Ukuzaliswa kwintsapho - kusoloko kugxininisa, engadlulanga i-nimamu, no-papa. Kodwa omnye umama, owathi ngeenyanga ezili-9 wayeva ukuhamba komntwana, wayesebenzisa, wafunda uncwadi olukhethekileyo kunye neengxoxo zemihla ngemihla kunye nomnye - ubaba, othe wathintela umlenze ojikeleze ngenye indlela, echazwe ngamagama amabini. UTata akazange aqikelele amandla akhe. Kwaye oku kuqhelekileyo, izigqibo zokukwenza ekuqaleni.
Ukoyika ukwenza into engalunganga
Ejongene nale meko, musa ukukhawuleza ukugxeka ubaba ngenxa yokungaxhomeki, engenabantwana kwaye akakwazi ukugcina ilizwi lakhe. Inokwenzeka ukuba, umntwana usenomdla ngokwenene. Ingxaki kukuba abafana abancinci badinga ixesha elide lokuba bafundele umntwana. Ukukhala, ukunyamekela ngqalelo rhoqo, uxanduva olunzulu, ngokukhawuleza ukuwa, luya kuncitshiswa ekungabikho komsebenzi, oku kufuneka kuqondwe. Nangona kunjalo, isizathu esona sizathu sokuba amadoda asebenze umntwana ukwesaba ukwenza impazamo. Nesaba ukukhubekisa isidalwa esinesifo esincinci esinezinto ezincinci kunye nemilenze, ubaba oselula uhlala kude. Njengoko nikruti, lo mfazi unemvakalelo nangokwengqondo ngokulungeleleneyo ukubonakala komntwana - isitho sikamama sivakalelwa. Utata ufumana ama-gamuts, onokumnceda ukuba ajamelane nayo.
Indlela yokwenza abahlobo nabo
Impazamo enkulu eyenziwa ngumama kulezi zimo: ukucaphukisa, ukuhlukanisa umntwana kunye noyise omnye komnye. Ukuvinjelwa okunjalo kumsebenzi wokuhlambalaza kunenzuzo kumntwana okanye uyise. Xa ukhuthaza ngakumbi umntu ukuba asondele kumntwana, ngokukhawuleza "baya kubahlobo". Akuyimfuneko ukucela ubaba ukuba atshintshe i-diaper okanye ayikhuphe umntwana. Ukuqala, zifake kwi-intetho yakho, qwalasela ingqalelo yentsana kayise, yambiza loo mntu ukuxhasa umntwana. Kungekudala uza kuqala ukubonisa imisebenzi, evakalelwa kukuba uyamncenga.
"Nenza konke okungalunganga"
Ukuba ufuna ukukhupha umyeni wakho ngokusesikweni komntwana, xelela ngesibindi nangokucacileyo ukuba akayikunyamezela imisebenzi yakhe. Ubaba osemncinci angaba yinto embi ekuqaleni, kodwa musa ukukhawuleza ukuthetha ngokugqithisileyo kwaye usongela ukuba angamniki umntwana ezandleni zakhe. Xoxa ngokucacileyo kwaye ubonise indlela yokubamba intloko, ukondla kwibhotile, utshintshe idolo kunye nokubanga, ukuze ungayiboni intshebe yengane.
Umntwana udinga bobabini
Kuyiphutha ukukholelwa ukuba umama ubaluleke kakhulu kwiintsana ezisanda kuzalwa. Umntwana uye wahlukanisa izwi lakho ixesha elide ngoku, kwaye ngoku ufunda ukuqaphela ubuso. Kakade ke, ubona unina ngokuphindaphindiweyo, yingakho esetyenziswe ngokukhawuleza. Ekuqaleni ebomini bakhe ubuso bompapa bubonakala, ilizwi lakhe kunye nokuthintela, kulula ukuba phakathi kobazali kunye nomntwana ukuba abe nobuhlobo obusondeleyo nobufudumele kwixesha elizayo.
Ukuba ubuhlobo bompapa nomntwana abukhawulezi ukuphuhlisa, musa ukungahlambuluki. Mhlawumbi uyihlo udinga ixesha elide lokufumana umntwana olulwimi oluqhelekileyo. Yiba ngumlamli ekusebenzisaneni kwabo, kwaye izinto ziya kuhamba ngokukhawuleza.