Ngokuqhelekileyo, umfazi onenkathazo ngempilo yecandelo lesetyhini ufuna ukuba nabantwana, kodwa ukwesaba ukuqala unyango, njengoko kunokuba buhlungu kwaye bubiza, ngoko uyashiya njengoko kunjalo. Kuyafana, kwiimeko ezininzi, ingxaki enkulu yokugula ayikho kwindawo yomzimba, kodwa kwintsimi yengqondo. Yingakho abaninzi abasetyhini abasasaza oogqirha bancedisa, musa ukunyanga ekupheleni, kuba ukumba ngokujulile abanalo amandla okwaneleyo okanye umnqweno. Kodwa ngelize. Emva kwakho konke, okokuqala, xa uphatha unyango, kufuneka ufune uncedo kwizengqondo zengqondo, kufuneka ufumane ukuzithemba kwaye ungagxininisi kwiingxaki, ulungele into entsha, ibhinqa elomeleleyo emoyeni nesibindi lingakwazi ukuzala umntwana ngaphandle kokwesaba iingxaki ngempilo yakhe nangempilo yengomso isizukulwana.
Asitsho ukuba ngoncedo lweengqondo ze-psychologist ungabuyisela ngokupheleleyo ukuveliswa, kufuneka ufumane unyango kunye nomzimba wezifo zengqondo. Ubambiswano oludibeneyo kule mimandla emibini luyakunceda ukuba uphinde ufumane. Kalula, ungakulibali ukuba akufanele uthembele kuphela kumayeza kunye neenkqubo zonyango. Kufuneka ukhunjulwe ukuba iindlela zokwabelana ngonyango zingakunceda ngexesha elifutshane ukuba uzive amandla okubeletha umntwana kwaye ube ngabazali bakhe abalungileyo . Ukongezelela, musa ukulibala ukuba ukubonisana nengcali ye-psychologist ufuna ukuba kungekhona kuphela kumama ozayo, kodwa nangesiqingatha sesibini.
Kwiseseshoni, amatsha amatsha aya kuvulela wena, kufuneka uncede ukuvula inkqubo yokubeletha, leyo nayiphi na isizathu esingaba nako ukuyisebenzisa, kwaye ngaphandle kwenkululeko yaso epheleleyo, akunakwenzeka ukuba uqiniseke ngokuqinisekileyo ngomnqweno wokuzala uze ukhuphe umntwana.
Kubalulekile ukuphawula kwakhona ukuba inkoliso yeengxaki zengqondo zengxaki yokungabikho kwengqondo zivela kubantu, njengokuba baba nguyise kunzima kakhulu, kungekhona wonke umntu ulungele ukuthatha uxanduva lokuphila.
Into ephambili ayiyi kudimazeka, phantse iipesenti ezingamashumi asixhenxe zeembini ezijongene neengxaki zokungabikho komntwana kwaye banomntwana omdala omlindele. Musa ukungahoywa, nangona kwakungeyona indlela yokonyango, kodwa uncedo lwengqondo kufuneka lufakwe kwenye yezicwangciso zokuqala.