Kakade ke, ezininzi izinto zichaphazela ukufuduka. Kodwa nangona kunjalo, akufanele uxhomekeke kwimbono yomntu. Ukuba awuqhotyoshelwanga kumntu onokunyamekela kwaye akanakukuthatha kunye nawe, ukuhamba kuphela yoshishino lakho kwaye kufuneka wenze isigqibo kuwe oko ufuna ukuhlala.
Umsebenzi
Ngokuqhelekileyo ukufudukela kwindawo entsha kudibaniswa ngqo nomsebenzi. Unikwe isikhundla esiphezulu, kodwa ukuze ufumane, kufuneka uhambe kwesinye isixeko. Indlela yokwenza ntoni kulo mzekelo? Okokuqala, kufuneka uthathe isigqibo kuwe oko kubaluleke kakhulu ebomini bakho: umsebenzi okanye abantu abasondeleyo oza kuba nabo ngoku. Abaninzi bathi bobabini babalulekile kubo. Kodwa eneneni, oku akunjalo. Ngesizathu esithile umntu akakwazi ukuzivuma aze aqale ukuzama ukugcina yonke into. Enyanisweni, kukho abo banomdla ngokwenene. Ukuba umntu onjalo akayi kushiya, ekugqibeleni, uyaqaphela ukuba uya kuba nebizo kuba bantu ngenxa yokuba uhlala kuye. Kwaye kukho olunye uhlobo lwabantu abasuka kuqala, bachaza isenzo sabo ngokuba bafuna ukufumana imali eninzi, kwaye ngokukhawuleza baqala ukuthukisa umsebenzi, kuba bexhalabele ukuya ekhaya. Ngako oko, kufuneka uphendule ngokunyanisekileyo, oko ufuna okungakumbi kwaye ukhokelwe kuphela yilo, kungekhona ngamathemba, ngokungahlali ujabule malunga nabasondeleyo, njalo njalo, nokuba ufuna ukuhamba okanye kunoko uhlala kwisixeko sakho.
Uthando
Okwesibini, kodwa kunoko, isizathu sokuqala nesona siqhelo, isiqhwaba sisigqibo sokufuduka uthando. Indoda evela kwelinye idolophu ibizela kuye kwaye umfazi uqala ukucinga ngokuhamba. Ukuba imeko yakho injalo, ngokokuqala ke kufuneka ucinge malunga nokuba ungaya khona. Ewe, uthando luhle kakhulu, kodwa ngakwelinye icala, umntu uyamthanda umntu akanako ukwenza ubomi bakho buvuyiswe. Ukufudukela kwelinye idolophu, kufuneka uqonde ukuba wena, ngaphandle kwekhwenkwe yakho, ayiyi kuba nenani lezihlobo kunye nabahlobo. Ngoko ke, ukuba kukho into eyenzekayo, awukwazi ndawo. Ukongeza, awukwazi ukuthanda umzi ngokwawo, abantu, abahlobo bomfana. Ngokuqhelekileyo, kukho ezininzi izinto ezinobungozi ezinokuchaphazela, ukuze ekugqibeleni uthando lomfana luya kuba yinto ephikisana ngokupheleleyo. Cinga ngako ngaphambi kokuba uthathe isinyathelo esinjalo. Ukuba ungowomzantsi oqhelekile ukuhamba kwindawo ethile kwaye ungeke uhlale ekhaya, ngoko awuyi kuphila kakuhle kwisixeko esenyakatho, apho ubusika buhlala khona kwiinyanga ezilishumi kunye nesiqingatha sonyaka kukho amaqabunga anjengoko abantu abangahambi ngaphandle ngaphandle kokuphuthuma okukhulu. Kwaye ukuba nayo yindawo ekude apho kungekho ntanethi, kwaye uyisixeko, ngoko uvela ebomini obunjalo, akukho mntu uya kuvuya.
Ngoko ke, ngaphambi kokuba uhambe kwindawo ethile, kukulungele ukuya kumfana kwithuba elithile, umzekelo, ngenyanga. Eli lixesha elifanelekileyo, apho uya kuba nexesha lokuqonda ukuba uya kukwazi ukuhlala kuloo ndawo okanye ukuba uthando alukwazi ukukusindisa nakwimoya engavumelekanga. Khumbula ukuba uthando luyiloo nto, kodwa ngakwelinye icala, kwenzeka ukuba idlule. Yaye ukuba uthando luya kudlula, ngoko uya kuzisola kakhulu ukuba ixesha elide lichithekile kwisixeko, esiyinto enyanyekayo, phakathi kwabantu abangathandeki kuwe. Ngoko ke, ngaphambi kokuya kwimibingelelo enjalo, zama ukulinganisa yonke into kwaye ucinge, qwalasela ukuhlukahluka kweemeko, kwaye emva koko wenze isigqibo sokugqibela malunga nokuhamba.
Abazali
Ukuba usisidalwa esincinane abazali babo banqume ukufudukela kwelinye idolophu, ngoko ke, kunene, kuncinci kakhulu kuncike kuwe. Kodwa ukuba uyaqonda ukuba awuyi kuvuyiswa kwesinye isixeko, kunye ne-joker kunye nomama wakho nobawo, uzama ukuxoxa nabo ngemo yangoku. Musa nje ukukhala, memeze wenze iziqulatho. Emva kwakho konke, kule meko kufuneka uqinisekise abazali bakho ukuba ungumntu omdala kunye nohlakaniphile onokuhlala ngokuzimela kwaye wenze izigqibo ezicatshangelwe kakuhle. Kwaye ukukhala kunye nentukuthelo kuya kubakhumbuza nje ukuba usengumntwana ongcono ukuba angashiyi ngaphandle kokulawula. Ngoko ke, kwingxoxo nabazali, sebenzisa iingxabano ezinzima. Khumbulani ukuba kule minyaka kunzima ukuba ube liqela elitsha labafundi, kwaye abafuni ukuba intombi yabo ibe yinkangala. Ukuba usebenza kwezinye iindidi, ungakulibala ukuthetha oku, ukhumbuze unyoko nonina ukuba inkosi enjengomfundisi wakho ayinakwenzeka ukuba ifumaneke naphi na. Chaza ukuba ebudaleni bakho, akunakwenzeka ukuba ufumane umhlobo omtsha kwaye uya kuhlupheka xa ufumana uwedwa.
Xoxa nomntu ovela kwiintsapho zakho ukuba ubuze ukuba lo mntu ulungele ukuthatha uxanduva lwakho phambi kobazali bakho. Ukuba unomalume onothando okanye u-ugogo (ugogo, utatomkhulu) abanomdla ngokwenene ukugcina wena kwaye abayi kuziva umthwalo ngenxa yokungabi naso, ngoko ubacele ukuba bathethe nabazali babo. Mhlawumbi umntu omdala uya kuba lula ukuyikholisa nokubanceda ukuba benze isigqibo esifanelekile. Khumbula ukuba usuvele ungumntu, ngoko, ukuba uyayiqonda ngokwenene ukuba awuyi kuvuya, ukuba utshintshe indawo yakho yokuhlala, kufuneka uvikele iingcamango zakho, kodwa kungekhona ngokukhala kunye nokunyanzelisa, kodwa ngeengxoxo kunye nezenzo zabantu abadala.
Ndifumene idolophu yam iphupha
Esinye isizathu sokuhamba sisifiso sakho. Kwenzeka ukuba siphila kwisixeko esasizalwe kuso kwaye sihlale siziziva singaboni kunye, kwaye sihamba ngenye iholide size siqonde ukuba uyaziqhenya ngokwenene. Ukuba uhlala khona apha, ngoko uya kuvuya. Ukuba kukho imeko enjalo, kuthetha ukuba kuyimfuneko ukuba ungacingi. Into eyona nto kukuba ukuhamba kwakuyisigqibo ngokuzikhethela. Oko kukuthi, musa ukuqokelela ngokukhawuleza izinto uze ugijime apho ngeepenki ephaketheni lakho. Okokuqala, kufuneka ucinge malunga nokuba uya kuhlala phi, de kube ufumana ikhaya, unalo ithemba lokusebenza njalo njalo. Ngaphambi kokufuduka, kuyinqweneleka ukuqokelela imali eninzi, ukwenzela ukuba unokuzifumana ngokukhuselekileyo kwiimeko ezahlukeneyo zamandla.
Kodwa nangayiphi na imeko, nangona ukuba ukuhamba kufuneka kuhlehliswe ixesha elithile, ungalokothi ushiye le ngcamango. Ukuba ungathethi, kungakhathaliseki ukuba unqwenela ukuba uhlale njani, ukuba uziva ujabule kuloo mzi-hamba. Ndikholelwe, kwihlabathi lanamhlanje uya kuba nokuhlala apho uphupha khona kwaye ulondoloze ubudlelwane nabantu obathandayo. I-Skype kunye nezonxibelelwano zentlalo zihlala zinika ithuba lokuthetha kunye nosapho kunye nabahlobo nanini na imini. Ngoko ungesabi ukuhamba, ukuba uyayifisa ngentliziyo yakho yonke. Ukuba ufumana indawo apho ufuna ukuhlala khona-phila apho kwaye ujabule.