Kwenzeka ukuba kube mnyama, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha kuthiwa kukho umhlophe, kodwa nayiphi na imibala le mvakalelo, iya kuhlala isinegunya elibhubhisa, liye linciphisa ukuzithemba kwakho, ukuzithemba kunye nokuchaphazela kakubi ubudlelwane nabanye. Uvakalelo olunjalo, njengomona, luvela kubantu kuphela. Cinga, kuba akukho nkwenkwe izakuzithelekisa kunye nokhozi okanye i-peacock kunye nokusila, ukulibala konke malunga neenkukhu. Kwaye kwenzeka ntoni kuthi?
Nangona thina ngokwethu asikwazi ukuvuma rhoqo ukuba sinomona . Asinomona nje ngabasebenzi abasebenzisana nabo, kodwa kunye nezihlobo zethu: bahlobo, bazalwana, odadewethu. Emva kommelwane womcingo, njengokuba uyazi, rhoqo utshani buhlaza.
Kubalulekile ukufumana umntu ovela kwiindawo eziphakamileyo ezithile, indlela oqala ngayo ukuziva ungenangxaki kuye. Hayi, "asinomona", xa, sifunde ngempumelelo yomntu, sithi: "Uya kucinga ... ngoko! Okufanayo kum: Ewe, andiyidingi le nto. "
Abantu abaninzi abangenakuvuyela ngokunyanisekileyo kwimpumelelo yabanye ngenxa yenzondelelo, bachaze ngokunyaniseka ukuba kwakungenakunyaniseka ukufezekisa konke oku. Kwaye ngoku sibona indlela umhlobo enokufumana ngayo imoto efanelekileyo, i-suit ebiza kakhulu, uqala ukumkhwele, kwaye xa wayesebenza emanzini yakhe, elahlekelwa yimali aze abuye phambili, wawungakhange ukhangele. Kutheni ngoku, ukuba ulahlekelwe eli xesha ngexesha lobomi bomhlobo wakho, ngaba uyabona umphumo kuphela, ebeka kuyo amandla amakhulu? Yintoni eyokuthintela ukwenza okufanayo, ukwenza imibingelelo efanayo ukuphucula ubomi bakho?
Kukho abantu abanomdla kakhulu kwiimpumelelo zabathandekayo babo . Kwaye njengoko besithi, sonke sivela ebuntwaneni. Ukuba, ukususela ebuntwaneni, umntwana uhlala ebhekiselele ekubeni unobungozi ngaphezu koSasha, owamkela "ezintlanu" kwaye uyagijima ngokukhawuleza kwaye ngokubanzi ixesha, emva koko, emva kokukhula, umntu uya kuziqhathanisa nomnye kwaye uya kuhlala evakalelwa " ngoko ukuphakama ngaphezu kwakho. Musa ukwenza iimpazamo ezifanayo kunye nabantwana bakho, qhathanisa impumelelo kuphela neyabo. Ngokomzekelo, tshela ukuba kwikota yokugqibela ufunde ngakumbi kunoko, ngoko kufuneka uzame uze ukhuphe ezinye izinto.
Kukho nawuphi na, kukho konke unokufumana ixesha elihle . Ukuba wenza into oyithandayo, ke akukho mona ayiyi kuphazamisa igazi lakho, kuba umntu owanelisayo akaqapheli ukungaphumeleli kobomi bakhe. Awuyena umphathi? Ukugqwesa, kuba imfuno evela kuwe ingaphantsi kwaye ixesha elide lihlala lobomi bomntu. Vele uhambise izivakalisi. Zama zonke izinto ezilungileyo ebomini bakho, zijongwa ngeglasi yokukhulisa, kunye nenye ingxubusho ngokunciphisa.
Ukuba , ngakolunye uhlangothi, unomdla wabanye , ngokokuqala, cinga, mhlawumbi ukuziphatha kwakho kuphazamisa isithunzi sabanye abantu. Bonisa ukuzithiba, ungazigabisi. Ekugqibeleni, isithuba somntu onengqondo, unokukwazi ukuguquka lula kuwe. Akuyimfuneko ukuthetha ngezicwangciso zakho, malunga noko kungakenzekanga okwamanje, ngenxa yokuba uya kuchitha amandla, anokunceda ukuphunyezwa kwesi cwangciso.
Zama ukunxibelelana kakhulu nalabo abanomona ovulekile kuwe, onokuziva ungonwabi phambi kwakhe. Ukususela ekubeni uya kuzama ukukholisa kubo, akunakwenzeka ukuba baphathe kakubi. Xa ufika ekhaya, hlamba ngamanzi apholileyo, kuya kuthatha ngolwazi olubi, o "wanikezela" abantu abanenzondelelo.
Funda, nangona kunzima kangakanani, ukuba uvuyo ngabanye abantu, ukujonga ixesha elihle ebomini bakho kuba, ngokuqinisekileyo, kwaye, ngokulinganayo, kufuneka baqondwe kuphela.