"Ubhenketho bezesondo" - izandi ezidlala, ezizenzekelayo kwaye zifake imfashini. Kunyaka ngamnye amadoda namabhinqa aninzi achitha ixesha lokuphumla, uthando lokuzikhethela kunye nabantu abangaziwayo okanye ukuthenga iinkonzo zesini ngokufanelekileyo. Ngaba kukho imingcele kubhenkethi yokuvumeleka kubakhenkethi kwihlabathi kwaye iphi indlela yokuzonwabisa ekhokelela kuyo? Malunga namazwe akude, ulwandle oluhlaza okwesibhakabhaka, amehlo amahle - yonke into evuyisayo kunye neengxowa zeentetho zeshenketho zesondo namhlanje.
Umdlali we-Charlotte Rampling oneminyaka engamashumi amahlanu anesibhozo wayesazi kwangaphambili ukuba wayeyicaphukisa xa uEllen adlala kwi-movie "eya eMzantsi", yakhululwa ngo-2006. Ekupheleni kweminyaka engama-70 umfundisi oneminyaka engama-angama-52 ubudala waya eHaiti ekukhangekeni kweentlobano zesini. U-Ellen udibana nenqabileyo kunye nomfana omnyama wasekhaya kwaye umhlawule ngesondo. I-Cinema ingenangqumbo yaphula iindibano ezininzi ngokukhawuleza kwaye yabonisa ukuba kwicala lobomi, malunga noluphi uluntu oluhlala lukhetha ukuthula. Ukunyathela kwelinye ludliwano-ndlebe uthe uthe wagqiba inkwenkwezi kwifilimu eyoyikisayo "ngaphandle kokubambisana nelizwe elihluphekileyo laseHaiti kunye novelwano lwabesetyhini abaye baye ekupheleni kwehlabathi ukuba bazive bebathandwa."
Iindlela ezifudumeleyo
Ngomhla kaFebruwari-Matshi, amawaka aseKhanada, aseMerika naseNtshona avula ixesha elishisayo kwiziqithi zaseCaribbean zaseJamaica naseBarbados. Ezinye iindlela ezizithandayo zesondo ziseYurophu yaseYurophu (ikakhulukazi iGrisi, iItali, amazwe aseYugoslavia, eTurkey naseSpeyin) kunye neThailand neAfrika-Kenya neGambia.
Ngokomqikelelo womphandi waseMerika uJeanette Bellevo, owanyathelisa ngo-2006 incwadi malunga nokukhenketwa kwezesondo zabesetyhini "Ukuthanda ekhaya", kwiminyaka engama-25 edluleyo, ubuncinane ubuncinane abangama-600,000 abasetyhini abavela kumazwe athuthukileyo bafumana lo hlobo lokuphumla.
Abamashumi amathathu, abaneminyaka engamashumi amane anamashumi amahlanu ubudala, abazimeleyo ngokwezimali, bavelisa iincwadi ezintsha kunye nabadlali abancinci nabakhangayo, abadansi, abathengisi abasesikhumbuzo, abafana abangabasebenziyo "abaselwandle". Sichitha ixesha ndawonye ebhedini, kusebe lolwandle kunye nemibhobho yeeholide, kwaye emva kweeholide bahlawula izipho ezibizayo (iimpahla ezinobumba, amawashi, njl.) Zichithe kunye kunye, kwaye kaninzi - ngemali. E-Yurophu yaseYurophu, abathandi be-escort abasoloko badinga nayiphi na intlawulo yeholide yothando.
Ngokungafani nezobhinqa zesini kwindwendwe enxulumene nokuhenyuza. EThailand, ngenxa yokuzonwabisa ngokuzihlawula ngokwesondo, malunga nesiqingatha sezigidi zabantu abavela kwamanye amazwe bashiya unyaka ngamnye, ininzi lawo ngamadoda aneminyaka engama-35-55, ephakathi. Bayazi isiRashiya kungekhona ngamazwi ngamazwe akude. Ngokutsho kukaRosstat, kwiinyanga ezi-9 zokugqibela zonyaka odlulileyo, iThailand yahanjelwa ngabantu abangaphezu kwamawaka angama-84 amaRashiya. Eli nani liphindwe kabini ngaphezu kwexesha elifanayo ngo-2005. Ngokutsho kweengcali zeenkampani zenkampu, abaninzi bahamba nje ukuhlaziya i-sexual entertainment.
"Olu hlobo lwezokhenketho ludume kakhulu phakathi kwabaselula abaxhamli abaneminyaka engama-25 ukuya kuma-38 ubudala," kusho u-Natalia Kovaleva, umphathi wegosa lohambo lwaseMoscow uLaurel, phakathi kwabanye abanikela ngeentlobano zohambo ngeThailand. - Bahamba bodwa, kunye nabahlobo okanye iibini, kunye nentombazana. Ngokwenene, uhambo lwezesondo okanye ngexabiso, okanye ngohlelo oluqhelekileyo alufani. Ngokulula, isikhokelo sethu sendawo sinceda ukuqhelanisa, unikeza iingcebiso malunga nombuzo othi "Uya kuphi na?" Kwiidilesi zeendawo zokuzonwabisa zendawo. Nangona, ku funeka kuqatshelwe, abakhenkethi bethu "baphumelele" kule nkalo, bona ngokwabo bayazi yonke into. Bakhetha iPataya, ezinye iziqithi zaseThailand, emva koko, ngenxa yeholide ephumayo. "
Iimbonakalo ezifunyenweyo bethu abakhenkethi ngokubuyisela baya kutshintshana kwiindawo ezininzi zokuvakasha. Isizathu esona sihlandlo sohambo luya kubandakanya iinkonzo ezincinci kunye neenkonzo zesini kunye nenkqubo yokutyelela umdlalo.
"Kutheni ndibe" ndixhoma "kwietekisi nakwi-asiya ngokubanzi? - enye yeendwendwe kwiforamu ye-intanethi iyabuza, " Umsebenzi wandifumana. Ukususela kwizesondo kunye nabantu basekhaya abafumene ukwaneliseka okunjalo. Aa kwaye andiyiyo mna uB Brad Pitt. Ubomi bentsapho? Njengoko umhlobo wam wathi, "iminyaka eyi-10 siye sababini, ngamazwi afanelekileyo omlobi uVictoria Tokareva," izihlalo. " Esinye "isitolongo" sizisa imali, nje ukuba uyazi ukuba xa usuka ekhaya uvela emsebenzini, uya kubona isitya se-borsch kunye nesibini "isitoli" kwisigqoko sokugqoka okanye ihembe eliqhekekileyo ... Emva kwemashumi mathathu ukudlala ngothando kulungelelanise. I-Flirt-izimbali-izipho-zokutya-iinombolo ... Akukho nto entsha kule nto. Ukongezelela, ulwalamano lwamavakalelo lunomkhuba wokubanjwa kunye nokulimala ngexesha lokuphuka. Inketho elula kakhulu kwaye iphumelelayo kukuba "Ndiza kukunika imali, undifuna - izihlalo," ekubeni ekupheleni indoda yinto efunekayo ... Nokuba kukho ithuba lokufumana okufanayo, ewe, kunye nokunye okulinganayo, kunye nokuhamba, khangela uxolo, ngoko "kutheni uhlawule ngaphezulu?"
Ibhedi ngaphandle kwezibophelelo
Abemi baseRashiya kwiminyaka embalwa edlulileyo bajoyina ukujikeleza ngokubanzi kwezhenketho, ngokukodwa kwandisa i-geography. Baxhamla kakhulu kwiindawo zokuhamba ngokubhekelana ngesondo kunye nendawo yonke indawo. Kwindwendwe yezesondo zasekhaya, imfuno ngokuyinhloko ifunyanwa yiTurkey, iYiputa neNxweme yonxweme. Okulandelayo kuloluhlu luyiSpeyin, iGrisi, iCroatia, isiqithi saseNdiya seGoa kunye nePhailand yaseThailand.
Ngelo xesha, ngokungafani nabakhenkethi baseNtshona, iindwendwe zothando zisoloko zibiza amaRashiya mahhala. Kwiimeko ezininzi, ivelisa i-classic spa romance. Ukuqhagamshelana okufutshane abadala ababini ngexesha lokuphumla. Ngaphandle koxanduva olulodwa kunye "ngaphandle kwesizathu." Kodwa iinjongo zifanayo, ihlabathi-lonwabo, isidingo sokunakwa nobudlelwane obusondeleyo, nangona kunjalo.
"Umyeni wam uneminyaka elishumi kunam, ubuhlobo obusondeleyo nathi buyancitshiswa, " kusho u-Irina oneminyaka engama-39. - Ekhaya yonke ixesha ndivakalelwa "phantsi kwengcinezelo": Andizi ziphatha ngale ndlela, ndikhangeleka njalo njalo. Kanye ngonyaka, ngoSeptemba, ndiphosa yonke into ndihambe nomhlobo wam eSharm El Sheikh. Siphila ehotele elineenkwenkwezi ezine, ngelilanga esilithabathela ilanga kunye nokubhukuda, ebusuku siphumule. La maYiputa amancinci ahlala ephosa ngokuziphatha kwabo, ekwazisa, axwayise yonke into enqwenelayo. Ngexesha lekhefu, ndiyaneliseka ngokupheleleyo ngokobuhlobo kwaye ndivuselela ngokwenene-ndivakalelwa njengebuhle kunye nokosikazi. Malunga naziphi na izipho okanye intetho yemali ayikho. Into eyona nto inzima ukubuyela ekhaya: iiveki zokuqala ezidlulayo. "
Esinye isisiseko sokubhenketwa kwezesondo zesini kukuba unxanxungu lwenkululeko yesondo. Ngaphandle kwekhaya, unakho ukulibala ixesha elithile malunga "nemigaqo yokuziphatha" kunye neenkathazo ngaphandle kokwesaba ukuba uya kuthathwa njengomntu ongekho phantsi kwaye ogwetywe.
U-Olesya, uMascovite oneminyaka engamashumi amabini anesine ubudala, oye watyelela i-Ibiza ehlobo lasehlobo, uthi uqobo lwalo siqithi luyakwenza ukuba ukhululeke uthando: "I-Ibiza yindawo ekhohlakeleyo engunaphakade apho kungekho mntu ucinga ngeengxaki. Sonke sasinandipha umculo, ulwandle kunye nomnye. Uninzi lwabavakhenkethi, ngokuqinisekileyo, abantu abaselula - baseMerika, baseAustralia, abaseYurophu (ngokuqhelekileyo iPolesi kunye neBulgaria). Abantu abaninzi abazizityebi. Ilasha yeentombi "eziluhlaza". Iimpawu eziphambili zi-discos kunye neeklabhu. Njengamabhankini, izidakamizwa zinikwe kufuphi nomnyango weeklabhu - kukho rhoqo i-pandemonium. Kulula kakhulu ukulahlekelwa yintloko yakho - iholide eqhubekayo nothando. "
Ngendlela yokutya "okukhawulezayo"
Yintoni eya kuguqula intando yeholide ebomini bakho, incike kuphela kuwe, izazi zeengqondo ziqinisekile. Mhlawumbi, ubudlelwane obukhanyayo kunye nexesha elifutshane luya kuncedisa ukukhupha kwakhona nokukholelwa ekukhangekeni kwabo kunye nomnqweno, ukunyangwa kwengxaki yokukhathazeka kwengqondo eyenziwa uthando ngaphambili, kwaye kunika amandla okuqhubela phambili. Mhlawumbi, baya kukwandisa uthando lwakho kwaye baya kukukhulula kwiinkomfa, kuya kunceda ukuqonda okungenani ezinye zeengcamango zesondo ezifihlakeleyo. Into eyona nto kukugcina ingqiqo yezinto eziyinyani kwaye "ahlale phantsi" kwiimfesane zeeholide, njengoluhlobo lweengxabano. Ngaphandle koko, usengozini yokuba ngumntu ongenasisindo kunye nesondo esingathandabuzekiyo.
"Ubundlobongela kubantu abanjalo akusiyo i-apotheosis yothando kunye nolwalamano, kodwa imizuzu enomdla (i-analogue massage)," uxwayisa u-Yevhen Kulgavchuk, isazi sezocansi, u-psychotherapist, umongameli we-Russian Association of Sexologists. - Ngethuba lexesha, ukuqala kokwabelana ngesondo kuya kwenziwa. Ngokwenene, ulwalamano olusisigxina, ubulili buba nzima. Abantu abaqhelekanga ukuthanda. Uncedo okanye, ngokuchaseneyo, le "khenketho" inonakalisa impilo yezesondo, akunakwenzeka ukuthetha ngokungathandabuzekiyo. Izifo ezithathelwana ngesondo ngesondo (ikhondom ayiniki i-100% yeepesenti isiqinisekiso). Iinkqubo - indlela yokuphakamisa ukuzithemba ngokwesini, ukufumana iimvakalelo, ukuva amandla okusebenza ngokwesondo. "
Ekugqibeleni, yintoni ekufuneka uyibuke ekupheleni kwehlabathi - engalindelekanga, kodwa uthando lokwenene okanye isondo kwi fomati "yokutya okukhawulezayo", wonke umntu uyazigqiba.
IBhayibhile yezokhenketho
Ukuthandwa kwezokwe-khenketho kukhuthazwa yiincwadi kunye namafilimu kule ngongoma.
✓ Kwincwadi yakhe ethengisa kakhulu "Indlela uStella aqala ngayo ukumomotheka kwakhona" ngo-1998, uTerry McMillan uxele ibali lobomi bakhe: umfazi onesilwanyana uya eYamaica kwaye ufumana ulonwabo lwabesifazane kwiingalo zomdlali oselula. Ubomi bwenene, uMacmillan watshata iprototype yeqhawe lakhe. Baqhawula umtshato xa indoda ivuma ukuba uyindoda.
✓ Umdlalo wesiNgesi uWillie Russell "Othandekayo Shirley" malunga neentando zothando eGrisi yowesifazane owayesekhulile uShirley wayenempumelelo gqitha kangangokuba igama lesidlaliso sikaShirley valentine lusekelwe kubakhenkethi baseBrithani.
✓ Umsebenzi ogqithiseleyo ngokukhenketha ngezokwezesondo yi "Platform" yomlobi waseFransi uMichel Huelbek. Kukho konke: amazwe akude, ulwandle oluhlaza, amehlo enhle ... Kwigosa eliphakathi eliphakathi kunye noluntu oluqhelekileyo, ukhenketho lwezesondo luba ngumbono wokulungisa: amaphupha ukuvuyisa ngoncedo lwakhe lonke uluntu.
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ngobudlelwane obufudumele, obuthembayo. Ngenxa yoko, ukunqongophala okukhulu kokunxibelelana, kubandakanywa kwinqanaba lomzimba. Emva kwakho konke, ubudlelwane bomzimba - i-caresses, ukuthintelana - kuba umntu ebuntwaneni kubaluleke kakhulu. Xa kungekho nanye, oku kubuhlungu. Kwaye ukhenketho lwezesondo kwimeko enye yeendlela ezilula zokufaka endaweni.
Ukuba ulwalamano luya kuguqulwa okanye akukho namnye okwangoku, i-holiday romance ingaba yindlela enye yokufumana ulwahlulo lwabesini obuhlukile, ukucwiliswa kwimeko yothando, ukuvuselela iimvakalelo zakho. Ubuhlobo obunjalo abubhekiseli kwiimbopheleleko, njengentsapho. Kwaye kwangexesha elifanayo kunceda uzive unyanzelekile, ukhangele, uginye uthando, olusweleyo kwimpilo yemihla ngemihla.