Okokuqala, nawuphi na ubudala, ubudlelwane bezesondo buhamba kunye nempembelelo entle kwimpilo yengqondo yomzimba yomntu ngamnye. Abantu abakhulileyo banomnqweno wokuhlala ubuhlobo bobuqu obupheleleyo. Ezinye iinkalo zobudlelwane obusondeleyo ekubudala kufuneka bazi.
Olunye utshintsho oluthile ngokuziphatha ngokwesini kunye nobudala alukwazi ukuba nempembelelo emihle kwezobudlelwane bezesondo. Amadoda adinga ixesha elide lokufikelela kwinqophiso, ukunyuka, kunye nokulungiswa kungenzeka rhoqo kwaye kunzima kunzima. Abasetyhini banamathele ekutshintsheni - banokunciphisa ukunyaniseka kwesisu kunye nevakalelwa. Eli xesha lihambelana nokuhla kwexesha lobudlelwane bezesondo. Ungesabi, kuba uneminyaka yobudala ngokuqhelekileyo. Kufuneka ukuba ulungelelanise ezi zinguqu kwaye ufunde ukwamukela iqabane lakho kunye nawe ngokwakho.
Into efanelekileyo ongayenza kule meko kukuthandana, bonisa intembelo kunye nentlonipho. Nika inkxaso yenkxaso kumlingane wakho, khulisana xa ungenakufumana into efana neyokuqala, kwintlalo yesini. Ungakulibala ukuba uxinzelelo lwengqondo kunye nokukhathazeka kunokunceda ukunyanzelisa iingxaki zesini. Futhi musa ukufihla imvakalelo yakho kumlingane. Thetha ngeengxaki eziye zavela, ngokucokisekileyo nangendlela ehloniphekileyo. Ungazivumeli wena kunye lakho iqabane ukuba uhlakulele iimvakalelo zetyala.
Khumbula ukuba ukulala kunye nokungena kungenye yeentlobo zobugcisa ezijoliswe ukufumana uxhaso ngokwesondo. Zininzi ezinye iindlela. Khangela kwaye ufumane ezinye, iindlela ezintsha zokufumana ukwaneliseka. Nawuphi na umdala ufanelekile ukukrazula i-monotony kunye nokuqhelekileyo ebomini bobulili. Unokuzama iindlela ezintsha, iimeko ezintsha. Umgaqo obalulekileyo onyanzelekileyo kwisigxina esithandanayo kukuba bobabini bafanele bathandwe kwaye naluphi na ukuveliswa kufuneka kuqaliswe imvume yemvumelwano.
Phakathi kwezinye izinto, u-kisses, amazwi omthando kunye nomdla kunoma yiyiphi ubudala, ngokukodwa kwiminyaka ekhulileyo, iya kuhlala isiseko sobuhlobo obusondeleyo. Abantu abaninzi banezinto ezinjalo ezilula, ezibonakala ngathi, njengamazwi othando nothando olubhekiselele kwiimidlalo zesondo, kubangela uvuyo kunye nokuzonwabisa.
Thetha ngokukhululekile kwaye ngaphandle kokwesaba oko ufunayo ngenye indlela. Xa ubonisa iqabane lakho iimvakalelo zabo, iimvakalelo kunye neengcamango, zinefuthe eluncedo kwiintlobano zesini kwaye zinceda bazive ngakumbi. Nangona kunjalo, kuyo yonke into oyifunayo ukugcina isigxina segolide, musa ukugxininisa kakhulu kulokhu kwaye uhambisane nezimvo kunye nokunyuka komlingani, sishiye igumbi lokuphucula. Kule meko, kuya kumnceda.
Ngenxa yokuba ngoko kuya kuba nzima ukubuyela kwinqanaba elidlulileyo lomsebenzi wesondo, akufanele unqande ubudlelwane obusondeleyo ixesha elide. Iindaba ezilungileyo kukuba kwizinto eziphilayo zamadoda kunye nabasetyhini abadala, i-hormone testosterone, ejongene nokukhangwa kwezesondo, iseneminyaka emininzi.
Ukukhangwa ngokwesondo ekuguga akunciphisi kakhulu. Kwaye oku kuqhelekileyo. Kodwa ungakulibali ukuba ukwehla kwintsebenzo yesondo kunokubangelwa zizifo zesimiso seentlanzi, ukuphazamiseka kwe-hormonal, ubuthakathaka obuninzi, iziyobisi ezahlukahlukeneyo zonyango ekwenzeni unyango lwe-hypertensive, njl. Kuya kuba ngcono kuwe ukuba uthethe ingcali yecalagist okanye ugqirha wosapho.
Isihloko sokwabelana ngesondo phakathi kwabantu abaphakathi kunye nobudala sele besakhulayo ngokukhawuleza kwiminyaka elishumi edlulileyo, le ngxaki ibonakalisiwe ibalulekile kwaye ngoko ke, ezinye izifundo zokukhangwa kwezesondo phakathi kwabantu abaye bawela umqobo weeminyaka engama-50 zenziwe. Waphenywa ngamadoda kunye nabasetyhini balo nyaka. Njengomphumo wophando, amaphuzu anomdla atyhilwa, kokubili kwisantya sokwaneliseka ngokwesini kunye nokuxhomekeka kokuzonwabisa kwiindlela ezithile kubantu emva kwe-50.
Ngokomzekelo, kwabakho abaphumelele ukufezekisa iqondo elihle kakhulu "okanye" elihle kakhulu "loqhagamshelwano nabalingane babo bobudala abaneminyaka engama-50 bahlala behlala bevuya.
Nangona kunjalo, izibini ezinemali engenayo ephezulu ziye zazingabi nwabileyo ngokubhekiselele kwintlobano zesondo kunezibini ezitshatileyo ezineengeniso eziphantsi.
Kwakhona ngethuba lophando kwacaca ukuba ininzi amadoda namabhinqa angama-50 nangaphezulu, beqinisekile ukuba umtshato wabo uyonwabile ngokwenene, banandipha ubomi bobulili kunye nezibini zabo. Izinto ezinjengexesha lokulala ngesondo kunye neqabane okanye iqabane, isantya senduduzo ekuxoxeni ngesihloko sokwabelana ngesondo, kunye nendlela abatshatileyo abayithandayo ngayo kubalulekile.
Ngokweziphumo zolu vavanyo, kwafunyaniswa ukuba ubomi besondo buyinto ebalulekileyo emtshatweni, njengoko kuchazwe ngabaninzi nabayeni nabahlali abavuyokileyo nabangonwabileyo. Ngaloo xesha, ipesenti enkulu yabasetyhini abatshatileyo abangakhange bajonge umtshato wabo bajabule into yokuba ukubonakaliswa kwezesondo kubaluleke kakhulu kwindawo yobomi bomtshato. Oku kuye kwaba yinto ebalulekileyo ebomini obungonwabileyo kubafazi emtshatweni malunga phantse zonke izifundo.
Nangona ukuba ukunyaniseka komtshato kwathatyathwa phakathi kwamadoda nabafazi abadliwano-ndlebe, kodwa i-23% yamadoda kunye ne-8% yabafazi bavuma malunga "enye" okanye ngaphezulu "kwintlanganiso" ngaphandle kwentsapho emva kweminyaka engama-50. Idatha enjalo ifanelekileyo kwabo bangakhange bachithe intsapho ngenxa yenveli kumacala. Ezinye iinkcukacha zibonisa ukuba ama-80% amadoda kunye nama-60% wabasetyhini ngexesha lobomi babo obatshatileyo batshintsha babo iqabane lokuphila ubuncinane kanye. Ngokweziphumo eziye zenziwa eNgilani, isiqingatha sababhinqwana abaxoxwa nabo bade bade babenokrexeza. Kwaye nangona kunjalo ukuba abesifazane baseNgesi babhekwa "kubanda".
Njengoko uphando lubonakalisa, ubukhulu beentlobano zesini ngexesha lobudala, umsebenzi kunye nokwaneliseka ngokwesondo akunakho ukuba nempembelelo enhle kwiimeko zempilo. Nangona kunjalo, bobabini nabasetyhini baqhubeka nobudlelwane bazo ngokwesondo kwaye bahlala bexhatshazwa ngesondo, nangona ukuba ngenxa yokugula, ezinye izithintelo zabonakala zingenakwenzeka. Oku kwimeko apho amaqabane asebenzayo ngokwesini nangaphambi kwesi sifo.