Izizathu ezinjalo zokulala ngesondo

Sonke sibonakala siqonda ukuba "isondo" sisiphi na, kodwa ngathi akunjalo. Omnye ucinga ukuba "isondo" sisenzo sokuqhelanisa, umntu uthi konke okwenzelwa ukuzonwabisa, kwabanye igama elithi "isondo" ngokuyinhloko lithetha ubulili, ubulili, kunye nesimo sezinto ezizungezile. Iinjongo kunye nezizathu zokulala ngesondo zigxininise kakhulu kwiingqondo kwaye azikho konke.


Inye kunye nenkqubo efanayo, kodwa ngamnye wethu unesimo sakhe sengqondo, isizathu, izizathu. Kutheni oku kwenzekayo? Yintoni isondo kuthetha ntoni namhlanje kuninzi? Kutheni izizathu ezihlukileyo kwaye sinesizathu salo? Makhe sibone.

Ukuqatshelwa koluntu

Kuye kwenzeka ukuba isondo namhlanje sinxalenye yentengiso, ukuthengiswa kunye nenkcubeko yentlalo. Isondo kuthi namhlanje sithetha into enqwenelekayo, enhle, eyimfuneko. Apho ungaboni - amantombazana amantombazana e-posters, iimpawu, iimpawu, izibhengezo, ezithandekayo ngakumbi, umdla kumthengi. Isondo namhlanje sifihliwe kwiincwadi nakwiimifanekiso, kwimifanekiso. Ukuhlalutya i-protagonist eyintandokazi okanye i-heroine, ephumelele kwimpumelelo yoluntu-ngokuqhelekileyo ikhululiwe, i-sexy and self-confidence. Iqhawe lamaqhawe, amafilimu e-adventure kunye nefantasy ngokuqhelekileyo yindoda enesibindi, ufanelwe ukuba yiyintando ebantwini, kwaye ayikho enye intsha engathembekanga. Ukwabelana ngesondo namhlanje ngenye yeefom zokuphumeza uluntu, ukuba yinxalenye yomfanekiso, ukuzinikela kuye. Silandela isondo njengenkolo, sikholelwa ukuba kuya kuzisa ukwaneliseka, ukuzonwabisa kunye nokuzithemba.

Uloyiko lonwabo

Ngamnye wethu, kwinqanaba elithile, ngexesha elide, unobunzima. Ngamanye amaxesha, nokuba sinezihlobo kunye nomntu osondeleyo - sinokuthi vseravno uzive ngathi nguye kuphela umntu emhlabeni. Kwaye nangona kukho abantu abaninzi kangaka, kubonakala ngathi sonke singaziwayo, singaziqondi, singenalo uthando. Umntu unqwenela ukubalekela uluntu, ngokulinganayo ukususela ekufeni. Le ngenye yezobuhlungu, izinto eziphazamisayo, ziphi iphupha ebusuku. Ukhulile ngamnye wethu unengqungqelo yoluyiko, uhlobo oluthile lokungabi nalutho ngaphakathi, oluya kugcwaliswa kuphela ngomnye umntu. Abantu badinga ubunye, sidinga abanye abantu, ukunxibelelana, ukuthandana, uthando. Ngamanye amaxesha ukungabi nalutho kuthi kunamandla kwaye kudla konke kwaye sizama ukuwuzalisa ngesondo. Emva kwesondo ubuhlobo obusondeleyo, ukusondela kwabantu ababini. Ukufunyanwa, ukuthembela, ubunye. Ukwabelana ngesondo kuvumela abantu ukuba bangaziva banesizungu, bavulele omnye umntu, bathembele kuye baze bamvumele ukuba asuse uloyiko lwakhe.

Ndi nqwenela ukunqwenela

Ngamanye amaxesha isisombululo sokulala ngesondo sinqwenela ukuthanda isondo. Emva koko, isondo siyinto ekhethekileyo. Ukuba akukho mnqweno, siyazibuza: Yintoni ephosakeleyo nathi? Ngamnye wethu ukwesaba ukungaqhelekanga ngandlela-thile. Umnqweno oqhelekileyo - uhambelana nesakhelo esithile kuluntu. Umnqweno wokuba "njengomntu wonke" usisigxina kunye nerax. Emva koko, oku "kuyinto evamile". Kwaye ukuba utywala okanye ungafuni ukulala ngesondo kudla ngokulingana kunye nentukuzelo nokuthotywa, ukugula. Kodwa awufuni - yinto eqhelekileyo, ngakumbi ukuba inani lomntu ongathandekiyo okanye ebomini bakho ngoku lixesha elilukhuni. Ukwabelana ngesondo ngumsebenzi osondelene kakhulu kwaye ufikelela kuwe. Akuyimfuneko ukuzilungelelana kwiifowuni eziqhelekileyo kunye nemimiselo yegama kunye nemigangatho. Unqwenela ngesondo kuphela ngenxa yokuba abanye bayayifuna. Ngamnye wethu uza ixesha lakhe kunye nesizathu. Ngaphezu koko, ukuzenza ngokwakho into eyona nto ungayicinga ngayo. Ngaloo ndlela, kunokwenzeka ukuqokelela ukrakra kunye nentukuthelo, kwaye ngokukhawuleza kwaye ulahlekelwe ngokupheleleyo ngumnqweno kwaye ... ukuze ufumane ukwesaba. Ngaba uyayifuna le nto?

Ukuzonwabisa

Akusiyo imfihlelo yokuba ulwabelana ngesondo luyolonwabo, iindawo ezisetyenziselwa ingqondo zenza ukuba zibe zizidakamizwa. Kodwa asikhathalele ngokuxhomekeka kwezesondo - kuphela inzuzo yethu yendalo: iphunga eliphuculayo, ubunzima kunye nengozi yesifo senhliziyo, ngokumangalisayo unyango lokudandatheka, ithuba elincinci lomkhuhlane, kunye nempilo engcono jikelele. Yaye yintoni isizathu esingenasidima?

Ukuzimela nokuzithemba

Ukwabelana ngesondo ngenye yeendlela zokuzibonakalisa, ukuziqinisekisa. Oku kubaluleke kakhulu kumadoda, obani ubuchule besini ngesantya kuninzi .Abantu abaninzi baqonda isondo njengabo "ukunqoba", bafuna ukuzivakalelwa njengeengcali, i-superman okanye iqhawe le-movie ... Yingakho kukho into enjalo: amadoda athetha ngokuphumelela kwabo kunye nempumelelo kwizesondo, kunye nabasetyhini ngokuchasene nezikhalazo. Kwaye kukho inyaniso. Kwabaninzi amadoda, isondo siyinxalenye yesimo, ibalulekileyo ebomini babo, uphawu lwazo. Kubasetyhini, le ndlela yindlela yokufumana ukuzithemba. Wonke umfazi uthanda ukufunwa, oku kuyimfuneko kubo. Ukuba ibhinqa ayithandi, liya kubuna, njengentyantyambo engapheliyo. Nangona intombazana inokutshintsha kwaye ikhubeze kuye isoka layo "uhlala uthanda into enye kwaye ucinge, uhlala undifuna, ndidiniwe, ndixhelile", ukuba le "isilwanyana" ngokukhawuleza iyeka ukuyifuna, ayiyi kubeka ingqalelo kwizinto ezilungileyo kunye nezikhohlisayo zangaphandle unomusa ... uya kuhlutha. Ukwabelana ngesondo kunceda umfazi ukuba azive efuna, uzive enhle kwaye ethandekayo. Isini esinikwa ngesini sinika ukuzithemba, sivumela ukuba sivale ukumkani wehlabathi lonke! Kuzo zonke izinto zesini - oku akuyona nje indlela yokunxibelelana, indlela yokuzibonakalisa, kodwa nokuzibonakalisa into ethile. Ukwabelana ngesondo ngamanye amaxesha kubangela amandla kunye nokwethemba, okubaluleke kakhulu.

Ngomntu ngamnye wesini unokufumana isimboli somntu ngamnye, intsingiselo eya kuba yintliziyo kunye nokubangela.