Ukukhulelwa kusoloko kulindeleke into entsha. Ndandingenamntwana - ndiza kuba ngumama, ndibe ngumama wentombazana - okanye ndiza kuba ngumama wenkwenkwana (okanye amantombazana amabini okanye i-heroine yomama) ... naluphi na ulwazi olusoloko lubangela ukuxhalaba: emva koko, awukwazi ukuba nento yonke into elindele ukuba "ngaphaya kobuso" iya kuphelela ngokupheleleyo, kwaye uya kuhlangabezana nayo. Uninzi lwamaxesha amaninzi, ukwesaba kugxininise kwimibandela efanayo yemvelo. Kwaye abaninzi babo sele befumene iimpendulo.
Ndiloyiko lokuba umntwana wam ukhula ngendlela engafanelekanga
Ukhulelwe kuphela kwiiveki ezimbalwa, kodwa sele uvalelekile kwi "signal signs" ezivela emzimbeni wakho. Kancincile isisu - kwaye wena umqhubi wenyuka uze ukhangele isizathu kwiiforamu zamaMama. Omnye uphakamise kwiimitha ezimbalwa - kwaye ulapha sele uvumelene ne-thermometer bayazibuza ngomngcipheko weqanda, ngenxa yokuba kwi-trimester yokuqala kufuneka uqaphele. Yaye yonke ixesha ulinde ngokukhawuleza, xa umqhubi uya kukugubha ngenjabulo okanye ubambelele kwisithende-engayinikiyo yonke into?
Indlela yokujamelana nayo?
Ungayihoxisi ikhalenda efunekayo yophando. Oomama abaninzi bavuma ukuba emva koo-UZ bokuqala kunye nokwesaba kwabo impilo yeemvuthu zancincile.
Ungagxininisa kwimpatho yonyango yokukhulelwa. Akukho nto iphosakeleyo ngokubeka iliso ukuzuza ubunzima, ukuvavanya nokulungisa iingxaki ngexesha elifanelekileyo. Yile ndlela abantu bonke abanezempilo abaphila ngayo kumazwe aphucukileyo. Khumbula ukuba ukukhulelwa akusiyo isifo, kodwa imeko yendalo yonke yowesifazane.
Ukuba unakho ukukrokra, qhubeka ukhumbule ukuba amathuba okufumana i-pathology, kwaye uphuhliso olulandelayo alufani. Kwaye naluphi na ukuphambuka kwimiqathango yokuphuhliswa akukabikho ukuxilongwa.
Ndiyesaba ukuba ndinganyamezeli umntwana
Enyanisweni, umntwana ophilileyo uyagcinwa esibelethweni kakhulu, aze amcele apho ngaphambi kokuba kube lula! Ukongezelela, uninzi lwazo zonke izithandane, ngokulandelelanisa, zenzeke xa ibhinqa kwaye ingasolanga ngokukhulelwa kwayo - konke okwenzekayo kubonwa njengesiqhelo. Oku kubangelwa ukuba inqanda ekhulelweyo ixhatshazwa xa i "hamba" kwiindawo zokuhlala ezinqabileyo kwaye ingazange zenzeke ngokwayo kwisibeleko. Ngokukhulelwa okukhulayo, lo mngcipheko uncitshiswa kakhulu.
Indlela yokujamelana nayo?
Ixesha leengozi eyongeziweyo yimizi yokuqala yokuqala, xa iinqununu zeendawo zonke ezizayo kunye neenkqubo zentsana zenziwa. Ngeli xesha, khusela ngokucophelela kwimiphumo yendalo - zonke iindidi zegciwane, i-nicotine kunye notywala, i-radiation, ukubonakaliswa kwelanga ixesha elide, i-vibromassage.
Iiveki ezi-2 ii-24 kunye neeveki ezingama-28-29 zibaluleke kakhulu kubasetyhini abanomxholo ophezulu we-hormone yesini (ngokukodwa ukuba "yabuya" inkwenkwe). Ukuba ungomnye wabo, ngokwemiqathango yeziphumo, unokumisela amalungiselelo akhethekileyo ukugcina izinga lamahomoni amabhinqa.
Nangona yonke imeko yemvelo yakho, usenokunciphisa umsebenzi wakho. Ukuphumla okungakumbi, ukuyeka ukuzikhandla ngokweqile, ukulibala ixesha elithile ngezemidlalo ezigqithiseleyo, ufikelele kwimpilo yabasetyhini abakhulelweyo.
Ndiloyika ukuba andiyi kuzinyamezela intlungu yokuzalwa
Ukuba kukho nawuphi na i-movie umlingisi oyintloko ufuna ukuzala, uya kukhwaza kwaye afune i-anesthesia engxamisekileyo. Emva kokubukela imifanekiso enjalo, kunye nokuphulaphula amabali endodakazi yentombi esandula kutshatyalaliswa ("Ukuba ndiyazi ukuba kuya kuba njalo, akavumelani nayo!"), Uqala ukulinda ukhathazekile ngokuqala kwenkqubo. Kwaye sinethemba elithemba ukuba unokukwazi ukudibana kunye.
Indlela yokujamelana nayo?
Kuphela i-20-30% yentlungu abafazi abasesebenza ngabanye bavakalelwa kukuba zilungelelaniswa izicathulo zomzimba. Bonke abanye-umphumo woxinzelelo lwengqondo, ukulindela nokwesaba kokubeletha, ukwesaba ukuzala. Abasetyhini abanemeko, bezalela ngokuqinisekileyo, baya kukuxelela ukuba intlungu yayinyamezeleke okanye kwakungekho nhlobo. Unamandla ngakumbi ukwesaba, ulobu buhlungu intlungu: emva koko, i-horrenone yokuxinwa kwe-adrenaline ikhutshelwe kwigazi. Ngenxa yoko, izihlunu, iinqanawa, kunye neentsholongwane ze-uterus zinyanzeliswa - konke oku kungumthombo oyintloko wentlungu.
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Ngokudakisayo, kukuxhalabisa kwindoda ekhulelwe eyenza ukuba ilungiselele utshintsho olulindele kuye, kwaye lube ngumama.
Ubuhlungu ekubelethweni buhluke kakhulu kumntu obona kwizifo, ukulimala, ukuvuna. Intlungu yentsapho ayikho intshaba, kodwa uncedisayo ozisa intlanganiso ekulinde ixesha elide nomntwana osondeleyo. Zibeke phambi kokuzalwa, ukuba uya kuhlangabezana nale ntlungu, kwaye ke, ngokukratshi, kuya kuba buthathaka.
Funda iindlela ezininzi ze-anesthesia ekuzalweni: ukuxilwa, iindlela zokuphefumula, kubonakala. Musa ukuzithemba kwi-universality of one of them. Umhlobo wakho wayenokuba nobunzima bokhokho ngenkathi elele ecaleni, kwaye wena, ngokuchaseneyo, unokukhululeka xa uma okanye uhamba ngexesha lobudlelwane obukhulu.
Ukukhulelwa ngamanye amaxesha kuya kuba luhlobo lwe "test test", lubonisa konke ukwesaba kunye neengxaki ezithe zalala ngokulala ngowesifazane (ngendlela, kumfazi wayo) bonke ubomi bokuqala. Ukwesaba kokubeletha, ukwesaba kokuzala, akufanele uqhube ngaphakathi okanye ubenqamle kubo, njengezimpukane ezinomsindo. Yabelana ngeengxaki zakho kunye nodokotela, abahlobo abanolwazi. Musa ukufihla imeko yakho yokuxhalaba, kufuneka ufumane indlela yokuphuma - ungaphonsa amandla angasebenzi ngokuzivocavoca umzimba, ukudansa okanye imidwebo. Ukuba uvakalelwa kukuba uloyiso luhlala luhlangothini lwabo, qi niqiniseke ukuba ucele uncedo kwizengqondo zengqondo zomntu ngamnye. Baya kunceda ukuhlukanisa okusanhlamvu okusisiseko kwiimvakalelo kunye nokufundisa indlela yokuhlangabezana nayo. Emva koko, umama onoyolo uyisibambiso sempilo yomzimba kunye nempilo yengqumbo yakhe.
Ndiyesaba ukuba ubuhlobo obusenyongweni nomyeni wam aluyi kufana
Ejongene neveki zokuqala zokukhulelwa kunye nokukhathala, ukulala, isisongela, sele ungalindelanga ukubuyela kwimpilo yesini esisebenzayo kwiminyaka emihlanu ezayo. Kwaye ke "ukukhula kwakho okwesithathu" kuba ngumzimba wakho wokukhula - ukufumana indawo ekhululekile ngeveki kuba nzima ngakumbi. Ngeli xesha elinzima, indoda ethandekayo isoloko ihlala phezu kwendawo, kwaye uqala ukucinga ukuba oku kuya kuba njalo.
Indlela yokujamelana nayo?
Kwiinyanga zokuqala ezintathu zokukhulelwa, ukungabikho komnqweno wesondo kusemvelo. Unomxholo ophezulu wee-hormone zesinikazi, okuyimfuneko ukuze uhlale ukhulelwe. Kodwa inani lamahomoni eendoda (ukuvuselela okwenyama), ngokuchaseneyo, linciphisa. Akumangalisi ukuba ngeli xesha awufuni nto kwaye akukho mntu. Kwi-trimester yesithathu, iziphepho ze-hormone ziya kuphelisa, kwaye umnqweno wakho uya kubuya.
Uziva unqwenelekayo, nangona iindawo ze-pigment, ubabalo kunye nokufikelela kwimpumlo yesisu, akulula. Nangona bokuba abantu babecinga ukuba abafazi abakhulelweyo banesondo kakhulu, kunzima kakhulu ukuba udibanise nomzimba oguqula rhoqo. Yintoni onokulucebisa kulo mzekelo? Musa ukukhawulelana kwinto enye engapheliyo. Vumela ubuncinane enye ingubo egqabileyo kunye nesethi yeengubo zangaphantsi ezintle, ngakumbi ekubeni zonke izinto ezintle ungazigqoka kunye nexesha elithile emva kokubeleka.
Nangona iinqonwabo zesondo azikukhuthazi nonke, kukho izinto eziza kukukhulula imizuzu emnandi. Umzekelo, ukumbamba, ukumanga, ukuhlambalaza okanye ukululaza nje. Yonke le nto izakuvumela ukuba ungalahleki kwiinyanga ezilisithoba kwiimeko zesimo sakho kwaye ubuyele ngokukhawuleza kwifomu emva kokubeleka.
Ndiloyiko lokuba andinakukwazi ukuncelisa umntwana wam
Ubisi lwesibindi yinto ebaluleke kakhulu umama angayinika umntwana. Kodwa ngokukhawuleza le nto kanye ongeke ukwazi ukuyenza? Ngokukhawuleza, unamabele amancinci (amakhulu), "ingalo engafanelekanga", kungekhona ukuba ububele, uxinzelelo ...
Indlela yokujamelana nayo?
Ngokutsho kweengcali malunga nokuncelisa, ukulungelelanisa kwengqondo yakho ukuncelisa ixesha elide kunokwenzeka ukuba liyinxalenye ephambili yempumelelo yokuncelisa. Nantsi into ixhomekeke kwisimo sengqondo sakho. Ukuba uqinisekile ukuba uya kuba nobisi, kwaye uya kukwazi ukondla i-crumb njengoko kuya kufuneka, ngoko kuya kuba njalo.
О Ngaphambi kokuzalwa, ngokuqinisekileyo uya kufunda ezininzi iingcebiso kunye neengcebiso malunga nokuncelisa. Kodwa enye into ukuyazi imigaqo ye-massage yebele, ukupompa okanye ukubeka umntwana kwisifuba, kunye nomnye ukuwusebenzisa ngokusebenza. Qiniseka ukuba ubuze umongikazi esibhedlele okanye ummelwane onolwazi kwiwadi ukuba akubonise bonke obu bulumko bulula ubuncinane kanye.
Ukuba uceba ukubuyela emsebenzini emva kokuzalwa, okanye iimbumba zakho "aziyiyo yonkcenkceshelayo" (ziyi-flat-shaped), iimpomps ezikhethekileyo zesifuba, iimbumba zeembumba kunye neengxube zesifuba zokuqokelela ubisi ziya kukunceda.
Ndiyesaba ukuba andinakuyithandana nomntwana ngendlela ayenayo, kwaye ube ngumama omuhle kuye
Ujonge iifoto kunye neengelosi ezithokozayo, uqala ukuphupha ukuba kungekudala uza kuba neqhosha elimangalisayo kunye nommangaliso wakho kungekudala ... kwaye ngokukhawuleza ukhumbule ukuba abantwana abancinane babememeza kwivenkile iintsuku ezimbalwa ezedlule. Kwaye kuyacaca kuwe ukuba abantwana ozithandayo akuzona zonke kwaye akunjalo. Ngokukhawuleza, kunye nomncinci wakho akayi kukwazi ukwenza "impembelelo efanelekileyo" kuwe, kwaye awukwazi ukumphatha ngothando lwesisu?
Indlela yokujamelana nayo?
Ubume abukho ngezelelo obonelelwe kwiinyanga ezilisithoba ngaphambi kokuzalwa komntwana. Ngeli xesha, ngaphandle kokunyanzelisa iziganeko, unethuba lokuzivumelanisa nexesha elitsha lobomi bakho, nokuba ngaba uziva ulungele ukuba ngumama. Ngelo xesha, akudingeki uzame ukucinga izinto. Ikamva lizayo, kwaye namhlanje kuyafuneka ukuba uphile namhlanje. Qiniseka, ngokuzalwa komntwana, ubuninzi ebomini bakho buya kutshintsha, kubandakanywa nesimo sengqondo kubantwana.
Abasetyhini abaninzi banamathele ekukhulelweni nasekuzalweni kangangokuthi baphantse babone ukuba yintoni, umntwana abaza kuzalwa naye. Ukuba ungomnye wabo, ungakhathazeki: isantya sokuphendula kwengqondo kunye nokutshintsha kwabo kuhluke kakhulu kumntu wonke. Emva kwexeshana kwiinkxalabo malunga nosana uya kuthatha kwaye uyithande.
Ngaphambi kokuzalwa komntwana, zenzele isigqibo: Andiyi kukhangela isizathu sazo zonke "o, kutheni?" Okanye "oh, kodwa oku kuqhelekileyo?". Ndiya kujonga nje, kwaye ndivuyiswe ngendlela ahlaba ngayo amehlo akhe, ukubeka ulwimi, ukukhangela, ukufuna isifuba. Yaye uzame ukuthelekisa kunye nabanye abantwana abangaphantsi kaninzi.
Uloyiko lwenzuzo!
Ukususela kumaxesha amandulo, abafazi abakhulelweyo baye bazama ukukhusela kwiimpawu ezintle, izinto ezibuhlungu, iingxaki, ukuba kunokwenzeka. Kodwa nantsi into ephazamisayo: uphando lwexesha elide lweengqondo zengqondo lubonisa ukuba uxinzelelo olude kunye nexesha elifutshane kwisibeleko sikamama luyimfuneko. Abo abo oomama ababegcinwe ngokugqithiseleyo nxamnye nantoni na, babengavumi ukubeletha kakuhle. Ukukhula, balahlekelwa ebomini ubunzima obuncinane ebomini, bejamelana nokuhlambalaza, ukucaphuka, ukuvavanya kakubi kwezenzo zabo ngabanye abantu, bebaninzi ngaphezu koontanga. Bachaza oku ngento yokuba xa umama efumana uxinzelelo, umzimba wakhe "ulwabelana" nomntwana ngengqondo yokuphila kwakhe kunye nembuyekezo. Ukufunda oku ngaphandle kwesibeleko sikamama kunzima kakhulu kunokuba ngaphakathi. Ngoko uloyiko kunye nokuvusa komama kunjengoko kuyimfuneko kumntwana njengento yokugonywa kumasisi. Ngamanani ambalwa, kunjalo!