Awufuni ukubizwa ngokuthi uvila - funda ukucacisa xa uxela wena nabanye kunye nokulwa nobuvila.
Kutheni singasebenzi?
Ngenxa yokuba ubuvila yiyona nto yokuqala, isizathu esinqununu nesiqhekezayo. Unokuthetha ngokungapheliyo kwifowuni kunye nabahlobo bakho, uhlehlise i-call ebalulekileyo yezoshishino. Unako ukusela ikofi kunye nomsi, kodwa ungachukumisi isenzo. Ungakwazi ukufunda i-LJ, izingosi ezizithandayo, ubhale izithuba kwiifom, kodwa ungabhala incwadi enye.
Isizathu sesibini kukuba ukungakwazi ukugxila. Nguwe kuphela othabatha ukuqala kwekhoyili yemicimbi, ukuze uyigqithise ngokuhlwa, njengoko umama wakho ebiza, umlingane uqala ukuthetha into enomdla, umphathi ucela ukuba angene eofisini lakhe, umshicileli uyaphula. Umoya osebenzayo uphela phantse ngokukhawuleza.
Kwenzeka njalo - iingxaki kunye neemeko ziqokelele kakhulu kangangokuba kunzima ukubona ukuba ziphi na ukuphela kwazo. Uqala ukusombulula ingxaki enye, enye ibonakalisiweyo, enye imeko ixazululwe ibandakanya abatsha abatsha, kwaye akukho siphelo emehlweni. Ukusuka kumqulu kuthatha ukuphazamiseka kwaye kulula ukuyitshintsha yonke into ngesandla.
Okanye uzive ukhathele kwaye uphukile. Ekuseni kunzima ukuphuma ebhedeni, indlela esuka esitshini ukuya ekhitshini ibonakala ngaphezu kwexesha eliqhelekileyo, imisebenzi eqhelekileyo kwaye elula kunye neenkxalabo ezithandekayo zibangelwa ukunyaniseka, akukho mandla ukuba wenze into enhle wena, intanda yakho.
Abathandayo bahlehlisela umhla olandelayo ngomsebenzi onokwenziwa ngomso, ungaphuthelwa ithuba lokukwenza. Ngoko ke amatyala angxamisekileyo aphuma kwimeko ephosakeleyo kunye nenqaku elingqinelanayo "Ndiya kukwenza ngomso" kwaye lo mntu ukhula ufikelele kwisayizi, ngexa elinye izandla zakhe zihla.
Ngoko kukho ukuzithemba kokungaphumeleli kwanoma yiyiphi inxaxheba. Kunzima ukucinga ukuba uza kuba nexesha lokwenza yonke ishishini elichasiweyo ngexesha, kwaye ukuba akunjalo, yintoni inqaku lokubamba? Okanye iingxaki ezivela ekulibazisekeni rhoqo ziqokelela kakhulu kangangokuba aziyi-razgrasti kunye neqela lonke leengcali, kunye nemiphumo, kunye neentsimbi. Ngenxa yoko, ukungaphumeleli kuyaqinisekiswa.
Ayikho inxalenye encinci imimoya edlala. Ukuba ayikho inhlekelele kunye nenkcazo yazo zonke iintlungu. Abantu abaninzi basebenzisa le ngxabano ngokuphumelelayo ukuze bangafezekisi imisebenzi yabo okanye benze ngokukhawuleza.
Kucacile ukuba le ndlela yokucinga nokuphila ayikho into efanelekileyo. Kodwa akusiwo wonke umntu onokulwa naye.
Yintoni endiyenzayo?
Ukuqala, ukufaka izinto ezingenasisenzo kunye nezenzo kubalulekile. Ngokomzekelo, unako ukuvala iiforam kunye namaziko angadli ixesha elingenasiphelo, kwaye endaweni yoko ujonge ulwazi oluluncedo olunxulumene ngqo nomsebenzi wakho.
Ukuba uhlala uphazamisekile, funda ukubuyela kwishishini, kungakhathaliseki ukuba zingaphi kangangoko ziphazamisekile. Zama ukuchazela abanye ukuba uxakekile kwaye ungaphazamisi. Ukongezelela, ukubeka phambili izinto ezibalulekileyo zomsebenzi kunye nezinye ezilula okanye ezikhethiweyo. Oku kuya kunciphisa uxinzelelo kwaye ekugqibeleni ukwandise umkhiqizo.
Ukuba awukwazi ukuba uqalise njani, yenza uluhlu, ngokubhekiselele kwizinto ezibalulekileyo kunye noko kungaphantsi.
Ukukhathala kunganqotshwa kuphela ngokuphumla okupheleleyo. Hamba ubuthongo 8 - 9 iiyure ngosuku, ziphumle kwiintsuku zomthetho, kwaye ungazami ukugqiba oko ungenayo ngeveki. Kufanelekile ukuthatha iivithamini nokutya ukutya okunempilo okungagudanga umzimba.
Funda isiseko solawulo lwexesha, ubeke iinjongo zekusasa elikufutshane. Ukuze ufezekise into enzima, kufuneka wenze imizamo. Ngoko, inyathelo ngesinyathelo uza kuqala ukuza ephupheni kunye neengcamango "andinako", "Ndinevila", "Ndiya kwenza kusasa" ayisayi kuba namandla amaninzi. Isimo esibi "siphathwa" ngokuphumla okulungileyo nokuzithiba, urhulumente wakho akufanele akuthintele ekubeni uthathe amanyathelo ngokubhekiselele kwintsapho eyoyoloyisa kunye nempumelelo.