Inani lezithintelo, ngokweengcali zengqondo, kufuneka zilingane nobudala bomntwana. Ukuba umntwana uneminyaka emibili ubudala, ukuthintela ngokungqongqo akufanele kube ngaphezu kwembini. Yiyo le mali ekwazi ukuyikhumbula nokuyenza. Abantwana abawuthathi igama "elingenakwenzeka" unyaka nonke. Kule minyaka umntwana kufuneka akhuselwe kwizinto eziyingozi okanye aphazamiseke kubo. Ngokusondeleyo kunyaka wokuqala, unokukhanyela nayiphi na yezenzo zayo, enqatshelwe ngokuthe ngqo. Okukuthintela kufuneka kwenziwe ngabo bonke amalungu entsapho. Akufanele kube njalo okokuba umama uthe "akakwazi", kwaye ugogo wamnceda. Kule meko, igama lokuthintela kufuneka lithethwe kuphela ngesenzo esikhethiweyo okanye into.
Indawo ejikeleze umntwana wakho kufuneka ibe yokhuseleko ngokusemandleni. Kubalulekile ukususa zonke izinto ezibukhali, ezibethayo, ezithintekayo, izinto zokusika. Bonke abanye mabavunyelwe ukuba bafunde, ukuba kuyimfuneko, batye. Ungamvumela ukuba enze into (ishedyuli eneetayiti, ikhabethe kunye neengubo). Kuya kuba nexesha, ngelixa uxakekile, ukwenza intsebenzo yakhe ngaphandle kokukhathazeka ngokhuseleko lwakhe. Emva koko ubeka yonke into kwindawo yayo, kwaye umntwana wakho uya kuvuya ukukunceda.
Abantwana akudingeki ukuba bathethe njalo igama elithi "akunakwenzeka" kunye nezinto ezinjalo. Kukho ukwamkelwa kwengqondo okungcolileyo. Zama ukutshintsha ingqalelo yomntwana wakho kwenye into, ukuba usebenza kwishishini elingafanelekanga kuye. Ngonyaka okanye ezimbini, iindlela ezilula zi: "Khangela, umatshini sele uye, ibhentshi iphelile, njl.". Xa umntwana uneminyaka emibili ubudala, unako ukongeza isibini "engenakwenzeka", umzekelo, uphumelele endleleni okanye kwenye into. Ngokwemvelo, umntwana uvumelekile, kodwa le miqathango kufuneka iboniswe ngokuhlukileyo. Ngokomzekelo, ukuba i-crumb iqala ukudiliza i-gazini, endaweni yokuthi "ayikho into", kufuneka ucacise ukuba iphephancwadi libuhlungu. Omnye umgaqo obalulekileyo, ukuba unyanzelekile ukuba wenze okuthile nomntwana wakho, ke qiniseka ukuba kwenziwe. Umntwana kufuneka aqonde ukuba into oyithethayo ibalulekile.
Zama ukumnika umntwana ilungelo lokukhetha phakathi kweendlela ezininzi, kungabandakanywa nento engathandekiyo. Umzekelo, umntwana ufuna ukudlala kwibhokisi lebhokisi lemanzi, kwaye awuvuyiswa ngumnqweno wakhe. Sitshele ukuba siza kudlala kuyo xa sidla, kodwa ngoku, sidlala uze ufune okanye ukondla iintaka. Umntwana kufuneka abe nomuvo wokuthi awunxamnye nebhokisi lebhokisi, kodwa uya kukwenza ngelinye ixesha. Kule meko, inkwenkwe ivakalelwa ngokuzimeleyo, kuba ilungelo lokuzikhethela lihlala kuye.
Ngexesha leengxaki zokuzimela, okanye inkathazo yeminyaka emithathu, kulula ukuba abazali bathi "kungekhona" kwisiganeko ngasinye. Ngcono ukunika umntwana ithuba lokubonisa ukuzimela. Ukunciphisa kunye nokuthintela kule minyaka emithathu kuphela, kwaye yonke into "ayikwazi", oku kuyenziwa kunye nokukwazi ukugqithisa izithintelo kwimfundo.
Xa umntwana sele sele eleminyaka emine ubudala, sele sele eqonda ukuba kukho izenzo ezingavunyelwe ukuba zenze ngoku. Kodwa, ukufikelela kwiminyaka ethile, kuya kwenzeka. Umzekelo, xa eya esikolweni, yena ngokwakhe uya kudlula indlela. Kwaye ngoku ungamfundisa indlela yokwenza isaladi, isanti, ukuze uzive emele. Kule minyaka, kufuneka kubekho ukuthintelwa ngamaxesha athile. Umzekelo, kufuneka udle i-ayisikrimu kuphela, jonga iTV ngeyure eli-1, njl. Akufanele ufune ukunyaniseka, kuba ukuba uyayivumela kanye, kuya kufuneka uhlale unika.
Abazali abaninzi bakhononda ukuba umntwana wakhe uyavuya xa engenayo into ayifunayo. Kule meko kunokwenzeka ukuba kukhishwe kulo mzekelo, ngaphandle kokutshatyalaliswa kweso saso. Ukuba unqumle ukumnquma kumakhohlisi, naphezu kokukhala kwakhe kunye neinyembezi, zama ukungaziphendulela kuwo, nokuba ngaba kwenzeka kwindawo ethile. Musa ukuphakamisa isandla sakho. Kufuneka umxelele ukuba ade ayeke, awuyi kuthetha naye. Kwaye into ebaluleke kakhulu kukuba nayiphi na into engenakwenzekayo kufuneka ixhaswe ngamalungu onke entsapho. Ukuthetha kubantwana igama elithi "akunakwenzeka", makabe baziva ngexesha elifanayo ukuba bathandwa kwaye bafunayo. Vumela intsapho yakho uthando ithande.