Ngaba uyaqiniseka ukuba ihlabathi ngaphandle kwakho liya kuqubuka. Ewe, ukuba akusiyo yonke indawo, iimeko ezikufuphi ezikufutshane aziyi kuba nako, kuba zonke izihlobo zakho, abahlobo kunye nabalingane bakho bangenaye ngaphandle kwezandla. Umyeni wam kufuneka ahlambulule izicathulo zakhe, ubhale ingxelo kumntwana, uthathe unina eklinikhi, kunye nabo osebenza naye ukumkhumbuza ngokuzalwa kompheki. Awunaso sesibini uxolo. Kwaye ngokukhawuleza xa ukhulula umntu kwintsimi yombono, ngokukhawuleza uqala ukuhlushwa - njani ngaphandle kwam? Enyanisweni, bona ngokwabo banokukwazi ukujamelana nayo, kwaye uyazi ngako, akunjalo? Ingxaki ayikho kuwo, kodwa kuwe. Okokuqala, ucinga ukuba baya kwenza konke "kakubi." Okwesibini, yile ndlela uqonda ngayo uthando kunye noxanduva-njengokuba ukhathazeke rhoqo.
Yintoni endiyenzayo? Zama 'ukudlulisela' ubuncinci inxalenye encinane "yamandla" akho kwabanye. Vumela ukuba benze yonke into ngendlela yabo bavuyiswe yimpumelelo yabo yonke. Ndikholelwe, le mivakalelo emihle yinto ehle ngakumbi kunokuba ixhala.
Ukungathembeki akunjalo?
Uhlala nomvakalelo wokuthi akukho nto ebalulekileyo ebomini ilindeleke. Nangona namhlanje yonke into ihamba kakuhle, yintoni na isiqinisekiso sokuba ingomso ayiyi kuvela ingxaki? Kwaye ukuqinisekiswa okugqwesileyo kwesi sihlandlo sakho. Umtshato wokuqala wawungaphumelelanga, okwesibini kwakubonakala kungcono, kodwa kungekudala umyeni wam waqala ukuqhubeka nokuqhubeka nokusebenza emsebenzini, kwaye ungakhathazeki njani - kuthekani ukuba lo mntu uphenduka? Umntwana, njengoko aye e-kindergarten, wayegula ngexesha lonke, kodwa kunzima kangakanani! Ngoku uhlala kwiklasi yokuqala - kwaye ngokukhawuleza kwakhona? .. Nenkathazo, bayinqumle yonke into, amaxabiso akhula ... Yintoni endiyenzayo? Kweminye yethu, kukho ithemba elithile, kumntu - ukungaqiniseki. Ngokwemvelo, kunjalo, kunzima ukuphikisana, kodwa ngokufanayo, sifunde ukuphatha ubomi ngokuthe tye - ngamandla ethu. Musa ukuchitha amandla kumava - fumana i-application efanelekileyo. Xa uqala ishishini, cinga malunga naziphi na iingcingo ezifihliweyo, kwaye wenze yonke into ukuba ungayisebenzisi.
Khumbula: ukuze uhlale ngokuzithemba ngekamva, umntu akafanele agxininise kwizinto eziphambili. Yaye cinga ukwesaba kunye nexhala nje nje ngeengcamango zengqondo yakho-nanku, indawo eyingozi! Ngoko "kwiintshaba" ezikuthintela ekubeni uphile, ziya kuba yizintlanano eziyinyaniso.
Kwesinye ipalayini
Okanye mhlawumbi ubomi bakho buba yinto eqhelekileyo? Yaye ukuxhalabisa rhoqo kukunceda ukuba "ugxininise" kwaye ujabule? Kodwa kutheni unqumle ukusebenzisa kuphela umnyama? Yongeza ukukhanya, imibala eqaqambileyo - vumela imiphefumlo yemihla ngemihla idlale nayo yonke imibala! Yintoni endiyenzayo? Ukufezekisa oku, guqula ngentshutshiso i-minuses kwi-pros. Ingaba umyeni ufike emsebenzini? Ewe, unexesha lokukhulula lokumhlangabeza ephumle, kwaye kunye nesidlo sakusihlwa. Ndikholelwe, uya kuqonda ukuba indlu yakhe ilinde kwaye idibana novuyo olungunaphakade. Kwaye ngokuzayo, mhlawumbi uya kufaka izinto ngaphandle komso, ukuba uhlale nawe ixesha elide.
Iingcali ze-Psychotherapist kwi-American Feinberg School of Medicine kwiYunivesithi yaseNorthwestern yabona ukuba abantu abaninzi abathintela izidandlululo abanakho ukuphucula. Ngokwabaphandi, oku kubangelwa kukuba iinjongo zezobisi zijoliswe ekunciphiseni i-hormone yokuxininisa nokukhuthaza ukuveliswa kwamahomoni amnandi. Ukudandatheka akuyona i-hormonal, ngoko ke iziyobisi azizinamandla ...
Gcina umlinganiselo!
Ingcali yeengqondo yaseMerika uRollo May yathi: "Ukudibana nokuxhalabisa kunokusenza sikhululeke ekukhunjuleni, kuphucule indlela esiyijonga ngayo, kubangela ingxabano apho kulondolozwa khona ubukho babantu." Ukuba kukho uxhalaba, umntu uhlala. " Ngoko ke kumancinci amanani, ukungabikho komonakalo akuyi kubonakalisa: bona, kunye nomona, banike ubuhlobo obuninzi.