izinto ezinobuqili. Ukuqaphela ukulahlekelwa ngumntu othandayo kuya kuphoqa nabani na ukuba bahlanganyele ekuhloliseni nasekuhlalutheni ukuziphatha kwabo kunye neenjongo zokuphila. Emva kwakho konke, siyazi ukubaluleka kobudlelwane kuphela xa bona bachithwa ngamagama kunye nokuziphatha kwabo, kwaye umnqweno wokubuyisela othandekayo unika amandla kwaye unokusebenza njengenkuthazo yokutshintsha.