Abafilosofi, izazi zeengqondo kunye neengqondo ze-psychotherapists zihlala zizibuza ukuba kungani inkolelo yobuhlobo phakathi kwemigaqo yindoda neyesetyhini isasiyinyani, kunokuba yinyani. Ngamanye amaxesha thina asikwazi ukuqonda ukuba yeyiphi imeko esifuna ukuyibona umhlobo wowesifazane okanye umntu ozayo kuthi. Emva koko simbamba ebhentshini kwaye simbiza ngokuba ngumhlobo ongcono kakhulu, ngoko-ke ngokuthanda kwethu silungiselela ubusuku obunakulibaleka bokuthandana, okwangoku, akumthinteli ukuba adluliselwe kummandla.
Ukongezelela - ubuhlobo kunye nokuphela kwesondo kuneempiti ezininzi. Ingozi kukuba thina ngokwethu asikwazi ukuhlola iimfuno zethu kunye neengcamango. Oko sikuthatha ngamanye amaxesha njengobungane kunokusenza sibe nomnqweno wokwakheka kwengqondo ngokugqithisileyo. Ngoko akulula ukwenza umgca phakathi kobuhlobo bokwenene, ukukhwabanisa ngokwesondo kunye nolwalamano oluthandana. Nangona wena ngokwakho uqinisekile ukuba kukho ubuhlobo phakathi kwendoda kunye nomfazi, ngoko awukwazi ukuhlala uqiniseka ukuba lo "mhlobo" wesini esahlukileyo ucinga ntoni. Ngoko, ukuba "abahlobo" banengozi enkulu "ukupakisha" ubuhlobo bakho bukhona.
Ukuba utshatile okanye uya kusemthethweni ubuhlobo bakho kwixesha elizayo, ubukho bomhlobo okanye intombi buza kubandakanya, ngokufanelekileyo, ukungabikho kokuqonda, kwaye kungabangela umona kwi-satelites yakho yezomthetho okanye yexesha elizayo. Ngoko ke, ukuba ugqiba ukushiya umngane okanye intombi xa uhlala emtshatweni wakho, nceda uqinisekise ukuba akukho ngqalelo ehlawulwayo kumhlobo okanye intombi yakho kunomlingane wakho osemthethweni.
Khusela kwinto yokuba ubuhlobo abuzange bube nobuhlobo obusondeleyo, kunzima kakhulu, kwaye kwabaninzi akunangqondo nhlobo. Kwaye ukuba wena okanye wakho umhlobo unomuva wokuthi ubuhlobo buye buba nobuhlobo obusondeleyo, kwaye akukho mva yokuba ngumyeni nomfazi, ngoko wena okanye wakho umhlobo uya kutshabalalisa kwiimeko ezinamandla. Ngoko ke, kufuneka ucinge ngokucace ngaphambi kokuba wenze izihlobo zesini esahlukileyo. Hayi, oku akuthethi ukuba abanako ukuqaliswa, nje ukuxazulula le ngxaki kubalulekile ukuba uthathe isabelo sokungabi nalutho.
Ngoko, ubuhlobo phakathi kwendoda nomfazi mhlawumbi luhlobo olungaqhelekanga lolwalamano olunokuthi lukho nje nje ngokuba abantu bathandana, badinga omnye nomnye okanye badinga inkxaso. Kodwa ukuba imeko iphakamileyo okanye imeko ikhula ngendlela enokuba akukho nto yokwenza ubuhlobo bothando okanye uthando phakathi kwelinye lazo. Kwixesha elizayo, njengomthetho, kuvela ukuba omnye wayengenalo ithemba kwaye akafumani ukungavumi ukuvunyelwa kwendima "yomhlobo."
Kodwa ungesabi ubuhlobo. Ebusweni yonke into eyenzekayo: kwaye nganye kwibini isiphetho sinomntu kwaye ayiyi kuphinda iphindwe. Kubalulekile ukuxabisa ubuhlobo bakho, nangaluphi na uhlobo olubonakalayo. Musa ukwesaba ngesondo, njengesigaba sokugqibela sobudlelwano bobuhlobo, mhlawumbi oku kukuqala kobudlelwane obutsha-umtshato. Khumbula ukuba sakha ikusasa lethu ngeengcamango nezenzo zethu. Ngoko makhe sifunde ukudala i-destiny yakho, kwaye singayichitheli.