Utywala
Mhlawumbi isizathu esiqhelekileyo sokuhamba kwindoda yamanje yindoda ibunxila. Ukuba indoda ayikwazi, ayifuni, ayifuni ukuyeka ukuxhomekeka kotywala egameni lomfazi kunye nabantwana, uya kulahlekelwa ngumfazi. Ukusetyenziswa rhoqo kotywala kukukhokelela ekubeni umyeni ulahlekelwa yiminqweno yakhe yangaphambili, uyaba nomsindo, athabathe ukukhawuleza, ukungakhathaleli ubomi, kwintsapho yakhe. Le ndoda iyaba yintsapho, inomdla omnye kwesinye isiselo sesiselo esinxilisayo, unabo bahlobo abanomdla ofanayo, abafani ngqondweni. Ngoko kuvela ukuba ngakwesinye icala-umnqweno womfazi ongakumbi, iinzame zakhe, umnqweno wokusindisa intsapho, ukubuyisela umyeni wakhe , kunye nomnye-umdla wokusela. Njengomthetho, okugqibela kukugqithisa. Umfazi uhlala eloyiko, kwindawo yokwesaba, unentloni ngeqabane lakhe lokuphila, uhlaziswa nguye. Konke oku kubangela ukuphazamiseka kwamanzi, ukuxinezeleka okukhulu, ukunganakwa, ukubonakala kakuhle. Vukana nabantwana abathintekayo, bobabini nonina, kuba baxakeke ingxaki enzima, enzima kakhulu ukujamelana nayo. Ngaloo ndlela, emva kwengxoxo engapheliyo, iinkolelo, ama-scandals, i-blackmail, lona wesifazane unquma ukushiya loo ndoda, kuba imikhosi ayikho.
Poboys
Kuza kube namhlanje, abasetyhini baseRashiya abasayikukhuselwa kwindlobongela yasekhaya. Akunandaba nokuba yintoni ebangela ukubetha kokuqala, kubalulekile ukuba kuyimfuneko ukuyiphinda. Akusoloko imfuneko ukuba indoda ithwele ukubetha okunzima, ukushiya imivimbo kunye nezinto. Kungenzeka ukuba ukuthuthumela, ukuphosa izinto ezahlukeneyo, ukubetha kunye nokunye, kuba ngumgangatho wokuziphatha. Ukuba umntu utywala izandla zakhe, kwaye ke akayi kukukhumbula into (okanye uzenzele ukuba akayikhumbuli), oku kuwuphawu lokuba ngelixa elizayo uya kukwazi ukubetha ibhinqa ngelixa elumkileyo. "Ibhokisi yekhaya" ayitshintshe kwiimeko ezininzi. Zonke izithembiso, iinkolelo zilahlekelwa amandla, ukuba umfazi uziphatha njengoko umyeni wakhe engathandi. Ngoko kuvela ukuba indlela yodwa yokuphuma kwimeko xa kukho ubudlova obuphathekayo kwintsapho kuqhawula umtshato kwaye ushiye. Eli li nyathelo lokusindiswa. Yingakho abasetyhini banamhlanje bashiya amadoda.
Ukhohlakele.
Yonke intokazi yesithathu ehlabathini lethu, ubuncinane kanye kanye ebomini bakhe, yayikhala kuloo mntu wayitshintshile yona. Iintlanganiso kunye nabahlobo, ubuncinane omnye wabo uya kukuxelela ukuba umyeni wakhe utshintshile kwakhona, ngoku kutshanje ibe yimeko edla ngokukhawuleza. Ukuba uxhamlwano lwengozi, ke ngoko abaninzi abantu besifazane, ngenxa yobomi beemvakalelo, intsapho, umkhwa, uxanduva, ukuxolela umyeni wakhe. Uyaziqhayisa ukuba kwakuyintlobano yesini kuphela, kwaye kwakungekho nxu lumano phakathi komyeni kunye nomnye umfazi. Kodwa kwanokuba ufumane oku oku, kunzima kakhulu, ukuphazamiseka kwemihlaba, ukudabuka, iinyembezi ezibuhlungu, intukuthelo, ukuxolisa kugcinwa. Abanye abafazi banamhlanje bazibona bezilumko, okanye ngokwenene, bajonga amehlo abo, bengaboni ukungathembeki rhoqo kwendoda, ngenxa yentsapho, okanye ngenxa yokuba umyeni wabo unikela kwaye akaphazamisi ebomini babo. Kodwa, kule ngxaki, kunzima ukuthetha malunga nosapho lwangempela. Kwesinye iimeko, ukukrexeza komyeni kuba yinyanzelo, nangona zonke iziqinisekiso zakhe ukuba akayi kuphinda iphinde ivele kwakhona. Njalo, xa ufunda malunga nokutshatyalaliswa okutsha, isidima somfazi siwela ngaphantsi kwebhodibhodi. Ngenxa yoko, ukhathele ukuxoka, ukunyelisa, ukungahloneli, umfazi wesimhla ushiya kuloo ndoda.
Ukungabi nothando
Emva kwexesha elithile emva kokuqala kobudlelwane okanye ubomi obudibeneyo, amadoda ahlala eqala ukuqonda umfazi njengento efanelekileyo, njengento ehlala isondele kubo. Ngaphezu koko, amaninzi amanqwelomzimba abomeleleyo awakhankali nokuba kukho isizathu esinjalo sokushiya. Baqiniseke ukuba le sizathu esiyifanelekileyo nesiqhelanisayo. Ibhinqa ibonwa njengesihlomelo esilungeleyo, esiluncedo kwimpilo yakhe. Umfazi ungumgcini wendlu yokukhulula, umnina, umlingani wesini, ngamanye amaxesha, kunye nomthombo wemvuzo. Xa umfazi engacingi ukuba uyathandwa, ukuba uyahlonishwa, axabiseke, athatyathwe, ngoko ukuzithemba kwakhe kuwela phantsi kwe-plinth, ukungathandabuzeki kwakhe kunzima. Yonke inkulumo malunga nokuba ayinayo ingqwalaselo eyaneleyo kunye nokufudumala, iphetha ngento yokuba loo mntu uthi akayikumngcatsha, uyayithanda, inikezela, ayiyi kubetha. Yiyiphi into ayidingayo, ukunganaki? Ngexesha elifanayo, zonke iimfuno zomfazi, izinto ezithandwayo, iimfuno kunye nezinto ezithandayo, ziyalinyanzeliswa ngokupheleleyo ngoluvo lwendoda. Umnqweno wokubonisa umyeni wakhe osondeleyo kuye, umfazi ophilayo, umfazi unako ukuhlambalaza. Uqala ukukhangela ukufudumala kunye nokuqwalasela kwicala, ukufumanisa, kunye nokuzibonakalisa ukuba kunokunye ulwalamano, ushiya umyeni wakhe.